<p>I know basic prom etiquette but cannot for the life of my figure out who should pay for the tickets in this situation. What do you think?</p>
<p>I’m a hs senior girl who is going to prom with one of my guy friends from theater. He’s a sophomore so he otherwise can’t go to prom. Neither one of us asked the other - one of our friends suggested we go together so we agreed.</p>
<p>Tickets are only $35 each so not ridiculously expensive like at some other schools. He doesn’t have a job, I sort of do but have just enough money saved up to pay for the cost of the two tickets.</p>
<p>I’m going to talk to him tomorrow about this but wanted input first.</p>
<p>Things were so much simpler when we rode our dinosaurs to prom!!!</p>
<p>Son is a senior. A girl asked him (a friend, not a girlfriend), he said yes. He’s certainly paying for his own ticket. Hers? </p>
<p>Dinner I think he should pay for. He’ll purchase a corsage. I haven’t heard about other expenses. He’s supposed to ask (ASAP!!!) if there’s some sort of group plan that he is unaware of…
Aargh…</p>
<p>Traditional southern mom trying to raise a gentleman in a brave new world…</p>
<p>Any tips on doing the correct thing(s)?</p>
<p>And to the OP… Wish I had an answer - with two kids “mutually” deciding to go together… maybe you should just discuss it and see what you both think.</p>
<p>I know many kids pay for their own ticket now. Two years ago, a boy asked our D1 to a prom and he paid for it. But her best friend and the boyfriend paid for their own ticket. My D2 asked a boy to a dance recently, I ended up paying for both tickets because I am in the camp of who ever does the asking pays.</p>
<p>I think if both people go to the same school and in the same grade, it is perfectly reasonable for them to pay for their own ticket. If it is your prom and you did the asking, then you should pay for both tickets.</p>
<p>i think that if it’s not a date, you should split the tickets… it sounds like he’s in your group of friends and so the whole group wants him to go-- in which case it is fair to ask him to pay his own ticket.</p>
<p>You asked him, so you buy the prom tickets.<br>
Try to find a way to cut the rest of the prom foolishnish - cook dinner together at someone’s house, find someone (friend or parent) to drive you back and forth so you don’t need a limo.
Have fun!!! We’re so glad you found a way to go to your prom and have a fun date!!!</p>
<p>Talk to him first before you decide! He might want to pay for his own ticket even if you offer to buy it for him.</p>
<p>Ugh, the guy I was dating senior year of HS bought my prom ticket for me even though I told him I was not comfortable having him spend that much money ($80) on me and would prefer to pay for it myself. He ignored me and bought my ticket anyway because, as he told me (I swear this is a direct quote), “I’m the man and it’s my responsibility to pay for things like this.” I did not enjoy prom… nor the remainder of that relationship… haha.</p>
<p>I’d talk it out, since you are friends. D was not in HS & invited to senior prom by a poker buddy. He is “traditional” and paid for both tickets (which included dinner), her flowers & the photos. She paid for his lei & the limo (shared with several other couples). It worked out for them.
When she attended her junior prom, she & a different boy in a different grade each bought their own ticket (including dinner) & flowers for one another. He may have paid for photos, but she paid for the limo (shared with several of her friends–couples). The important thing was for the kids to talk it out so there was no misunderstaning.</p>
<p>My d’s prom date had a work study job as a college freshmen. He worked for minimum wage or just over. The young man traveled four hours both directions to take my high school senior daughter to prom and rented a tuxedo at his expense. It was my pleasure to call the restaurant he took my daughter to and give them my credit card for their dinner. My daughter purchased the tickets, and as I reflect on my daughter’s prom, I am relieved to know the evening was not a financial burden for a young, hardworking but cash strapped college freshman and a wannabee princess for an evening. My story doesn’t relate much to the thread but I’m glad they have good memories of prom.</p>
<p>We paid for our D’s expenses, her date (or his family, we did not care) paid for his. I do not understand, I guess, what is a deal about who pay for what.</p>
<p>In our kids’ social circle, it’s generally the parents who are really footing the bill, as not many of the kids have jobs anyway. It seems whatever makes sense and is comfortable for the parties involved should be the guiding principle. It’s good for the kids to learn to discuss these matters so there aren’t misunderstandings and hard feelings. This is good practice so they can work out other financial issues when they head off to college & other settings.</p>