hello, so I would put up a stink. when Grooms mother has a daughter she can choose.
I am pretty calm too but wouldn’t be about this.
Graduated then out to dinner at favorite place in Boston. So hot. Then to the lake with my H and daughters. And D’s boyfriends. D1 boyfriend takes great pictures and he went out of his way to get pics of my graduation. It was a perfect weekend. I was so happy just to have my family together. We tried out the new boat too.
D1 heads off to Europe next week.
We have a Island vacation planned.
I need to take my boards and D1 needs to take hers. Waiting for permission from the certifying boards.
DTE - I thought about saying something and then just figured oh well. 
Hopefully she won’t find anything she likes in navy. 
She knows what my dress looks like. Hoping that her style is at least totally different.
Congrats on the graduations! I’m sure that you are looking forward to some downtime.
dt, congrats again! You deserve the best.
H and I arrived this a.m. On a red eye! We could not get decent seats on our normal day flight
Due to so many graduations. Also could not find a hotel room so are with D and FSIL. 4 adults and one bathroom Although spacious apt. And how could I forget that I grew up in a house this size with 7 and one bathroom…
It is cool and predictions for rain but evidently we missed the heat and humidity of last week.
Left Oregon in beautiful weather — hot at 90 but humidity 29%
D graduates med school on Sunday. We will stay in Providence for two night–a friend rented her condo to us and she will stay with friends. Clever.
I found the red eye much nicer and calmer. We boarded and they basically said, “night,night”.
Never turned the lights on again. Gave free drinks one on one quietly and offered doubles all free.Free gate to gate internet.
Our stewardess fell asleep and at one point took a blanket into the bathroom and stayed 30 minutes.
Other than H and I did not sleep and I still hours later cannot nap – I liked it better that getting up at 4am to catch An early morning flight. Jet Blue–nice plane.
RM, just not nice of her. Hope you do not have to have much to do with her.
RM, Sounds like the mom has not actually bought her dress yet? Has she specifically said she is also going to buy a navy dress? Or just told someone that that this what she was considering. I know navy is currently popular and probably a color many people, including me, would potentially gravitate to . Maybe it’s not too late to have your daughter say something or ask her fiance to do so. The groom’s mother may just not get that she should not wear the exact same color (being generous here if she has not been difficult in general?). Good luck!
oregon101, Congratulations and enjoy the festivities!
Congrats to DTE and Oregon’s D!
The only thing I’m celebrating right now is surviving “Operation Dome Down” which was a bit like wresting a drunk sumu
Now my yard needs serious and belated attention. I power-washed on Sunday but rain scuttled my deck treatment. Hopefully I’ll fit that in next weekend, because thereafter the schedule of out-of-town guests every second weekend or so begins Pool party season, hi ho!
Yes, congratulations to DTE too!
I saw both sons together this month . S2 was visiting DC from Denver. We spent a nice afternoon together for Mother’s Day. First time I’ve been with both of them on Mother’s Day in a while.
Sevmom - I don’t think she has purchased it. We don’t really know them although they only live one town over. I’ve met her 2 times and her husband once. This is after her son and my D have been together for over 3 years! They are a bit off socially I think. Being a bit generous here. I chose navy and told D to tell her. Thought is would be a good color for the fall and she told D oh that is nice I think I’ll do the same. D did know enough to ask me. I just hate to put my D in the middle of it. It will all be fine. Not like I’m going to be near her the entire night. She and I won’t even be sitting together (or that is what I keep telling myself). She only has boys and 2 of them are getting married in the span of 1 month. I think in her mind it is a color that she can wear to both which is probably true. Of course that was after I ordered mine.
Good Morning! Back from a week at the lake where I was dog sitting for D1. H was there for just two of the nights. The weather was terrible, cold and stormy. I finished all of my books and was depressed watching CNN. With no internet I was going stir crazy. I told H that my stay reconfirmed my decision to not retire there. I need to be somewhere with people to talk to.
Bit the bullet today and order my shoes. I hope they fit and that I really like them. Expensive but I just kept coming back to them and regretted that I didn’t buy the ones that I really wanted for my S’s wedding - which if I had I could wear to this but no I saved the money and now am ending up spending more. They are a 2 inch clock heel which will be okay for outside and I think stylish enough.
SHould say “block” heels. Can’t type. Must be a 3 coffee morning.
Glad we are not going to a wedding. We have been eating phenomenal food in Umbria under the tutelage of our foodie friend. Way too much, extraordinarily good food. ShawWife and students painting. I’m working but doing some hiking/walking/waddling.
Heading back to London and then home the day after tomorrow.
I really am enjoying the entire wedding process Shaw. It’s nice to be the brides side this time around. Already experienced being on the grooms side.
Enjoy the long weekend all.
Hello all. I’ve been “offline” for most of the last week. So much going on … feel as if I’ve been running all over New England recently. Last Friday H, D, FSIL and I went to “Tufts Night at The Pops” (Boston Pops) with my father. He’s a 1949 graduate. The Tufts Alumni Assoc has been organizing this event for over 100 years! It’s for graduating seniors and families, plus alumni. Since moving to Cambridge, we’ve gone several times with my dad. Great stuff.
Saturday, VERY early, D and I drove to NH for a work weekend at the family camp where the wedding is in Sept. And boy did we work! My Fitbit showed 23,000 steps for Saturday. Beautiful weather, although quite cool at night. Hoping for a similar (or even warmer) weekend for the big event.
Monday I went out to my hometown in western MA to visit B. He’s slowly improving. He ended up back in the hospital for 2 nights last week – at a previously scheduled visit at the beginning of the week his blood work showed another infection. Turned out to be C Diff. Not being medically inclined, I had to look it up; those of you in the field know it, I’m sure. Basically he got it from being on an antibiotic for quite a while from the first infection, plus being in the hospital for so long. As my SIL said, the poor guy just seem to catch a break. He got the catheter out a couple of days ago, so that’s good. He needs to eat more to gain back the weight he’s lost – he looks way too thin.
Tuesday I was back at the beach, playing 18 holes with my Women’s League. Then yesterday back to Cambridge for an appointment with an orthopedist/sports doc. The upshot is I have very, very slight arthritis in my right hip. Not too serious, but he suggested quite strongly that I stop running and do a variety of other exercise activities that don’t impact the joint so much. I’m bummed.
Tonight I’m hosting Book Club – I only do this when our crazy pup is not in residence.
@RochesterMom - My dress will most likely end up being navy blue. My go-to color is often royal blue, but, as I may have mentioned, the bridesmaids are wearing that. Re; the the length dress I liked that’s too long – I sew enough to know it could be shortened at the waist; just not sure I want to spend the money, especially since it’s so heavy. I’ve found one dress D likes that is my “Plan B” dress at the moment. I have a couple more on order to try, too. I may not end up with tea length after all. I can’t imagine FSIL’s mother would also pick navy blue …
H-U-G-E congratulations to you, @downtoearth! What an accomplishment!!!
Congrats to DTE and also Oregon’s D!
I love reading about the wedding plans. We were back in Illinois for H’s niece’s wedding last weekend and had a great time. BTW the Brides mom (my SIL) wore navy blue. Same color I wore at D’s wedding. I know it’s really popular now, but also very classic.I would not have cared if the grooms mom wore the same color, but that’s just me. As it was I wore a short dress and she wore long.
D emailed 3 sample wedding invitations for us to consider. I do have one I like best; H still has to look at them. The thing is the wording! I did not change my last name when H and I got married; it’s never been a big deal. But trying to find “correct” wording for a wedding invitation is, apparently, a big deal. Out of all the online wedding sites, most don’t even mention it. They cover every other possibility – divorced parents; remarried parent; deceased parents, etc., etc. A couple sites suggested, just for the wedding invitation, that the bride’s parents be listed as “Mr. and Mrs. father’s first name, last name.” What??? That’s NOT my name! Back in day, when H and I were married, I had no say in how the invitations were worded. At the time my family owned a small paper mill that made high quality, cotton content paper. My father was good friends with the owners of Crane & Co., so had them engrave the invitations on our paper. The wording was as traditional as you could get.
Hi CBB - I pulled D’s wedding invite to check the wording as SIL’s mom did not change her name either. Here is how it read:
…together with their parents , Jane Fall and John Fall & Kathy Smith and Bill Jones invite you…
I NEVER use Mrs. John Fall.
I think that may be similar to wording for a divorced/remarried mom. Not sure. FWIW, D did not change her name.
CBB…I hyphenate my name and never go by just H’s last name. We used the wording like FG’s above . “Mr. John Doe and Mrs.Jane Smith-Doe invite you…”
Of course you could probably use whatever wording you like, but I will say I was surprised to find the suggestion to use your husband’s last name “just for the invitation.” As a side note, I also have to point out that even after 30+ years of marriage, some of H’s family still can’t figure out how to address something like a Christmas card to us. Instead of writing “Mr. John Doe & Ms. Jane Smith,” we get things with the first line written as “Doe/Smith.” Really??
The wording I’m suggesting for D’s invitation is “Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith.” Some sites suggested that the woman’s name should come first, but I’m sure H wouldn’t like that, and I don’t care that much. Martha Stewart suggested the wording we’re using.
D isn’t changing her name, either. Yay!! I didn’t pressure her at all, but inside I’m smiling. Growing up, D and S never thought it was odd that my last name was different. Of course, when they were little and their friends would call me Mrs. Doe, I just went with it. When D was quite small, we had a Japanese family renting the house next to us. Their D was a little older than ours, and the girls used to play together. Their D always called me “D’s Mom.” I liked that!
Good morning.
Hope y’all had a good long weekend.
I am stiff and sore from weekend warrior shenanigans.
Between powerwashing and deck and terrace scrubbing and planting, work will be a welcome break Good thing I had a few social distractions because I’m pretty sure gin and tonic reduces inflammation, right?
The highlight that I predict I’ll hear about at every social gathering all summer long from mch was when I was powerwashing the far side of the deck area with my brand new space aged hose. Suddenly a geyser sprung forth from the powerwasher. Yup, the muffler burned a hole clean through my fancy new hose
kmc, aren’t you still recovering from surgery?
I don’t think there is any issue saying John Smith and Helen Smath and Ralph Lauren and Lauren Ralph invite you to the wedding of their daughter Rachel Smith and their son Waldo Lauren. ShawWife never changed her name (she sort of regrets it now a bit as hers is longer and always misspelled and much longer to sign when she has done edition prints) but we are often referred to as “Shawbridge/ShawWife family.” The funniest thing was when ShawSon was in middle school at a private boys school where manners were part of the education. And, after being invited over to our house, one of his friends was trying to say thank you and said, “Thank you, Mrs. ShawSon’s mom” as he couldn’t quite figure out what to say. Others said Mrs. ShawWife.