<p>Yes, they are practicing but not with coaches. Can’t get in to campus housing and practicing with coaches due to NCAA regulations. And missypie is correct in saying some of the girls think the parties are great. I think what “traumatized” D2 the most was being locked out in a strange city at 10:30 at night and having to sit in her car in a parking lot and not knowing who to talk to since she had only been in town less than 6 hours! I think I would be scared too if I didn’t know when I could get inside.( Ish…she brought up Dru Sjodin [Murder</a> of Dru Sjodin - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia](<a href=“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Dru_Sjodin]Murder”>Murder of Dru Sjodin - Wikipedia) and that really let me know she was frightened!) Anyway she is coping the best she can and we have been in close contact every day. We are thankful she has found a group of young women to be with.</p>
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<p>We do have to give you major strokes for not swooping in to handle it all (e.g. making a hotel reservation for her on your credit card.) This just so brings back my student teaching experience…I worked all day, then after school, got a newspaper and looked for ads for rooms to rent and after being very upset (probably crying in my car) I called the Psychology intern who said she was broke and would love a roommate to share expenses. I was so shy and only did that out of desperation but as I said, it worked out great.</p>
<p>Yes, other schools do the online “alcohol.edu,” I think it’s called. S1 just mentioned that he needed to finish his.</p>
<p>NM, I agree with missypie: Hats off to you for not swooping in to rescue her. </p>
<p>Frankly, though, as the mom of another NCAA athlete, I’d be madder than anything you’d care to name about this. “Captains’ practices” are kind of a shady way of evading NCAA rules, in my opinion, and I think preseason has enough of a learning/adjustment curve for first-years without this kind of stuff. I would really have hated the idea that my D was under the extremely nominal supervision of a bunch of upperclass students when she went off to her first preseason. Is this typical DII/DI stuff? Am I just used to DIII procedures?</p>
<p>Are there even trainers?</p>
<p>Yikes! You’ve reminded me that S is supposed to do something like that before he heads off to school and then they do part II I suspect once they are at school.</p>
<p>I give NM HUGE props for not swooping in when daughter was sitting in a parking lot!!! Serious confidence points were probably earned for sure - on both sides!! But seriously, what if she hadn’t brought a car for kripes sake!?!?! And yes, I get the whole “time of their lives” thing, but I will also hope there is a reasonableness as well. I will say I used to be able to do something like this when I was in college, but I certainly wasn’t an athlete *unless you count cheerleader, which you can’t count that. Still, any one can only maintain that for a short while before it starts to catch up with you and your resistance is run down to the ground. Son’s school, while DIII, is very strict on following NCAA rules as well as those of his conference. There is no practice in the off season. Apparently you can do pick up games but they can’t be just for the team and there can be no drills etc. We’ll see how much that deviates, but so far for football it seems very much right on. </p>
<p>Now I am off to look up the Alcohol.edu required course thing. Plus I also noticed they have to send in a jpeg of themselves for their student ID. Do we think most just use their senior picture or should I take some candid photo to make it more current and less “posed” although the one sr picture isn’t necessarily posed per say.</p>
<p>NM wow. I don’t know how you did it. Staying calm must have been difficult. Hope things improve.</p>
<p>Lots of schools, public/private, do the on-line alcohol ed. My daughter spent the better part of the afternoon working on it and she is going to UC Berkeley and my nephew had to do it for Northwestern. My d has heard from several profs already re: books and some summer prep. Until she is actually there and her schedule is firm, I am reluctant to buy books so we’ll probably wait. Can’t believe this is coming up so fast.</p>
<p>NM please know we are pulling for your D. 7 years ago my D was faced with a not so different situation and it was so hard to here upset when she called. </p>
<p>So shopping for S who leaves in 24 days and does not want to talk about it…
I figure he will do laundry every 2 weeks (maybe) so am purchasing 14 sets of the needed pieces of underwear. His are shot and most are from middleschool(!) and so can stay home which means he will not need to pack to come home for the weekend. This is expensive! and time consuming as his size (small–the undershirts all hang out of his tee’s) so this is the way I am preparing for him to leave. Of course this is way too soon for him to even think about it but for me the prepartation is all part of sending him off.</p>
<p>oregon101: too funny about the shopping for skivvies to replace the ones from middle school. In a recent laundrython/purge session I cam across a pair of D’s underpants from the 5th grade! I held them up…sized for an 11 y/o… and asked “Do either of you actually WEAR these?” Twin E replied that she wore any and all underwear in her possession. FWIW they were from Nordstom and had not worn out.</p>
<p>My d has to be at school 2 days prior to actual move in for band. My h and I are driving her stuff up for the actual move-in day but she’ll be away for band camp/practice. So, I just purchased a plane ticket for her to fly up by herself on Aug 20. I called to tell her I had purchased the flight and she said, “This is so sad”. Yup, it is! I’ve done pretty well until now, but it’s all downhill from here.</p>
<p>Mine got dorm and roommate assignments and have sent the FB friend requests…hoping for good matches too soon to know anything yet.</p>
<p>oh crzymom…sorry :(</p>
<p>HM–oh-now that is funny as the new undershirts are from Nordstom’s 1/2 year sale–maybe they will last until his wife tosses them in, oh about 10 years 
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<p>Whoever it was that posted the “love the kid on the couch” I want to say that this has helped me so so much. His wisdom teeth come out Dec. 21st–his choice–and I managed to just let it go and not push him out of his comfort zone (course I am totally out of mine but whatever works to launch him without added stress).</p>
<p>How is it that Nordstrom’s is having a sale and I know nothing about it?</p>
<p>Ladies ladies… Let’s keep up with what’s important, shall we?</p>
<p>Have not posted all summer, D#3 has her roommate & has connected with her on FB. We ordered her a laptop, have not bought anything else! Typical for this one! We leave on August 18th. She has registered for her classes & is done with that part of it. I am trying to get her to commit to shop with me for XL sheets, etc. I don’t want this to be the like application process was with her! </p>
<p>Daughter got room and roommate assignment last night and is not thrilled. She didn’t get her top 2 choices but I think this smaller dorm is a better place for her. She’s getting over the initial disappointment. </p>
<p>She’s a little more concerned as she has an international roommate. We’re from the city so that’s not the problem but she’s hoping the roommate is “American” enough to not lean too heavily on my daughter for things like monetary exchange, language, etc. We’ll see, she friended her on Facebook last night so hopefully there will be a response this morning since there’s a 12 hour time difference! Wait, don’t most schools move international students in one or two days early? Ugh, not sure how that’s going to work. Okay, calm down, let’s see what happens with the Facebook contacts.</p>
<p>Wow! I was only gone for a day and there are 3 pages of new posts! </p>
<p>Drove 8 hours round trip yesterday to pick D up at camp after 2 months. So nice to have her home 
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<p>NM, I am so sorry you and your D have been going through this. It sounds as if it getting a little better each day. It must be so hard to listen from far away.</p>
<p>I’m curious about the online alcohol ed - D hasn’t mentioned anything like that, but I’m not sure she’s been staying on top of her college emails.</p>
<p>Re: textbooks - we’ve used another site directtextbooks.com to find and compare prices. I decided it wasn’t “helicoptering” to order D’s books since she is only home for 2 weeks and there is so much else to do. Turned the whole thing over to H and he had them all ordered, at considerable savings, within an hour.</p>
<p>For those of you whose kids’ roommates aren’t on FB, D couldn’t find her roommate either, but it was because she was using a nickname (Angie instead of Angela). They eventually connected by email, but it was a little worrisome at first.</p>
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<p>I know for a fact that some of Son’s boxers are from 6th grade - that is when they started to dress for PE, so it was important to switch from tighty whities to boxers. I’ve bought six new pair so far - waiting to buy more to make sure he finds them comfie…and socks! I guess I should thank the Lord that I have an un-demanding son, but really…we’re going though his sock drawer and he confesses that he has only one or two pairs that really fit and are comfortable: “That is why I’ve been wearing slides so much.” Don’t ask for new socks, just stop wearing them!</p>
<p>When it rains it pours. My stepfather died last night. :(</p>
<p>Oh NM – condolences to you and your family for your loss.</p>
<p>So sorry, NM! Did he live nearby? Will your D want to come home for the services?</p>
<p>On no NM. I’m so sorry.</p>