Just plugging in here because DH & I are frustrated and thereās nothing we can do about it.
DHās aunt & uncle (who Iāll call AIL & UIL) donāt have any children. Closest thing would be my DH and his sister (UIL is their fatherās brother; DHās father died many years ago). UIL is 81 years old. AIL is 71, but has the health & joints of an 80+ yr old thanks to decades of fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome and Sjogrenās Syndrome.
AIL & UIL sold their house and for the past 4 yr, have been living in a spare bedroom of AILās motherās (the elderly mom is like 91 or 92 yr old) house, originally under the thought of āWeāll be able to help the 90 yr old so she can continue living at home for as long as possible.ā Well, AIL & UIL started doing less and less of that. AILās brother has power of attorney over their elderly mom and now the elderly mom has 24x7 around the clock in home care. And AIL & UIL were told by the brother that they needed to move out (it was time, they should have moved out 2 yr ago).
So for the past 2 months, theyāve been living in their large RV camper van at an RV campground near a body of water. Soā¦livinā in a van down by the river.
Their original plan was to buy some small cabin in the boonies in the woods in way northern CA or southern OR because AIL has had dreams of retiring amongst the redwood trees. But that plan appears to be going nowhere because they canāt find quite the right place.
DH, SIL, & I all have had major concerns with that plan anyway because AIL & UIL both need a ton of doctors for all sorts of various things, as all rapidly aging people do. And that part of the country doesnāt have a lot of options in that department.
So now those plans of theirs are āon holdā as we learned a couple of days ago. And now theyāre planning on spending 2-3 months, starting in January, to go on a really big long road trip all over the country. Oh and AILās cat is going with them.
And did I mention that AIL physically can only drive for maybe 1-1.5 hr at a stretch, and then she has to lay down for 2-3 hr before she can do anything else?
Oh and UIL just recently got diagnosed with Parkinsonās disease. And when AIL & UIL go on road trips, UIL is the one who does all of the driving.
Oh and SIL met up with them this past weekend (they live in the same metro area, we are in another state) and told DH that UIL has tremors (but they didnāt tell SIL about the Parkinsonās diagnosis).
Geeā¦nothing could possibly go wrong! What a great planā¦drive all over creation, to far off places away from your support network, etc., when the only true driver is an 80+ yr old person with Parkinsonās.
They have lost their dang minds. And there is absolutely nothing we can do about any of this. Neither DH or SIL are their medical or financial power of attorney. And theyāre still both of fairly sound mind. I guarantee you something is going to happen and theyāll end up stuck in some small town somewhere calling one of us asking us to rescue them.
Iām just going to pray for them in the meantime. And hope that nothing drastic happens. But OH MY GOSH these people. I tell yaā¦itās crazy. Theyāve always been like thisā¦the AIL & UIL have always had a knack for getting themselves into some of the most unnecessarily complicated situations.