<p>D2 didn’t take blankey or Pooh Bear. I am making an executive decision and bringing them next visit after talking tonight. Very teary after my tralk with her. 
I am depressed and she knows what buttons to push to make me feel bad. sigh…</p>
<p>jptmom, my son did that - throw a few clothes in a bag at the last minute. He said he planned to “chill” at college. He didn’t even bring a bedspread! He said, hey mom it is August - I said, “Hey K, you will be here ALL WINTER!”</p>
<p>That was three years ago and we got through it :)</p>
<p><em>hugs</em></p>
<p>Oh the purpose of this thread - my daughter left for Brooklyn College last night :</p>
<p>hang in there susgeek.</p>
<p>Any word from lindz126 on her D’s biopsy? I’ve been thinking of them!</p>
<p>Asked DS sit down with a calendar and mark down a schedule of sorts that shows when he is out with friends and when he will be home until he leaves on the 29th. I even asked him to write down the days that he was planning to clean his room. Today is a room cleaning day…lol! Let see if this works!</p>
<p>Well, it looks like it’s time to leave my son and head home. He’s all settled in and has met lots of great kids already. For someone who doesn’t adapt easily to new situations, I was so happy to hear him say that it’s strange how not strange this all is! Good luck to everyone who has yet to go through the move-in.</p>
<p>yes i have been thinking about Lindz alot. have not heard not even on the mammmogram thread. Hugs to her and her D.
Any chance NM that it is that thing they do: call the parent give them the feelings, they go off fine for having vented and you are left with the baggage? They do say the adjust by the the first semester. I have a FB message from a friend with the same issue. Her D was the same way in kindergarden.
I think getting the cars back and forth would be alot for me, but its a good idea. My H is getting into the mode of thinking I look fine physically and not really getting that I am physically or at times mentally not quite. Pushing for normal when life will not be normal for quite some time-starting treatment on thurs, anyway I usually leave this for the other thread, I lurk on your thread to see the normal and practical. Although if you need it ever and I hope you wont the people on the mammogram thread are awesome! This palce has been so helpful for me!!!</p>
<p>Yes, I’ve been wondering about lindz, too. </p>
<p>I think downtoearth is probably right: NM, there’s a good chance that what you’re getting is something known as a Dump Call. They call us, dump out their troubles, and feel much better after they hang up. We got a lot of these D’s first semester. It’s a lot like what we do here - vent about how mad they’re making us, or how sad we are, and then go back and act like adults. It doesn’t mean she’s not truly sad; it just means that for now, this is how she’s coping. And it doesn’t mean you should feel bad that you can’t help - you ARE helping, by listening.</p>
<p>susgeek, good luck. I bet you’ve heard from her by now.</p>
<p>T-minus 3 here. S1 actually did sort through some clothes last night, I think. But he had friends over first, and his gf is coming this afternoon, and tomorrow it’s the movies with some other friends. Apparently he plans to finish packing Monday morning, right before we load the car.</p>
<p>Just over a week to go here. I haven’t been able to convince my H that we should go a day early and go to orientation. It’s an abbreviated orientation for the parents of the athletes but he just doesn’t see the sense in it. I’ll admit that we didn’t learn much from S’s several years ago and that was several days long. Oh well. Guess I’ll just have to give this one up.</p>
<p>D is staying around now more. Many of her friends, who are also athletes, have already gone so there are less people to hang out with. </p>
<p>Shopping is finished now it’s just trying to pack so everything fits in the car.</p>
<p>Good luck to all who are still getting ready to launch.</p>
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<p>We brought home a few things that Son didn’t need and Monday morning, Husband was gleefully searching for receipts to do the returns. The un-shopper.</p>
<p>Hugs and prayers to all going through health issues. Terrible terrible timing.</p>
<p>The call where they’re miserable - that’s about the first thing they told us at parent orientation - we will get the call where eveything is terrible - then we’re depressed and worried and the kid feels 100% better. I’d heard about that from a friend of mine - her D had been a pure delight in HS…then freshman year she’d call home and just dump on them and it got to where they dreaded her calls - but she had a great freshman year and there were no real problems.</p>
<p>I hope I’m not overstepping, but I am pretty sure Lindtz’s daughter’s tests were fine and that she’s ok. Hopefully, Lindtz will pop in and see everyone’s comments! </p>
<p>A gir friend of S2 told me he’s not taking his childhood stuffed animal to school, because he’s afraid of it being destroyed. I notice he’s not taking a lot of moments with him–interesting… He got a haircut, and we hit the bank yesterday. Packing suitcases today, because he’s in the recording studio all day tomorrow and we leave Mon bright and early. All of my best friends here in my neigborhood are launching kids–its really remarkable. Mostly, first kids, but a few “lasts” as well–and here I am in the middle. Many sad parents… but happy kids, which is fantastic!</p>
<p>We went to our favorite traditional family restaurant on Thursday night (D left on Tuesday) and the waiter, then the owner, each asked “No kids?” It might be the first time ever but not the last, that it was “just us.” Since they are both parents and have watched both ours (and theirs) grow up they could join in our slighly disoriented/joyful/sadness. I always bring home some leftovers and was carefully folding up the paperbag to save for a lunch bag. Looked at my lunch bag shelf. Have enough “lunch” bags for maybe 100 bag lunches. Hmmm. Guess I am set until I retire and beyond because I am only packing lunches for me now. Wistful moment. Never my favorite chore but now I miss it…</p>
<p>Our departure so far is a soft one as D left for orientation trip (rock climbing in 105 heat!) and we drive up to deliver the stuff on Monday. Dealing with this in waves that are little rollers is my way. Reading everyone else’s stories in this all is so comforting</p>
<p>HMW…too soon hey and I thought the gf was history.</p>
<p>SJTH hope you are right about lindz.</p>
<p>Hugs to all the dropper offers and those being dropped off!</p>
<p>Re: calls when they are miserable. That has been my D’s MO for as long as I can remember. Whenever she is gone, we only hear from her if something is going wrong. We kid her that if we don’t hear from her, we know she is having a great time. True to form, she called a few times in the days after we dropped her off – hates being on the top bunk, there are going to be no classes open when she registers, tornado warning, etc. I did get one “good” call when she let me know that she got into all of her first choice classes. Since then, not a peep. She must be having a blast.</p>
<p>mmah re the bag lunches, can’t say as I’d join you in missing them. With DS still at home for 4 more years 
I have more than enough time to start disliking lunch prep even more. I think one of the things I will console myself with when he leaves home will be no more bag lunches ;)</p>
<p>It must have been sweet in the restaurant to share with the owners.</p>
<p>TwinE came in from her run with the dogs this morning in tears. Her last saturday run with them became a catalyst for allowing herself to cry. She can take all her uncertainty and anxiety about the change and channel it into worry that her beloved pets may not get runs/walks/proper loving and nutrition without her watching over them. I asked her if it would make her feel better to leave us a detailed list of what we should and shouldn’t do and she brightened up and went off to her volunteer vet assistant job happy.</p>
<p>Oh, historymom - that’s so very sweet. It makes sense that the dogs would trigger her tears. What a wise question you asked her. (And you’re right about the gf; that one’s been gone for several weeks now. This is a new one. We all like her TONS; I just wish the timing were different.) </p>
<p>mmaah, I like the idea of a soft departure. </p>
<p>IMhopeful, yes, that sounds like an excellent start.</p>
<p>And like historymom, SJTH, I very much hope you’re right about lindz!</p>
<p>3 days till D and I get on the plane. Her room is strewn with stuff that still needs packing, and I’m weeping over a photo of her first day of kindergarten. </p>
<p>Heck with the red wine, pass me the rum.</p>
<p>Hey Harriet! Re my suggestion to write it out: Sometimes I think I am channeling my mom. She has her flaws but the suggestion that E write it all out goes back the me being mothered by her.</p>
<p>On the other hand she and dad dropped me at school w/ >20.00 and w/o a spread/comforter for my bed…just not thinking about realities: </p>
<p>a) Campus was 15 minutes from town and I didn’t have an account w/ a local bank or a car
b) it would be days before I could get to FA and get my disbursements
c) before my roommate and I could pick out (or pay for) our coordinating bed spreads I might get chilly at night</p>
<p>So she and my dad are not so practical but on the emotional health issues she was top notch! I guess if I had to choose I wouldn’t have had it any other way. Good Lord only knows what my kids will say about me in 30 years, but by golly they will have complete beds and plenty of cash next Thursday! ;)</p>
<p>ohhh and yay for harrietson picking a winner! Will she be going to college this fall or is she in hs?</p>
<p>lunitari, no rum here, but my H just went out to get bitter lemon and gin. As soon as the gin sits in the freezer a bit, I’m happy to pour for all. </p>
<p>historymom, it’s lovely that the write it out suggestion comes from your mom’s mothering. And too funny on your vow to set your girls up with complete beds and plenty of cash. What more do any of them really need? 
And this gf is indeed headed off to college next week - in the opposite direction of S1’s journey.</p>