Edit to say : sorry, this is in the wrong thread, it should be over in caregiving.
DH and I bought an amazon video thing , finally caving to the only piece of tech Fil/MiL are able and willing to use. But my BiL registered it to his account, so if DH calls his mom, he gets his brother AND his mom. Fun times. They’ll work it out…
FiL told us 10 weeks ago to not come see them until he says we can (reason: they have been sick w pneumonia and covid). MiL asked this weekend when are we coming. BiL shares that he has been there for the holidays, and the day before DH called, my MiLs entire family came to visit. We are, to say the least, puzzled. BiL says he has no idea what is going on, I believe him.
apparently MiL has also shared that last time they were out, FiL got badly lost, driving. FiL has also said we’ve done a bad job "letting them " see our kids (who are in their 30’s). DH told his brother well, they have largely ignored our kids for 20 years so you get out what you put in. But my poor BiL is fielding 4-5 calls a week with some inane and desperate question followed by FiL picking a fight. Clearly something is wrong but we are helpless to intervene.