Parent takeaways from D26's experience

I thought that I would post some “parent takeaways” based on observing and assisting in D26’s college admissions experience.

As background, D26 applied to 33 schools and was admitted to 18. She was in the top 10% of her high school class (this is estimated–her school does not rank) with strong but not elite ECs. She had very good test scores, but mostly applied test optional.

Admissions were Richmond (attending), Wellesley, Haverford, Vassar (legacy), Carleton, Bates, Holy Cross, Wake Forest, Mount Holyoke, Furman, Baylor, Gonzaga, Trinity U., Utah, Rhodes, St. Olaf, Denison and Bucknell.

Waitlists were Villanova, UC Davis, Cal Poly, Bowdoin, Case Western, Colby, and Washington & Lee.

Rejections were Notre Dame, Vanderbilt, Cal Poly SLO, Emory, Swarthmore, Williams, Rice, and Middlebury.

Some observations:

  1. College visits are important for demonstrating interest. D26 had a 60% admit rate at schools where she visited vs 42.9% at schools that she did not visit. By accident, reaches, targets and safeties were equally distributed among visited schools and unvisited schools. Also, many schools that claim in their CDS that they do not care about demonstrated interest actually DO care about it. If they offer you, they WANT to yield you.

1A) College visits were the single best way that we had to learn about schools. Some of the schools D26 thought would be her favorites…….she hated and did not even apply to after visiting. Some schools that she visited as an afterthought……she loved. Visiting schools was the single best thing that we did. D26 visited 30+ schools.

1B) We realize that some people do not have the time or money to visit this many schools. In this case, attending webinars is very helpful to learn about schools and to demonstrate interest. But (again) our experience was that schools REALLY ARE more likely to admit you if you visit–especially if you travel a long way to visit.

  1. D26 applied to too many schools. Here, I will talk out of both sides of my mouth. Once your student has applied to 20 or so schools, they will have an arsenal of essays that make it very easy to apply to 30 or even 40 schools with minimal incremental effort. HOWEVER, your student has to ask themselves if they would REALISITICALLY attend some of the schools that they are applying to. In our case, many of her applications were “throw aways.” D26 could have achieved the same effects with 15 applications.

  2. Be prepared for your student’s preferences to change wildly over time. D26 initially wanted to go to an all-women’s LAC. But with visits, life experiences, ongoing learning, and the influence of friends……her interests shifted dramatically over time. By the time admissions season started……D26 had all but ruled out women’s colleges and the schools that were interesting to her were getting bigger and bigger. This evolution helps explains how she wound up putting out 33 college applications.

  3. Interviews were interesting. Our final conclusion is that interviews are generally NOT evaluative for most schools. They are really assessing demonstrated interest and making sure that your application is factually correct. D26 had interviews that she thought she did really poorly on (she argued with an AO from Wake Forest about a movie–the AO was dead wrong and D26 was right but their debate got heated) and she still got admitted. D26 did not interview with one school (they only gave her a 2 day window to interview and she was busy playing volleyball) and she was promptly rejected. This was her only rejection when invited to interview. In interviews, D26 always could tell the schools specifically why she was interested in them and she could speak clearly about all of the things in her application. She did notice some probing questions that seemed to test whether or not she really did some of the things in her application. But if you tell the truth in your applications, you have nothing to worry about. If you lie or are a chronic exaggerator…..beware.

  4. Schools are increasingly using the waitlist as a yield management tool. D26 was waitlisted at 9 schools. 3 of these schools came back to her within a week of waitlisting her and posed the question “would you attend if we made you an offer?” But these WERE NOT official offers. D26 said “no” to this question all 3 times that she was asked and never received official offers.

  5. Your student will be pressured by friends, teachers, family members, counselors, and others to make certain college decisions. You must constantly remind your student to make their OWN decision to the greatest extent possible (assuming that they ARE allowed to make their own decision–I understand that this is not always the case). Your student has to live with their decisions and the advice-givers do not. In our case, D26 was pressured by people who wanted her to attend either Wellesley or Vassar. I am proud of her for standing her ground and making her own choice.

  6. You can use your geography to your advantage. D26 was a CA student mostly applying to Eastern schools. She had a much easier time than equally qualified CA classmates who applied only to Western schools. Schools are trying to build diverse classes and they value kids who are different from the norm. Claremont McKenna would probably prefer a kid from Maine over a similar kid from CA and Bowdoin would probably prefer a kid from CA over a similar kid from New England.

  7. Maia Learning and Scoir are your friends. If you want to find out how you will fare in the college admissions sweepstakes, you can generally look at how colleges treat your high school (and applicants similar to you) in Maia Learning and Scoir. Every time D26 applied to a school, I looked at Maia Learning and made my own prediction. I correctly guessed the final outcome 80% of the time.

  8. If you apply pre-med to a larger U (like D26 did), do some work to figure out the admit rate for your specific major. In our experience, applying to the Biology Program at both Cal Poly SLO and UC Davis was a terrible idea as admit rates in Biology are FAR, FAR lower than the general admit rates at the schools. In many cases, you may still be able to pursue certain career goals WITHOUT applying to highly competitive majors.

  9. This is perhaps controversial. Many schools say that they don’t care if you apply with the Common App vs the Coalition App. Our experience was that admissions were harder to come by when D26 used the Coalition App. I wanted D26 to use 2 different Common App accounts, but her HS counselor would not let her do this. D26 had about a 55% admit rate for Common App applications vs a 40% admit rate for Coalition Applications and that is with Coalition Applications having more safeties/targets vs reaches.

  10. We are an affluent family and I believe that being full pay helped D26 in a big way. While need blind schools are not looking at your Financial Aid docs…….your application is full of information (zip code, parent’s occupation, etc..) that tell them exactly where you are coming from socioeconomically. And I think that it matters unless we are talking about the richest of the rich colleges. I could be wrong, but I believe that this helped us because some of my daughter’s less wealthy peers who had similar stats struggled significantly more than D26 did. YMMV.

  11. The Common Data Set is also your friend. It is FULL of useful info. My favorite thing to do was to look at the Out of State Admit rate (we were almost always out of state) for each school D26 applied to. Did you know, for example, that Carleton College admits 36.6% of out of state students? Who would have guessed? This is just one example of the CDS allowing you to use numbers to “go a little deeper” in understanding the admissions dynamics of a school vs just looking at high-level USNWR data.

As with all things…..YMMV. Good luck class of 2027!

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These are valuable observations, and nearly all of them agree fully with what we experienced. for example:

Our results seem to suggest the same thing. I also agree that visits were valuable for learning about schools. For example we similarly had several experiences of our D visiting a school and deciding not to apply. If she had applied, in most cases she would have gotten in, we would have visited, and then she would have decided not to go there. Thus we really did not waste the visit (which would have happened anyway) but rather saved the application effort and expense. Visits are also very important in terms of the eventual task of figuring out which university to attend.

Regarding too many schools, to me 33 schools to apply to is a LOT. One acquaintance of a daughter applied to this many schools because she was very unsure about where she could get accepted (in the acquaintance’s case 1 1/2 bad years of high school, followed by 2 1/2 very good years of high school), but like your daughter got a lot of acceptances and then had to think hard about where to go.

I also agree about the student’s preferences changing over time. This is a good thing, since it implies that they are learning from their visits and applications and thinking about what sort of school would be the best fit for them.

Maybe the most important point is your point #6. Your student did not accept the offer from the highest ranked school that she got into. This suggests that she thought about what she wants in a school, and if I got this right is about to attend a school that she feels is a better fit for her. This is exactly the right thing to do. Congratulations to your daughter!!!

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Your daughter applied to 33 schools and visited more than 30? Back in the day (my kids are now in their 30’s) we used visits to get the number of applications DOWN. Oldest applied to 4, next kid applied to 6 (because conservatories and colleges were both included; 2 colleges) and the youngest applied to 2. Quaint!

What was the purpose of applying to so many? Did she feel this increased her chances somehow? Or did she want to wait to pare it down after acceptances? Clearly financial aid was not a factor. Some apply to a lot to compare packages.

How did your daughter decide? How many did she revisit? All 18?

I can’t imagine the chaos in admissions these days.

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OP, you are right although this has always been the case. It is enrollment management, not yield management when it gets to pulling from the WL, and many smaller, mostly residential schools plan to 'finish" their class this way to avoid over-enrollment.

Schools use the WL to fill empty seats. When they hit the point that they need to use it, it is a bit later in the process, and it is to get matriculants.

MANY students automatically accept a place on the WL when they get that decision, and as things play out, they do not remove themselves even when the have acceptances at schools they prefer. (And to be fair to applicants, the kid hoping to go to Harvard may not make Williams their first choice until they have been rejected by Harvard, which may have released decisions earlier. Or they don’t remove themselves from the WL when they are admittedby Harvard. ) So it DOES make sense for schools to go back to waitlisted students a bit later to see where everyone stands. And it doesn’t make sense for them to extend offers to students who won’t say yes immediately if they have plenty who will.

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This was really interesting and I think you are right that being full pay helped, I see people downplaying this all the time, but I think it makes more of a difference than anyone wants to admit.

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Extremely helpful write up, and I think all your takeaways are well-founded (except I have no independent information at all on #10, but I have no reason to doubt that either, I just don’t know).

I also agree the big picture result is she had a multiple great offers and was able to choose the offer she found most exciting for her own personal reasons. That to me is what every single kid, and parent on their behalf, should be hoping to achieve.

And yes, 18 offers (I think I got that right) and 7 more waitlists is way, way more than anyone actually needs. I know the reasons why kids talk themselves into “shotgunning”, but this is inevitably the obvious conclusion after the fact–I didn’t need to do all that to actually get the offers they seriously considered.

But hey, overkill isn’t the worst outcome, not even close. So while hopefully some kids/parents see this and it helps them understand why shotgunning is generally not advisable, the more critical point is just to make sure to have the colleges on your list that might well end up producing the offer you actually take.

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A few reasons:

  1. She applied to so many schools because it was easy. After completing 20 applications……she pretty much had an essay for nearly every purpose. Some schools took her just an hour of re-purposing essays and then the application was sent. We were mostly out application fees. The good news is that she mostly applied to LACs and many LACs have a zero dollar application fee or waivers if you visited.

  2. As time went on……her preferences changed as she learned more. Some of the schools she applied to early (like women’s colleges) fell out of favor while the colleges actually had her application. She also started to favor larger schools at the last minute, which drove another round of applications.

  3. I am writing this with 20/20 hindsight. D26 did not know that she would get 18 acceptances. So she shotgunned.

To be clear, my advice for the Class of 2027 is not to do what D26 did.

In the end, she got her 18 acceptances and cut that to a final 3. We did the admitted student days for her final 3 (Wellesley, Richmond and Holy Cross), so we revisited them and a final decision was made.

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Strongly agree. In a few cases, we did not submit financial aid applications because we knew that we would not get aid. We often got calls/emails from our AO (not financial aid) asking if we were going to apply for fin aid. I would (purposely) tell them our SAI as a reason for not applying for fin aid. The AOs always seemed to be delighted to hear this and an acceptance soon followed.

Interestingly, 2 of the 3 calls came from AOs at need blind schools. Schools vary a lot in terms of the strength of the firewall between admissions and fin aid.

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I note this is one of the “good” reasons to be on the high side for applications in my mind. Not necessarily 30, but say more like 12-15 than 6-10. There are different types of colleges, locations, and so on, each with their own Reaches, Targets, and Likelies. Considering multiple types may mean more of each.

And maybe your thinking evolves during the process. Maybe you just have some uncertainty which won’t be resolved until doing the final post-offer evaluations. But that’s all fine, as long as you have the time and energy to do the applications.

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My own parent takeaways from D26’s college application experience:

  • the approach to apply to a limited # of schools worked well.
  • This was because she was looking for a very specific type of major. Where she applied involved looking into the weeds of the graduation requirements for that major at each specific college. This method helped to eliminate several programs.
  • It also helped that D26 had very specific weather & geographical preferences.
  • visiting each college in person ahead of time wasn’t necessary.
  • She learned that some colleges were far easier to work with than others. A couple of the colleges couldn’t ever manage to find her high school transcript unless she was extremely diligent in following up. Even despite submitting proof from the HS counselor that it had been submitted, 1 college still insisted they hadn’t received it.
  • …this, then, led to that college going way lower on the priority list in the middle of the application process. D26’s thoughts on it at the time were, “if this is what it’s like to deal with them when I’m applying, how hard is it going to be to get regular stuff done when I’m attending there?”
  • 1 school would have been a really great fit in terms of major & campus vibe, but her SAT/ACT scores weren’t high enough to qualify for a scholarship that would have made it affordable. So that’s the one that got away. Everything happens for a reason, though, and she’ll be attending a great college this fall that we’re all really happy with and is considering ‘the one that got away’ maybe for grad school.
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These are all really good observations, but I disagree with one point – I don’t think that being from California helped your D at northeastern schools. At those schools, California is usually one of the most-represented states (along with NY and MA). Definitely not as much of an advantage as being from, say, Wyoming or North Dakota. In the Midwestern schools, though, it might have helped. I grew up in California and remember that very few people I knew applied to any school that wasn’t coastal (except maybe Michigan, Wisconsin, or Colorado). That was a long time ago, and I don’t know if snobbery about “flyover country” is still as pervasive, but California might have helped you at the Midwestern schools far more than at the New England colleges.

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I note in the maps I have seen, “National” colleges in “flyover” country often seem to get a disproportionate number of students from the states with large metros in their region (duh), and then fairly well balanced populations from the rest of the country–East Coast, West Coast, Texas, and so on. Carleton happens to have a linkable map, and it is pretty typical in my experience:

https://cdn.carleton.edu/uploads/sites/2/2025/10/Class-of-2029-Map.png

What this does NOT answer is whether that is purely reflecting application distributions, or some conscious effort by Admissions.

But like pretty much everyone, I am quite sure more of those 1s, 2s, or 3s would be 0s if not for conscious effort. Like the title for that image says that they have students from 44 states represented in the class of 2029, and I am dead sure they prefer 44 to 34. And probably would prefer 51 (they count DC) to 44, but they are a small school in Minnesota, so, 44 it is.

OK, so I think there is no reason for a college like this to fear it will lose, say, California off its list. Indeed, California was second to only Minnesota for total count.

But is there any conscious attempt at regional balancing? That I think is an interesting question, and I personally suspect there might be some. This is based on sort of reading between the lines on things I have heard about regional AOs, sometimes regional committees, and how the final overall admit pool in a given round might involve a bit of adjustment of marginal admit/defer/waitlist/reject provisional decisions.

Anyway, just some random musings. In the end, I would not exactly rely on this to get me into Carleton et al as a Californian or New Yorker or so on with insufficient qualifications. But, is it possible a Californian might have a bit better chance at otherwise peers outside of California? A New Yorker outside of the Northeast? Yeah, I think maybe, sometimes.

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Love all of your learnings and love the outcomes! I especially agree with your point 2 on preferences changing. My D26 was adamant AGAINST a women’s college when she began the search, but changed her mind later. And also your point 6 - the pressure is intense. Everyone has an opinion that they’re not afraid to voice!

On point 1, the college visits, we actually stopped visiting colleges because D26 had a somewhat opposite problem of finding something wrong with all the colleges she visited! She ended up ruling schools out before an application, which I think is both good and bad. Bad when it’s for a dumb reason like “It was too rainy, and my feet were cold and wet.”

On point 8, Naviance is the one thing I noticed at D26s school that did not help much in her search. She went to a fairly small, non-competitive school and was the first to apply to many colleges on her list. The scattergrams were all basically blank. So the high school matters a lot in that context. I wish we had the better data that a lot of students at other schools seem to have.

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So curious me…since women’s colleges fell out of favor, how did Wellesley make the final three?

And where did she finally choose to matriculate…if you don’t mind sharing!

I do agree…way too many applications. But it worked for your daughter.

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This may be strategic/depends where you are shooting, because C26 had a similarly unbalanced profile but ultimately only applied to 6 schools, most of which were (we thought) targets or hard targets. If you are aiming at reaches I can understand the need to apply to more schools. (We did admittedly have a moment of “what if” after 6 acceptances, but ultimately I don’t think C26 would have preferred any other “realistic reach” over where they have committed.)

I note the OP marked Richmond as attending.

I am curious about Wellesley too, although I wonder if it will have something to do with the notes in Point 6.

In fact, no one was really pressuring my S24, but we did visit Vassar post-offer, even though he hadn’t visited pre-offer. It was sort of his last look at doing any sort of college in the Northeast, and it ended up not even being a close contender with his actual final two (Carleton and WashU). And honestly, it was going to be WashU. He doesn’t love it when people say that, but pretty much everyone around him thought that. But he wanted a careful, thoughtful process to get there, which of course was fine with us.

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Thanks. I guess I missed that! Good luck to this student at Richmond!

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I also think people underestimate this at the tiers below Ivy+. I still don’t think it matters at that super-upper-tier selective schools and big state schools (unless you are talking about buying a building level / marked by major gift). However, at schools a tier down? I think it does impact things more than anyone wants to admit (pun intended).

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REALLY? That is so interesting. What sort of schools were these, if you don’t mind me asking (fine if you don’t want to share though). Was this part of sports recruiting or something?

We always said we weren’t applying for my 25 (and they applied to like 15 I think..), and nobody ever questioned it…maybe as they didn’t apply to super selective schools? I have a 27 too so am wondering …they are applying to more selective schools and want to be prepared - lol. They go to a $$ private school though, so maybe won’t question?

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Some of them are transparent about it. When we visited GWU with D19, at the admissions presentation, in discussing being need aware they said something like it’s not going to make a difference for the clear admits and the clear rejects, but if you’re in that in-between and they are considering a full pay vs not applicant, the full pay will definitely have an advantage.

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