Pacing the floor - it's as bad this time...

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<p>…as the last 2…maybe worse.</p>

<p>I need to blow off a bit of anxiety here, please bear with me (I’ve gone ‘easy’ on my friends this time).</p>

<p>Ok, so I have one child. D. 2 years ago she did the college applying, and as expected we went nuts waiting for responses. Things went well. Off she went to her first choice school, which turned out not to be for her. </p>

<p>Last year, out went the transfer applications, and as expected we went nuts waiting for responses. Things went well. Off she went to her first choice school (again).</p>

<p>Now this new school (literally The New School) has been an amazing fit for D, and all along she wanted to enroll in their dual degree program with Parsons (BA/BFA). It’s a 5 year program, so it adds a year to her undergrad education (not a problem). As she put together her transfer application, it was recommended by her transfer adviser (there) that she apply for one or the other program of interest and then once ‘in’ apply for the second part of the program (he said it was less difficult than transferring to the dual degree). </p>

<p>So this year she’s done all the application requirements (again), essays, recommendations, portfolio, etc. (she was already in the liberal arts BA portion), with hopes of getting into the BFA portion.</p>

<p>And here we sit, going nuts waiting for responses. This aspect never gets easier. The silly thing is that neither of us can recall (at all) when she heard from them about her transfer last year, and this application is handled like a transfer too. </p>

<p>We would love to have results by the end of this week as we’ll be together and would certainly love some time to celebrate/commiserate. </p>

<p>Ok, that’s all, steam blown. Now I can stop procrastinating and take care of the other things that need to be dealt with today.</p>

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<p>Okay, I’m with you in spirit, justaMom. Been through the DejaVuAllOverAgain application dance myself, since DS had to transfer after Katrina. Somehow, it doesn’t get easier. </p>

<p>Hope it’s not a long wait. I recall that several schools give transfer answers way before now, some around now and some as late as late May even into June. Here’s hoping you’re not dealing with any of those. You can possibly go to their website and see what their transfer decision calendar is.</p>

<p>Carry on with today’s chores ;).</p>

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<p>Wait—she’s transferring for a third time? Holy Mackerel, no wonder you’re on pins and needles!</p>

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<p>I believe it’s an internal " transfer", poetsheart. She is staying at the new school, but needs to apply for acceptance into the special BFA program. It’s not a transfer, it’s just handled on the same schedule and via a transfer-type application.</p>

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<p>Thanks for clearing that up for me jmmom.</p>

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<p>Yeah, yeah, an “internal” transfer only. Thank goodness. </p>

<p>I’d already told her last year that if this New School didn’t “fit” she was to do whatever she needed to do, EXCEPT tell me! But I was aware of this part (well, not the pins and needles part).</p>

<p>My kid is the least fickle person I know, and never quit anything in her life (‘but I’m commmmiiiitttteeedddd’). Ever. </p>

<p>I will go look online and see if there’s any calendar regarding transfer decisions. I looked in my checkbook and May 25th (2007) was the date of the check I wrote to hold her spot last year, so maybe it was around this same period of time.</p>

<p>Thanks all.</p>

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<p>Here’s hoping for a good result. I don’t think the waiting ever gets easier with experience.</p>

<p>Unfortunately, the angst cames back all over again when they apply to grad school. I will say that the grad school process seems less all-consuming, probably because D is several states away! But I still helped her with some of the “secretarial” components…ordering transcripts, etc.</p>

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<p>I FINALLY convinced my D that she has the “right” to go to the admissions office and ask what her status is (school was over for her a week ago!). Hesitantly she went in and was told ‘we have nothing on file for you’ and given the e-mail address of the dean of the dual-degree program. </p>

<p>She told me she wasn’t going to write; said she didn’t care (said while choked up, I might add). She was frustrated, but with the semester off her back, and a summer of simply working and ‘chilling’ in her sights, she had no impetus to push for answers. I, however, had no ‘chilling’ in my sights, so pushed her telling her that “I” wanted to know. She said ‘no’ and left it at that. D##M!</p>

<p>This morning I got an e-mail from her titled “I had no idea”…</p>

<p>Hello Student,
The deadline for internal transfer students was yesterday, May 15th. We will be reviewing your application within the next few weeks and a response
will be sent to your official mailing address. Thank you for checking-in on your status. Sincerely,</p>

<p>…so, I guess she did ‘care’ and did write. Now she’s ticked that she didn’t know that she had an additional 4 months to work on the portfolio material (I saw the paperwork, nowhere did it say May 15 for internal transfers). </p>

<p>I’ve chosen to stop pacing. What will be, will be. Just thought I’d close up another small gap in this story.</p>

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<p>Yeah, we’re going through the transfer thing this year so it’s two years in a row of waiting. Not good, and the school he wants to transfer to has no real timeline for notification, but it probably won’t be until sometime in June. I’d found that pacing is far less enjoyable than a good glass of wine, though.</p>

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<p>No, keep pacing, you’ll be in great shape to jump up and down and celebrate … with a glass of good wine.</p>

<p>We’ll x the fingers for your DD</p>

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<p>I feel for you!! We had the transfer drama here this year … after all the “will I get in?” drama last year. D is transferring to a school she turned down last year, and she was doubly upset (since she “could” have gone & might not get in this time around). When acceptances started going out, she didn’t get anything. Then a friend who applied for transfer to the same school got an acceptance. I spent HOURS and HOURS on the phone with D, basically listening to her hysterics. The only advice I could offer was to contact admissions & ask what was going on. She didn’t want to do that (I suspect because she was terrified of hearing a “no”). Finally, though, she actually did decide to take my advice & she emailed the associate director. Next thing you know, she had her answer: her high school final transcript never arrived & while they had evaluated her app using her info on file from midyear last year, they couldn’t release her decision until they had the final transcript. D emailed her high school that night & called them right after her 8 a.m. class was over. They had already faxed her transcript. She received her FedEx’d acceptance on Monday. She even told me “thanks” for telling her she needed to contact admissions. :)</p>

<p>Here’s hoping for good news for you soon!</p>

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<p>wow! college admissions THREE TIMES for one person–that’s more than anyone can handle!</p>

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<p>Gonna dust this off, finish the story and put it to bed (finally)…My D’s been waiting since February to find out if she was accepted into Parson’s for the second portion of a dual degree program at her school (she would get a dual-degree, and be in a five year program, graduating in 2011 rather than 2010).</p>

<p>Anyway this was the whole reason she transfered to NY and this school was to try and get into Parson’s School of Design. Yesterday she received a call from the dean at Parson’s, congratulating her, she’s been accepted!</p>

<p>After getting excited with her I had a quiet conversation with her about accepting (I want her to go, she’s worried about the extra cost). I told her to do it. </p>

<p>If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it.</p>

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<p>Huge congratulations to your D! And to you, for giving her such good support. And thanks for giving us the end of story, too.</p>

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<p>Congratulations! And, she will love the program. From the people I know who went through it, it is really wonderful. You should come visit her in NYC?! It’s a great city and Parson’s/New School are really terrific! Thanks for the follow-up</p>

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<p>HarrietMWelsch, thanks for the “atta-boy” it has been a long 5 months!</p>

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<p>franglish, thanks for your message. She’s been at Eugene Lang a year now, and really loves it, Parson’s is hot fudge on her already delicious ice cream! I’ll share your note with her.</p>