<p>D1: Several times a day. Often called as she walked between classes, so the calls didn’t last long. She’d start talking about something and then call later to finish her story. For what it’s worth, most describe this girl as smart/active on campus/highly independent. She just likes to chat and knows she can find a ready audience at home - someone interested in “all about her.” </p>
<p>Son: Called anywhere from a week to three weeks. I always felt that he checked in only because he knew he needed to do so. </p>
<p>D2: Faithfully once a day, usually in the evening - on rare occasions, an additional call during the day. Calls - long or short, depending.</p>
<p>I rarely call or text them. I do so only when I need to know/tell something that can’t wait.</p>
<p>I think you share your life with people you care about. Phone calls connect you, and, as long as it’s simple and fun, I don’t think you need to worry about the frequency. Sometimes I hear about their day, sometimes we discuss a TV show we all watch, and sometimes it’s nothing more than a “hi, all’s good, talk to you tomorrow.” I found I had less to say to my son who called infrequently than my daughters who called often. They might ask about a movie I saw the day before … I might ask how something in class turned out. My son and I didn’t have those conversational gambits when he called and it made it harder.</p>