RM, is the vertigo from an ear infection. ShawWife has gotten that a couple of times. The ear infection was not otherwise obvious.
Sorry to hear of all the illness.
Also NM so sorry they couldn’t keep your confidence. So upsetting.
I am done with school until January. One more semester than I am done. Seriously don’t know how I am getting it done. The school doesn’t particularly care either.
My ear has been hurting for months. Had antibiotics taking nasal spray. Finally could go to the ENT . its bad TMJ, ear, jaw and neck pain. I thought they were separate issues. He mentioned stress causing it . I just laughed.
So sorry DT. I had a root canal done years ago as the local small town doctor did not know
how to diagnose TMJ. I hope this figures it out for you. I grew up on aspirin for my daily headaches…
I love my mouthguard! No headaches, jaw aches, ear aches.
And congrats and I am in awe at what you have accomplished.
My only news is that Amazon has caught up with all of my deliveries and yet one also for a neighbor
3 blocks away…delivered to us. I did take it up to them, D wrote a sweet note and a Happy Holiday!
I am a grump about it as over the last 14 years we have left such items on their porch --including some
very important mail. I have knocked when it looked that they were home but they have never answered.
Our house numbers are the same but the street name is not at all alike. We consistently get their mail
and keep talking/leaving notes for the mail people. Gets better then worse. Now we just put the wrong
mail back into the send–writing a note occasionally. Not once have they left anything on our porch that
was delivered wrongly to them. I just do not believe this is a on way street…
Rant, obviously.
Back from NYC. Even though Tuesday was our actual anniversary, we had our “big dinner” on Monday night. Try to imagine how completely stunned H and I were when, at the end of the meal, the waiter brought an anniversary card signed by our kids instead of the bill!!! OMG, BEST kids ever! (H said it was a good thing he didn’t order the REALLY expensive wine …)
Totally did the tourist thing, even for all the years we lived in the NYC suburbs. The 911 Memorial Museum was so incredibly powerful; hard to even try to describe it. We also did the Circle Line boat tour and went to the Top of the Rock Tuesday night, after seeing “Book of Mormon,” which was great. D was convinced H wouldn’t like “B of M” – said I would love it, but H would be put off some by the language, etc. But, H said he liked it, so I’ll go with that.
Now, back in RI, I’m in somewhat of a panic over Christmas … But, at this point in my life, I refuse to get too stressed. Cards may well go out after the holiday – close enough, IMO. We don’t even have a tree, but will look for a smallish one today. Bah humbug!!! 
@NorthMinnesota – I can’t even imagine your in laws doing that! How awful for you and H.
Hope you’re feeling better, @RochesterMom. And glad to hear you’re no longer “trapped,” @oregon101. That would drive me nuts.
Shaw - no ear infection or even a cold thank goodness. Just vertigo for some reason. Diagnosis was positional vertigo as it was worse sitting or standing. I was actually okay if I could keep my eyes closed.
Sorry DTE about the ear. Terrible to go that long.
Oregon - I’m lucky in that my neighborhood is very friendly with everyone really nice. We are still the type of neighborhood that when people move in everyone goes over and introduces themselves and says if you need anything just let us/them know as we probably have it or someone on the street does. Of course we have lived there for 30+ years and many of us are in the same boat having lived there that long.
Shopping done and now the wrapping begins. I think I will not wrap the gifts in Nordstrom packages. The gifts are in their pretty silver boxes with the colorful wrap around the box. Good enough? I am really struggling with the Holidays this year. What with the kerfuffle with my in-laws and trying to be flexible with the addition of Ds’ in-law schedules, I am definitely not feeling very jolly. I am biting my tongue as Ds’ are trying to accomadate their Hs’ family traditions but then our tradions are out the window. D2 will miss our Christmas Eve gathering as her H’s immediate family has their celebration that night. We have always had our family together for Christmas dinner but now D1 will be at her new husband’s family dinner and D2 will be at her H’s grandparents . We will be together from 10-1. Not happy about it at all. You all know I love to entertain so I will grin and nod and make breakfast and no Christmas dinner. I suggested we start alternating years but the Hs say no way! Really??? It just makes me so sad.
DTE, sorry to hear about the ear. You are really doing a lot – working and going to school in what I know to be a demanding program. Can PT or massage help TMJ?
Taking my admin staff out to lunch today. Small team of really nice women. My crackerjack EA is now pregnant. This is always hard. So far, all pregnant admin staff say that want to come back, do come back, are not at their best work efficiency, and then take a job with a shorter commute (even though we’ve allowed them to work at home a couple of days a week in the first year). I hope I don’t lose her as I love her, as does my family and my clients. We have one woman on the professional team. She had a baby this past year but is really committed to the company and I don’t see her going.
I wonder if this is what Son’s new inlaws are thinking. They have an almost 4 year old grandson, so their whole extended family - including Son and DIL - will spend the night Christmas Eve, then have Christmas morning together, then the newlyweds will come to our house at about 1:30 when the little one goes down for a nap. Then we get them for the rest of the day.
Older D got in at about midnight last night…I was to bed after 1:30 am, up at 5:30 for work. D’s flight was only delayed by an hour, which is a Christmas miracle in itself when you’re flying from O’Hare.
Hoping the two Ds get along this Christmas…last year they didn’t.
At this time of the year, friends and family who are no longer with us come to mind. Older D would normally be getting together with her friend who passed away this fall. H is thinking about his mom. Et cetera. I feel as if I could burst into tears at any time, but we all just keep moving forward.
missy…at least they celebrate Christmas Eve together!
Anyone know how long this vertigo lasts? Feeling better but still not really myself. Would love it to be done. Seems to take me a while to focus after moving my head. Makes quick movements impossible.
RM, EPLEY is a technique that often fixes the problem.
You can look it up and follow the instructions.
Sometimes you must do this a number of times and off and on for a few days.
Decades ago I stood up one morning and smashed into the wall due to vertigo. Could not drive.
This is the exercise I did and occasionally still do.
Also, H teaches his patients while in his exam room how to do it.
This has something to do with small deposits of calcium breaking loose
–do not quote me on that–and it is quite normal to have happen.
MP, yicks. You have had an awful lot of change recently. I guess I wonder why they have to wait for the kid to take a nap to leave. But we have taken the bullet here, so I do understand.
From the beginning it has been that S and DIL with her family for all of the the Holidays.
Yep, all. It was because they were in school and had very little time and much studying.
They have spent the 4 days leading to Christmas with us every year but this one and that has actually
been nice. This year they came for 4 days in November as DIL could get away. Now S has a new job and no days to travel. They also visit another 2-3 times a year when they can.
Last night I received a text that he will call today and they may come just for a day (difficult 4 hour drive with a 4.5 yr old). OK, I just smile and nod and mostly am not hurt. My own mother pressured all of her kids and set the in-laws up as her enemies.
For us to go to them, which we do 2-3 times a year means an expensive weekend. Their
married student housing is tiny. DIL has a huge, think 100’s, of relatives in the immediate
area and we are a small family. So I get that part of it. Going forward I see some conversations
and maybe change but not now. They have a lot on their plate and we are doing ok.
If D does not come home, begins splitting with her future H, I think we will travel.
I guess if am completely honest, I still find S difficult to be around sometimes. He is
very quiet unless he is “on” and that is never with me. He talks about his work only.
But overall the relationship is ok. And I adore DIL and she seems to like me.
I hope for more than that I take her shopping.
Thanks Oregon - yup - been doing that.
Hi Everyone - just stopped by to wish everyone Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukah and/or just general good tidings at this time of year!!
Just a few things… yes CBB - what your kids did is just amazing!
…and MP did I read that PieSon has a baby?? If so congrats!
And best wishes to all the other weddings, engagements and big events! Always such a sweet group here!
This is just wrong, IMO. Of course they all need to start alternating years! Why are your Ds the ones who have give up all of THEIR traditions? When H and I were first dating seriously, H laid out a plan for Christmas Eve and Day that totally ignored MY family. I initially bit my tongue, but then I just lost it; it was such a one-sided plan! What, was I chopped liver? Needless to say, we sorted out things pretty quickly – H apologized and said he just wasn’t thinking. We started alternating, splitting things between Christmas Eve and Day. (Fortunately our families were only about 90 minutes apart.) When our kids got a little older, we started staying home until Christmas afternoon. D and her fiancé have already started alternating – we had them for Thanksgiving this year, but will not see them until after Christmas.
Edited to add: Hi @woody! Yep, pretty good kids, if I do say so myself.
I agree with @woody re the CBB’s kids and with @CBBBlinker re fairness in family-sharing. I actually prefer ShawWife’s family to mine but try to make sure we are fair with respect to holidays like Passover.
ShawSon is going to Atlanta and maybe Alabama to visit his GF’s parents over New Year’s. They are immigrants from China (they moved their when she was 7) and are researchers at a local university. They insisted that she couldn’t visit us again until ShawSon had visited them. He wonders what he should get them for presents. They are not a present-oriented family. Elegant scarves from India probably aren’t useful in Alabama. Any ideas?
Hi woody!!! I so miss you! What is happening in your life?
shaw, food. Local food from your area or even an Edible Fruit arrangement–which always seems goofy and ends
up being enjoyed and fun. He could arrange to have it delivered the day he is to arrive.
Live lobster packed at the airport? Or lobster tails?
hmm shaw…uh no
send an Edible Fruit.
Really, people like them very much.
NOW, You can send me Live or dead Lobster anytime you fee like it–should I PM my address <:-P
Pretty sure you are joking about the lobster…if not, that would be a burden for the family to cook.
Maybe they cook and maybe the do not cook.
I was working with the local food theme. They pack them up on ice at Logan airport and he could take them with him. But, I’m sure he would cook for them. But, he would check with GF to see if that was a bad idea. Not clear what kind of food is distinctively local. Legal Seafoods clam chowder, I guess.