Good idea. Wife mentioned “firing” after week1, but week2 evidentally was already paid. I have heard no updates, but perhaps reporting the concerns will be enough to turn it around.
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They need to call and talk to whoever is in charge of the aid. They should tell them which duties they were told would be done by the aid. Then let them know which of the duties are not being performed. They are paying for this service and they should get what was promised.
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My friend has fired more health aids than she’s kept to care of her dad. I think she finally landed on a company that actually expects its employees to show up for duty.
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A friend’s estranged father reached out to her (after no contact for several years - the parents had divorced years ago) when he had a rapid decline in health. He wanted to leave his house to her but also have her take care of his affairs (she is an only child, and it seems the GF was not the person to take care of all these matters with his needs and wishes) - he had little assets beyond the paid for home. He had this GF and her grandson in his home - so when it looked like he was going to need to go to skilled care, GF found where the young adult and she could move to. The dad’s attorney did not have things properly taken care of on will and other documents with his estate, so the daughter found a new attorney quickly and had everything properly done just in time before her dad died. It turns out her dad died pretty quickly, so not the pressure to have the house sell quickly to cover his care needs. The house is a bit of a mess (IDK if some neglect and also just clearing out his furnishings/stuff) but a big step that the GF and her grandson have moved out. The GF wants his old car (not much value there), but the daughter is worried the GF will want to drive w/o paying for insurance. I told my friend that if she signs the car over to the GF, the GF is going to have to show insurance to get the car license - all can be done legit, but the GF has to line up insurance to get the license plates to operate the vehicle. If the GF doesn’t keep up insurance, that is on her as owner of the vehicle. If the GF is ‘cagey’ about following through, it doesn’t make sense to ‘give’ the vehicle to the GF. The daughter lives OOS and is finishing up things with the house to get it in realtor condition - and the daughter has a job to get back to.
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Per the car, probably the daughter should officially sell the car to GF for $100 (or even $1)… have a bill of sale.
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The problem IMHO can still be the GF following through with insurance - and honestly, if the GF is not willing to line up insurance so that she can get her own car tag on the vehicle, it is better to just make other plans (donate the vehicle). Yes, there are people who promise one thing and then don’t do it - and they will also drive around with expired tags. This GF, it seems, wasn’t trusted by the man she lived with on important things.
A new owner has to have a new car license in my state (IDK if this is the case in every state). GF it seems, cannot be trusted with follow-through. When we gave our DD one of our vehicles, I could have valued it below value (she had to pay car tag tax, which I reimbursed her for it, we didn’t know). I was with her to get the new license (we had signed the car title over to her and she had a bill of sale from us) - that was required in our state (having the bill of sale).
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Your friend needs to do whatever is easiest for her. Does she have title to the car? Transferring the title can be such a long tedious process, but she can’t sell or donate the car to anyone without it.
I don’t think the insurance issue is your friend’s problem. GF will either get coverage or not, that doesn’t effect the sale.
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Once you sell a car, whether the new owner gets insurance or not is irrelevant.
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That’s what I thought. We’ve never concerned ourselves whether the new owner had insurance. You sign the title/fill out the sale info, exchange $$$, and they drive off with it. They take it to the DMV to get new tags/registration. I guess you could take a picture or copy the signed title to prove you sold it. Oh, and let your insurance know when it was sold.
D once sold an old classic (but not well restored) car to some guy for ~$5000. He showed up with a roll of $20s. About a year later, he saw it parked somewhere with the side full of bullet holes.
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@ClassicMom98 that sounds like a gangster movie!
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I concur, as long as the car is retitled.
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In California when you sell a car you can transfer title online. The last car we sold to someone was our old suburban and it was easy to do this way.
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Tell her to make sure and remove any toll tags if she has them on her windshield. We were charged after we sold our car to a dealer and then they transported across the toll bridge.
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My mil called, told my husband that she’s setting up a meeting with her FA and wants my husband to attend in person on a day he has a medical appointment. In her town. It gives my H an excuse to keep a doctor he likes and to visit his parents 4 times a year on a schedule.
My husband’s appointment is at 9:30 am, we live 100 miles away. The appointment will be after his sibling gets off work so 6ish? He will drive home afterwards. It sounds like this is a yearly how’s your investments doing meeting.
I don’t know if I’m going to go or not. It’s a long day where I have nothing to do with the meeting or the appointment.
I told my husband that his mom seems to think that things have to be done in person when we tend to try and schedule our appointments over the phone.
Do you see this with your parents?
I also think I’m struggling with the death of my mom and find my mil is demanding in way I’m not sure I’m up for at this moment.
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I sometimes bow out of MIL things when I am not sure I will be a positive addition. It’s okay to tell your H that you aren’t up to it right now, with everything you’ve been dealing with.
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Please be sure title transfer is registered with DMV. That way, whatever violations (traffic tickets, etc) or accidents with the car become the concern of the new owner, not the person who sold and properly transferred ownership of the vehicle. Do not hand over keys or anything else until transfer is registered. Agree that you need to thoroughly clean out car to remove toll transponders and everything else.
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Yes. All information has to be conveyed in person and all of the internet has to be printed out because somehow the printed copy is going to be different than the web version. She got “investment mail” from an unknown company we don’t deal with, but wouldn’t throw it out until one of us held it in our hand.
You 100% have permission to not travel. A weekend all by yourself could be wonderfully restorative. And all sorts of germs are going around, maybe you are contagious 
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My dad was this way. He had a traumatic lack of response with my brother and for a while it was a test: to make sure I would show up. I know he loved me and he was very generous at a time when I needed financial support. I didn’t challenge him; just showed up. But it was just an hour or so in the car.
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I will admit communication is much easier with my elderly father in person. (He has hearing aids, but they are only moderately helpful as he’s always had hearing problems.) I set him up with an ipad to run Facetime with captions… oh, sure wish he’d use that more. Telephone calls are mostly one sided, since he likes to chat and we know he can’t really hear us.
It’s fine that my mil wants her meeting in person. It would be nice if my husband could attend over the phone.
I think I’m sensitive to things these days.
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