<p>According to my mother, at least once a week. What about you all?</p>
<p>I would prefer more than once a week, even if it is just a quick text saying hello. Talking 2x a week- maybe 3- seems ok, as long as there are some texts in between telling me that things are good.</p>
<p>Our deal was we’d like to be in touch - either us called them or them calling us - at a minimum once a week. It hasn’t always worked out that way, but that’s what we liked.</p>
<p>Back in the day the deal with my parents was that I’d write them once a week. Since they were paying my way at college, that’s what I did pretty much.</p>
<p>I usually need to talk to her briefly once a week, But I should get texts or Facebook posts or something that let’s me know she’s alive and well every few days. Doesn’t have to be a big deal.</p>
<p>Depends on the kid but I would say once/week is minimum. We told the kids we would let them drive the amount of contact to start–whatever they were comfortable with. We wanted them to immerse themselves in their new college life. We will tell our next 2 the same thing. I’m sure we will hear from our D several times a week via text messages, probably skype once a week or so. Our S we will hear from when he needs money or when we make him skype once a week or so :D.</p>
<p>I wrote a post about this 4 years ago when my oldest son when to college and it was like he fell off the face of the earth. Luckily for my bruised heart, once he settled in we got in the habit of phone, texts or FB chats frequently enough that everyone was happy. Mainly he initiates it, but occ. I will text him to send me something so I know he is alive and he is pretty good about that.</p>
<p>Our communication is up and down, if something is going on we talk every day. If life is just normal then maybe every couple weeks. I usually see he is on FB so know he is alive and that’s enough. </p>
<p>The funny thing is that when my sisters and I went to college there wasn’t the expectation of so much communication. Long distance phone calls were expensive!</p>
<p>With my younger son we set a once a week communication request, but that could just be a skype or FB hi. It’s mostly to reassure me all is well.</p>
<p>Proof of life once a week would be nice. (So long as I hear she is texting her brother or sister, I can sleep.)</p>
<p>I talk to my younger daughter in college now once a day, and maybe some texts if I can’t pick up her call. When my older daughter was in college we would talk few times a day, just like when she lived at home. She was a chatter box, she had to do a dump on me on everything in her life, which included relationship with BF or GF. Now she is working, living on her own and a serious BF, we probably talk few times a week.</p>
<p>Once a week on the phone was what we wanted. We were paying the cell phone costs, and didn’t think it was unreasonable for our kids to call once a week. </p>
<p>They are both college grads now…DS calls once a week (he calls the grandparents too) plus emails and texts. DD is living here right now. We talk to her daily:)</p>
<p>When our D started college last year, we left it up to her to set the tone as to how frequently she wanted to contact us. I receive texts, phone calls and emails about 4-5 days a week which is more than I had expected. If 3 or 4 days go by and I haven’t heard from her, I start to become concerned. Some of you actually have kids who allow you to friend them on FB?</p>
<p>I have communication with my daughter daily.</p>
<p>Once a week is a reasonable expectation. My H and I talk once a week to our parents, all of whom live far away. I would expect to talk to my D in college at least once a week. We usually talk more than that, though; about three times a week. We use Facetime.</p>
<p>Aqua, the kids can restrict what
YOU (or any other FB friend) can see on FB. My kids didn’t let me see their posts to others until they graduated from college. Some pictures were restricted too. But some things were able to be shared.</p>
<p>I think we should be contacted once in a month or so. There should not be any burden on students about their parents. All the students will be little naughty and contacting every time to their parents is not good. Teachers should take necessary steps to guide the students and should contact parents if it is really urgent and student is going out of control.</p>
<p>The whole thing is parents should not be contacted for each and every silly things, but there should not be any communication gap between teachers and parent.</p>
<p>When my daughter left for college, we told her that if we didn’t hear from her once a week by phone or skype or email or text or something, we would go stand outside her dorm on Sunday morning and sing showtunes.</p>
<p>I left it up to my kids when to contact me, but I preferred at least once a week.
One contacts me at least that much, the other has asked me not to contact her & she has blocked my number from her phone & social media.</p>
<p>^^^fyi – in college teachers are not permitted to contact parents if there is something going wrong (or right, for that matter) with a student. It is prohibited by FERPA. </p>
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<p>I am concerned that this statement shows a misunderstanding of the role of professors on campus. They are not going to notify the parents if a student is going off the rails. They have no idea what’s going on during the 165 hours per week the student is not in their class, and it’s not their job to know.</p>
<p>aqua , lol, I actually have my kids’ usernames and passwords, although I don’t use them anymore . we are fairly open book. D 2 is actually friends with several professors, does not drink or use any substances , and doesn’t have too many friends who do. she is friends with her grandfather and her great grandmother and some aunts and uncles too. I expect d3 to be similar, maybe just a little wilder. ;). her dad and I are also friends with her boyfriend and many of her friends .</p>
<p>Eileen…a little off topic here…but I don’t believe the teachers in college are going to be contacting the parents. They contact the STUDENTS.</p>
<p>Are you talking about a high school situation, perhaps?</p>