<p>They seem to argue for every single little thing; they just don’t match. My mom’s more of a realistic person who has to basically take care of everything, and my dad is someone who is a bit psychotic if you ask me.</p>
<p>Although my mom is a Catholic and my dad converted to Catholicism after getting married, he was involved in this weird form of Christianity (not Protestant that’s for sure). He sleeps claiming to be praying, and he makes up his own prayers and once made the whole family memorize it and yelled when we got a single word wrong. He is convinced that my mom has been taken over by a ‘devil’, and it’s driving the whole family nuts.</p>
<p>He’s also convinced that his kids are not afraid of him and that the only reason we obey our mom is because she scares us, not because we love her. In fact, my dad’s the scary one.</p>
<p>What makes all this worse is that my mom is sick. Yet because my dad doesn’t want to work my mom has to do all the work. When eating he says he HAS to point out that he’s eating to live, not because what my mom made was good. He HAS to wear the best clothes when sleeping and worn out ones when going out JUST to annoy my mom. Everything he does annoys her, but frankly I don’t blame her.</p>
<p>And recently, my dad wants to open a meditation prayer school. He’s trying to use our parent’s education center as the place, and he’s making me make a very weird looking flier (a candle with a hand on top and cosmos flower on the back), and whenever I say I’m too busy he says it will earn the family milions of dollars someday, and that I’m a very bad evil girl. He says he already told my mom but I don’t think he did, considering that he’s mad whenever I mention it and says ‘do i have to get a permission from your mother?’. </p>
<p>What should I do? I’m just so sick and tired of their fights, but I’m afraid of my dad making our whole family AND the education center look psycho. Sometimes I wish they never got married- even if that means I wouldn’t have been born.</p>
<p>Has your dad been to a doctor lately? It sounds like he may be mentally ill. His behavior sounds very unstable. While there is nothing wrong with making up your own prayers, it’s quite strange to demand others memorize them and then yell at them when they get a word wrong. Have you spoken to your priest? He may be able to help or advise your mom where to seek professional help with dealing with your dad.</p>
<p>to other people, he’s always nice, normal, and quiet. that drives us even crazier. trying to get him professional help is out of the question. a traditional korean family like mine doesn’t do stuff like that and he’s really going to lose it.</p>
<p>“a traditional korean family like mine doesn’t do stuff like that”</p>
<p>Then the problem will not be solved.</p>
<p>Screw tradition and get the help that is necessary. Seeing that someone is ill is not an insult, nor is disrespectful. Recognize that and do what is right.</p>
<p>If your dad does not want to get help, try to get help for your mom. She is already sick, you say, so she needs medical care. She also needs counseling about how to cope. Is there some adult you can confide in?</p>
<p>Ummmm. I take this very seriously, as every else has stated…so far, it appears he is not violent, but when you mix mental instability, “religion”, anger, and him being able to control himslef when he chooses shows a much scarier situation…</p>
<p>If I were you, I would find an adult you trust and tell them everything…i don’t mean to sound alarmist, but this has the potential to explode</p>
<p>We hear people say, but he seemed like such a nice guy, when behind closed doors, chaos reigned.</p>
<p>Please, please, get help…how old are you, and are there younger children in the house, just because he hasn’t hit yet, doesn’t mean it is not close…it may never get there, but protect yourself…</p>
<p>my sister and i discussed this today. my maternal grandma had a fight with my dad today and seriously, he needs help. but he’ll think us crazy for thinking he’s crazy.</p>
<p>he doesn’t hit us (kids), only angry nudges or so. but it’s nothing serious. but when he’s fighting with my mom it gets as serious as picking up a chair. he doesn;t throw it though, because i always get in the middle of them and stop it.</p>
<p>i’m 14. there ARE youngeer kids in the house and my older sister had given up talking to him but today she was once again convinced that he does need some serious help.</p>
<p>How old is your sister? Can your grandmother be of help? Not in talking to him but in finding out ways to help your mother–her daughter. Maybe a lawyer, maybe a marriage counselor, maybe a psychiatrist? You say your mom is sick; does she require medical attention? Is she getting it? Could you leave your dad? After all, your mom seems to be the one earning money.
I’m sorry life is so tough!</p>
<p>What everyone has said above is true, I am sure it must be hard and I wish the best to your family in dealing with this. It does seem like he needs serious help.</p>
<p>Take this with a grain of salt, but I’ve known of people whose sole purpose in life seemed to be to irriate their wives. From the inside it’s not fun, but from the outside sometimes it’s hilarious.</p>
<p>we once made our dad attend this thing where dads go somewhere to learn how to be a ‘kind, caring dad’…he stood around for a few days but when they told him to do something nice to his wife for a homework, he refused to go and it broke my mom’s heart.</p>
<p>This is so sad, you are just a kid, and shouldn’t have to protect your mother…his nudges, well, hopefully they go no further, but if they do, get help and report him…</p>
<p>your mom can get help with no medical insurance, there are clinics, there’s medicare</p>
<p>what city are you in, you can PM me if you want, i can do some research for you…there may be some local people your mom can talk to</p>