Parents, are you going to pay for grad school??

<p>Couple of issues: Last year of undergrad for D. Grades have not been up to par, nor has behavior (too much partying/not enough studying). If she doesn't pull things up a bit GPA-wise, she won't get much for scholarship offers for grad school. So my questions is, you parents who have kids in grad school/law school, did you pay, or did your student? How about living expenses, etc.? What are/were your expectations??</p>

<p>No we won't be paying for grad school and the kids are quite clear on our position. Grad schools are structured so people can work and go to grad school, many employers reimburse tuition or part of tuition....there is no reason for us to pay for our kids' grad school regardless of their undergraduate GPA.</p>

<p>I told my son from the beginning that we would cover undergraduate and he would be responsible for paying for graduate school. He applied to three reach schools and 1 safety (biomedical engineering). He was turned down at the reach schools and accepted to his safety but because he hadn't spent much time on his safety application he didn't receive any scholarship funding. He did find a professor that agreed to hire him as a research assistant so he will receive a salary and tuition assistance. We were all surprised at how competitive getting into grad school has become.</p>

<p>Family plan is a 4 year undergraduate plan. Grad school is the their responsibility.</p>

<p>^^^ ditto.</p>

<p>I am not a parent, but my parents' plan is somewhat along the lines of: pay full undergrad tuition and, when I decide to go to grad school, they pay at least partial tuition. Undergrad should not even require all of the funds allocated for it, so it is a natural plan.</p>

<p>We told our son that we would pay for instate, public undergrad and that if he came in under that amount, we'd put the difference away for grad school. He is going to an out-of-state, private university but with the merit aid our portion is quite a bit less than what we had budgeted. As promised, the difference is going to grad school. </p>

<p>There are a few restrictions based on gpa and the like. He's well aware of that and plans on squeezing every penny promised from us and if he keeps up his end, we'll be very happy to help pay for grad school.</p>

<p>We told our kids we would pay for undergrad only. The truth of the matter is that we will contribute as much as we can to grad school if that is the course they take.</p>

<p>We always said that we would pay for UG and our kids were responsible for grad. Our daughter got a full-ride for UG and as long as she keeps it, we will cover grad school within reason, it now depends on the economy and how my husband's business is doing in four years.</p>

<p>I was absolutely not planning on paying for grad school, but I think that will be a fluid decision. If we can pay without bruising us financially I assume we'll at least contibute.</p>

<p>Any grad school worth its beans should be offering teaching assistantships and fellowships to qualified applicants anyway.</p>

<p>OP- what's going to change in grad school? If a kid hasn't taken undergrad very seriously, why grad school? How about a few years out in the work force to settle down and mature before paying yet another set of tuition bills?</p>

<p>Even with fantastic grades and getting into a top grad school, tuition for that grad school is up to them. With less than good grades, I wouldn't even encourage it.</p>

<p>Both kids stayed in state for undergrad, knowing that would mean money available to put towards grad education. S will be applying to law school. We will be able to help him out for an instate school. Past that, he can apply up to a certain amount we've allocated to an OOS school. For D, we'll supplement her grad school stipend (she'll have great undergrad creds) so she won't have to solely live on that research or TA salary. If med school is her choice, same offer we've made for S ... help to a certain point.</p>

<p>zebes</p>

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Exactly the same message here.</p>

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<p>We had a similar deal with son. He could go to a $50,000 yr school for UG and we would pay for it but that was it. Or he could stay in-state and we pay $10,000 yr and we would pay for grad school, law school, medical school, whatever, within our means. Our expectation is he keeps his grades high enough that he qualifies for some level of merit aid/fellowship for grad school and is earning some of his own money by that point.</p>

<p>We do feel that having a graduate degree is very important in most career fields. Without it, you tend to hit the ceiling pretty quickly. Even if he had gone the $50,000 yr route, we would have tried to contribute to grad school to the best of our ability but we weren't making any promises.</p>

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Couple of issues: Last year of undergrad for D. Grades have not been up to par, nor has behavior (too much partying/not enough studying).

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If this was the case, no way would we even consider it.</p>

<p>We did not pay for kid #1 (his employer did), we are not paying for kid #2 (fully funded + stipend). I hope we will not need to help #3, but unless the undergrad effort is 100%, we will not even think about it.</p>

<p>Some grad schools do not have a lot of choices in fellowships like professional schools. My daughter is interested in becoming a PA and is looking at work school agreements (work in an impoverished area for tuition reimbursement. I know a soon to be PA grad who has been offered tuition reimbursement if she works in St. Thomas for a while (don't really know the specific terms). She is older and is considering it as her house is being foreclosed on and her husband's business is in bad shape with the economy.</p>

<p>As with most others here, our deal with D & S is we pay for undergrad; grad school is on their dime. Both are fine with it.</p>

<p>Our deal was a bit different....
Son did very well at an inexpensive(?) in state public for undergrad, taking maximum Stafford loans along the way.
We believe in some skin in the game....
He earned a tuition award for masters and we are supplying housing costs. He works summers for food, gas, pocket money.
He will finish Bachelors and Masters with just the Stafford loans to repay.</p>