Okay. So, to start… I know this is not an uncommon problem. Parents not willing/able to contribute to their child’s extended education. I’m posting because I really do not know what to do at this point. I’m at the end, and well, am almost to the point of giving up.
Let me start off by giving you a little run down. I am 21. I work. FULL TIME. 40+ hours a week. I earn a good $400 a week. And work 5 days a week. I live in lovely Colorado, with my boyfriend whom I love dearly. My parents reside in Florida. I am completely on my own. I pay rent. Bills. Buy groceries. Pay my car. All on my own. I get not one thing financially from my parents to contribute to my living. I am completely independent. But in the eyes of the government, I AM NOT. Which is FULLY FRUSTRATING.
Since I was 13, my dream has been to become a hair stylist. Cosmetology is my full on passion, and I have even had 2 years of professional training at a salon. However…can’t get your license if you DON’T ATTEND A SCHOOL. X( I told my parents this. They laughed. In my face. “Hair styling isn’t a career. It takes no talent! If that’s what you want to do, you’re not getting a cent from us.” Okay. So I dropped it.
High school graduation comes around. Parents ask “So what are your college plans? We have a college fund…So what are your plans?” I look them dead in the eye…knowing they won’t like my answer. And I tell them…well…I still want to be a hair stylist. The next day, dad comes home with a new boat…and my college fund is BYE BYE.
This was 4 years ago. I’ve been on my own for quite a while. I’m looking into college again, and I have an appointment tomorrow at the Salon Professional Academy. 21. Hair styling is STILL what I want to do. I have no credit history. I earn my own income. I start filling out the FAFSA and come to find…well…THEY COUNT MY PARENTS’ INCOME. WOO. My parents, are still married. They make about 130k+ a year. So you can guess what came back for my need base aid. NADA. ZIP.
So then my thought is…well…student loans…but here’s where they getcha’. You need a COSIGNER. Of course, I call my mom. Try to talk to her and just see if she’ll sign, because I have the full ability to pay the loans myself. Her response? “I’m not signing any kind of loan if you’re going to Cosmetology school. Why don’t you go after a REAL CAREER and then we’ll talk.” Well then.
I’m sorry for the long long post but I am just completely stumped on how to get out of this FA hell hole! My family refuses to help…simply because they don’t believe in my choice of career. My passion of EIGHT YEARS. It has not changed. It will not change, I’m so good at what I do. And I love doing it. It frustrates me. It angers my boyfriend. Because all I want to do is make it happen, and now…I’m just so lost. What do you do in a situation like this? Any advice welcome. Thank you <3