<p>The beer actually worries me more than the pot. Beer and driving = death. Smoking and driving also = stupid, but not as stupid. I would have let you in and taken it all away. You are underage, and once you involve an adult, the adult can be arrested if he condones or allows this.</p>
<p>I don’t really have enough experience with pot to distinguish between the levels of “impairment”. IMO no one should be driving under the influence of EITHER. I’ve seen people do some really stupid things while high on pot and I know that they were in NO SHAPE to be driving.
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<p>wow. i feel really bad for the children of some of these parents</p>
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<p>Yeah I don’t understand why some would call the cops on their own kids for getting caught one time or send them to military school. It seems way excessive IMO.</p>
<p>Rutgers - I may have a slightly different approach than some others here. I kind of feel sorry for you guys. You made a stupid choice, a really stupid choice (have made it myself, so I am qualified to say so), but you were horribly let down by an adult that had a chance to make a significant impact on your lives. For that I feel sorry.</p>
<p>I know they exist, but I just can’t fathom an adult, who after just discovering kids were smoking pot, was more worried about keeping you safe from the cops than he was about your own safety. He was NOT concerned about your safety (again, I’m sorry for this) because he then allowed you to finish your beer??? I have a theory - I wonder if this dad has an alcohol problem? It would explain how casually he treated the whole situation. Many parents who allow 17 and 18 year olds to drink under their supervision do so because it’s a way of bonding with the kids. They aren’t adult enough to form relationships with the kids that don’t involved alcohol. It also justifies their own drinking. </p>
<p>Before I get slammed, I believe there’s a huge difference between families who allow their own kid, in their own house, with their permission to have a glass of wine or beer with the understanding they are not to drive anywhere, and between adults who condone underage drinking of their kids’ friends. It is an insult for another adult to make that parenting decision for me. Especially one that has the potential of such serious consequences.</p>
<p>Had it been me… I would have been beyond furious that they put me at risk by being so stupid as to smoke where they could have been so easily caught. How do I know that some other parents aren’t going sue me when they find out their kid has been smoking pot on my property, when I was home? Your choices put that dad at risk, and I’d be FURIOUS if my kid and their friends did that. I would have let them in the house, for sure… in fact, they would not have been left out of my sight until they were picked up by a parent. I would give them the choice of either, their telling their parents what happened, or me telling their parents what happened. But, I, too, am one of those parents who would want to know from another parent if my kid did something like this.</p>
<p>“Yeah I don’t understand why some would call the cops on their own kids for getting caught one time or send them to military school. It seems way excessive IMO.”</p>
<p>Parents, if some “random” teens were drinking and fooling around with drugs in a car next to your house, would you call police or let them proceed with their illegal stupidity? Now, what if one of those teens is you kid? Do you have different standards for your own offspring and everyone else?</p>
<p>I happen to beleive it makes a big difference if you know who your kids hang out with. Before your kids drive, you have a better idea of who they hang out with, and you can know their families too. I reserve a special level of trust for those families, and for my kids when they are with them. If those were the “friends” involved, I know the parents would expect a call, and I would expect them to call me. Last year several calls where made when one of the kids was sharing “inappropriate music” on their ipod!</p>