Parents of the HS Class of 2009 (Part 1)

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Jolynne, I’m wondering what that car ride is going to be like for us, too. The oldest went to a local university (although lived on campus), so this is going to be very different for us. Just as this one’s college application process was very different from his older brother’s, this one’s being a distance away from us is going to be different, also. Although we’ve been through the college thing before, in many ways this is like the first time for us (also, older S went to a state university, this one is going to a small LAC). </p>

<p>This S is close to his younger brother, even though they are 5.5 years apart in age and six years apart in school. I really think the youngest is going to miss his brother. </p>

<p>Years ago I read this book (from the library). It is a collection of essays by mothers. One of them is about driving home after dropping the older of two sons at college for his freshman year.</p>

<p>Mothers Talking - Sharing the Secret by Frances Wells Burck</p>

<p>I think I’m going to do an online catalog search right now, to see if my library system still has it.</p>

<p>My daughter leaves for college in September so my younger daughter will miss two days of school (HS Soph) but she’s not missing taking her sister to college the first time! My husband is glad as the plane ride will be miserable without the older one so he is hoping the younger can help distract him. He was so concerned about a long drive home with her that he is insisting we fly.</p>

<p>Haven’t even thought about my Mother in law - maybe we’ll send her out next spring.</p>

<p>If this is not your first child going to college, were you more relaxed in the process with the second (or third or fourth) child’s whole testing/application/admission process? I have one in the HS class of '11…I have subscribed to that thread but can hardly stand to read it…they are just *so intense *over there…</p>

<p>OK, all I can say is “WOW!” I was away all last week with no computer, and have been a little crazed since returning. I finally read/skimmed through all the accumulated posts. Where do I start?</p>

<p>S, who has had no luck finding a job here at the beach (not a true beach resort, just a town located at the shore) now has a job until he leaves for school, working on the kitchen crew at family camp in NH – which is where we were last week. We’ve been going since he was 1, so he knows the place like the back of his hand. He saw they were somewhat short staffed, so asked the Director if they needed help. And voila! – a job. Not a ton of $$$, but it’s something, and he gets room & board. I’m driving him up tomorrow. S will have no computer access, so I’ve told him I need his school email password. etc. </p>

<p>Re: school stuff: We sorted out his medical form with the school – there was this ridiculous TB screening form that asked if he’d EVER been to any of a long list of countries. He had, for 10 days back in 2004, but the form had no space to indicate this. His doc said he didn’t need a TB test; admin person in student health said he did. I finally spoke with the medical director, who, after hearing the circumstances of S’s travels, agreed he didn’t. She said the screening form was from the CDC, but was a “really bad form,” and they’d been getting lots of questions/phone calls. (No explanation as to why the school couldn’t add on clarifying info.) </p>

<p>I think his housing info is caught up in USPS mail forwarding limbo from our home Post Office – maybe today?</p>

<p>About 3 weeks ago S & I were in BB&B for something else, and they were just beginning to stock college stuff. He saw a comforter he liked, and I had coupons, so I bought it. (A lesson learned from dorm shopping w/ D.) He couldn’t care less about towels or anything else, so I’ll just do it all. A note about BB&B – I was there looking for an item that turned out to not be in stock in the store. Because I ordered it in person at the store, I was able to use a coupon, and have it shipped directly to me. </p>

<p>Another lesson from doing all this w/ D – don’t go overboard! Honestly, they don’t need all the stuff you/they may think they do. IMO, it’s better to start off w/ less, and see what else may be needed. The over-the-door racks sound great, but may not fit many dorm doors – as w/ D. (So, if you buy stuff like that, save the receipt/don’t take off the packaging so you can return it.) Not all school dorms have “trunk rooms” so you can’t necessarily count on that for packing container storage. There were mountains of flattened cardboard boxes outside D’s dorm on move-in day, so don’t worry about the Joad look. Also, dorm rooms vary tremendously in size. The rooms are very small at D’s school,(chintzy take note!) requiring lots of creative use of the available space. S will most likely have more space, but will go with even less stuff than D.</p>

<p>H, meanwhile, is off on a 5 day, guys only, sailing trip from CT to ME.</p>

<p>missypie – I was just thinking last evening how much more I’m enjoying talking about mattess pads and the like than application and admissions … indeed, so much less intense.</p>

<p>missypie - I’d love to know if things get easier with child #2 , #3. I have a 2011 child (my first) and right now, all I can think of is that half the summer has gone by and she hasn’t made a dent in the long list of to-dos that she has! Feel bad about not letting her enjoy the summer - but if she doesn’t get to her list now when she has some free time, how is she going to manage when school starts??</p>

<p>Re: missypies’s q about doing this the 2nd time. My 2 kids are so different that the application process was like night/day. S knew where he was going, tested, applied and away you go. D was much more intense with apps, testing, decision making (torture accurately describes it). The difference for me the 2nd time around was realizing there is no “perfect school” and they will be fine wherever they wind up. I think my perspective on college overall changed as well with the focus being on “where can they be in an environment where they can become the person they’re meant to be”. Also, that it is their journey, not mine. I’m there for the ride offering guidance, support and some direction but they are in control. Same with moving in as CBBB’s post offered…easier to relax and know it will all work out. In the scheme of things if they don’t have the perfect organizer they’ll go buy it, so it is easier to relax.</p>

<p>My 2011 is in a bad situation as far as taking the ACT. Every year, the coach of her EC schedules mandatory events or practices on SAT and ACT testing dates. This year, she has only left two ACT test dates open - one of them being October, which I think is too early. </p>

<p>I know that I need to jump on the ACT prep thing ASAP, but I just can’t stand the thought of it. If one can only take the ACT in October and April, do you prep for the first one and just brush up for the second?</p>

<p>I’d much rather talk about the mattress pad I found at Marshalls that was nicer than the one I found at BBB, and for half the price!</p>

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Oh, yes! I didn’t read those threads before the last few months or so, and can’t imagine keeping up with their intensity a year or two ago! </p>

<p>As I already wrote, although we have a S who graduated from college in '08, in a lot of ways this S had a very different application process. I don’t think I even knew about CC back when the older one was in high school. </p>

<p>I feel like I’ve been through college application “boot camp.” I find I know a lot more than my friends whose kids are even just a year or so younger than S. I think we all need a shirt, “I survived the 2009 college application season.” </p>

<p>By the time the youngest S is applying to college (hs graduation in 2015), there will be fewer applicants. I don’t know when that thread will pop up (please tell me it hasn’t already!) – High School Class of 2015.</p>

<p>Re the 2nd time around: As with crzymom, my two are very different. They ended up at the same school, but they took somewhat different paths to get there. (They also were coming at it from different schools, with different levels of competence in the guidance department.) Overall, I think it was a wash - easier because I knew things would work out in some sort of positive way, and I wasn’t quite as wound up; harder because S1 is less self-motivated and needed a lot more reminders of why he should be taking the reins, why it would matter to him, and so on, in the early stages. </p>

<p>The shopping is definitely easier. :D</p>

<p>If your d tests in Oct, those scores never need to be sent if she chooses not to so I would not do any prep other than a few practices if she chooses and let her just get a feel for it. Or, you could skip Oct altogether, take it in April and then if she needs to do it again do it in Sept or Oct of senior year. Unless the kid is a real go-getter I think Oct of Jr year is a bit early. Otoh, taking SAT in Jan worked out well for my d as her “practice run” and then she really studied and brought up her scores based on those results.</p>

<p>I was thinking of April and September, but this year the coach is taking up the September test date, so I have to assume the same thing will happen next year, too.</p>

<p>Hi Deja!!! I have a daughter in the HS class of 2015! I’ll see you in that thread in say, 2 years?!!?!</p>

<p>Great Idea - DEJA: I think we all need a shirt, “I survived the 2009 college application season.” What an accomplishment we have all had!</p>

<p>re: packing… I bought those ZipLock XXL bags to put all clothes/supplies in. Hoping to be able to fit everything in my car for the long ride. We are going to do the 14 hour drive straight through and then have the day before move in to figure out what we really need - hoping to be able to get into the dorms to see what others (those there for band/sports camps, etc) have brought and then quickly go shopping… although, now I’m scared to visit Target/Walmart/Staples at that time of year.</p>

<p>re: tears… My poor D (2011) will have to comfort me on the long ride home… but I’m hoping to break it up and visit a college campus with her… the only problem is she is interested in schools in CA and we will not be any where near there!! Maybe she’ll fall in love with her brother’s school and we’ll not have to search further! :D</p>

<p>CBBBlinker, I think the housing/roommate information will be sent to their WPI email account. I could be wrong, though.</p>

<p>Don’t know if it was easier the second time around. I guess I knew more, and Son picked up a thing or two when Daughter went through it. They are very different kids so the process was different. D aced the SAT, S preferred the ACT. D is a liberal arts type, S is going to an engineering/tech college. D didn’t finish her applications until December 28th, S had two acceptances by October 31st. D didn’t have senioritis, S definitely had senioritis.</p>

<p>So is anyone else Google mapping to see what banks, cleaners, barber shops, etc are near campus?</p>

<p>Banks? cleaners? barber shops? For you or for your child?</p>

<p>For the kid. They have different banks in Massachusetts than in Texas, so we had to figure out where to open his checking account. Trust me, my kids think of me as a human GPS.</p>

<p>Okay, that explains the bank. But the cleaners? I would be incredibly impressed if you said that your child knew what clothes, exactly, needed the cleaners and would actually go there by him or herself. Son will be supplying his own tuxedo for choir, so I guess he could need the cleaners if he spilled a bowl of spaghetti on himself or something…but that’s the only “dry clean only” thing he’ll be taking.</p>

<p>And the barber…Son’s hair grows out rather than up. He gets a haircut only when we say “your hair is too big.” It will be interesting to see if he ever feels the need to get a haircut while at school.</p>

<p>Y’all have given me a great idea, however. We will have about 2 hours to kill between an appointment and move in time. I think we’ll drive around and find an ATM from our bank, closest gas station, pharmacy/drug store, Target, etc.</p>

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<p>Last summer, Son and Husband were sent off on the I-35 South college tour (Trinity, St. Edwards, Southwestern and Baylor). I printed out driving directions to every school and hotel. They took a wrong turn in San Antonio and couldn’t find the hotel. Did they call the hotel? NO. They called me. I was driving home from work and was of no help whatsoever…I hope I didn’t shriek, but I did tell them to call the hotel!!!</p>

<p>Thanks for the heads up, firefly – you may well be right since they seem to do so much by email. When we were there in early June for an Advising Day we were told housing stuff would be sent the 2nd week in July. Maybe they’re still figuring out what to do with all the incoming freshmen!</p>

<p>So, funny coincidence – this family camp we go to? We always go the second week of July, and it’s always with the same families, give or take a few newbies. Turns out there’s a girl from our week also going to WPI. This is someone S has “grown up” with at this camp. I told S he may well be ahead of 80% of the new incoming guys at WPI – he already knows 2 girls! (The other is someone he met at an Accepted Student Day back in Feb.)</p>

<p>Re: banks – S will open an account with the bank that has an on-campus ATM – TD North, I think. It just makes life easier all around, especially since he doesn’t have a car. Cleaners? Not likely he’ll need one. Hair place? Again, not likely – he’ll wait til he comes home. Grocery store for snacks? Now that he’ll find & use. (Actually he already knows, from being at WPI 2 weeks last summer.)</p>