I was in exactly your shoes 30 years ago. I had to pass on acceptances to Hopkins and Duke as neither offered me financial aid. I attended a mid-tier local LAC that offered me substantial scholarship money and I lived at home and worked 30 hours a week. I was fairly pissed off and am still pretty bitter but did end up getting a decent education and successful career. I’m putting my energy into making sure my three kids can go to any college they can get in to. The system sucks; I’m sorry your parent is so selfish. Don’t let it define you though; just be sure you don’t become that parent later on!