<p>Daughter returned from first OV. Had no problem with writing a thank you to the coach for the experience, she was mortified when I suggested she send a thank-you (via email or facebook) to the student who hosted her. Said it would be “too wierd.” Any thoughts?</p>
<p>My daughter friend requested her host and will send her a thank you message via facebook. I suggested a handwritten note and she thought that was too weird!</p>
<p>I am in the process of making sure my son is sending out old-fashioned, handwritten notes to the coach and his interviewer (he is away at school, so it is harder to make him do it, but at least yesterday he went to the bookstore and purchased two cards). I hadn’t thought about the host yet; he got on so well with him and the rest of the team, I just assumed they would all eventually become fb friends.</p>
<p>I’m the mom of a host- I’ll ask what she would like recruits to do, but I’m going to bet she’ll think email/fb thanks is enough. I know what she really wants is for the top recruits to commit! Believe it or not, the host athletes feel very responsible for the results of the recruiting season. If your kid was treated well by their host, let the coach know this, even if your child chooses a different school.</p>
<p>at one ivy my d was hosted by a non-athlete, it didn’t workout. at the other schools she ov’d she was hosted by athletes who were also past teammates, that worked:)</p>
<p>she did not send thank yous to coaches, that was a mistake…and bad manners, my mistake too.</p>
<p>Was your daughter hosted by a non-athlete on an official visit?</p>
<p>My daughter has sent thank you emails to coaches after every OV, but I don’t think she has sent thank you emails to her hosts - perhaps she should have. They are all definitely Facebook friends now, so I guess I thought that was enough.
She has just had one admissions interview (required, and set up by the coaches during the OV). She did write that admissions officer both a thank you email, and a handwritten thank you letter.
One lesson we did learn was that she brought a small hostess gift on her first OV (probably cost around $25), and was told by the hosting athlete that she wasn’t allowed to accept any gifts.</p>
<p>pacheight: Surprised your daughter was hosted by a non-athlete and not a team member - that must have felt rather awkward?</p>
<p>My D e-mailed thank you’s to the coaches, and e-mailed or facebooked the hostesses. Handwritten cards from kid to kid would have felt weird to her too, I’m sure. I had to throw a fit to get her to handwrite them after her 18th birthday party and was probably only successful because she also had to write to several adults via snail mail. In her defense, she’s been to quite a few parties where she gave a gift and almost never got a thank you note. The general lack of civility as per our standards makes politeness seem strange to them.</p>
<p>My son received monetary gifts to assist with travel to a foreign country. I remember having to sit by his side (for hours!) while he moaned and groaned his way through handrwitten thank-you notes.</p>
<p>Kelyme
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<p>My daughter also thinks the emails are sufficient. I would have insisted on a nice handwritten note except that so far she doesn’t have her heart set on either of the two she’s visited. But she has also ‘friended’ her hosts (or vice versa) and I guess that’s how she has thanked them.</p>
<p>DD just finished her 2nd weekend as host. She said she didn’t expect anything from recruit, but was happy to get a friend request and a thank you post on FB. I think the formal thank is only necessary for the coach and any faculty/administrators who was helpful during the visit.</p>