<p>Downtoearth, I’m glad that part is over, and hope you’re still feeling ok.</p>
<p>Get healthy. moms–and stay healthy everyone else!</p>
<p>Regarding overseas travel on school trips:</p>
<p>Two years ago my oldest two kids went to Italy on a school choir trip. There were loads of parent chaperones and a whole lot of rules, so no worries about them getting into trouble.</p>
<p>But the cold D went with quickly turned into bronchitis. The whole trip everyone teased her about how much she was coughing, how they could hear hear coughing through the hotel walls, etc…but no one took her to a doctor (she didn’t ask either.) A z pack as soon as she got home cleared it up.</p>
<p>I’ve thought a lot about that and don’t really blame the chaperones or teachers for not seeking medical attention. Unless someone was bleeding profusely or unconscious or something, I doubt that I would take someone else’s kid to the doctor in a foreign country.</p>
<p>But that is exactly what makes overseas travel this year so worrisome. If a kid starts to get very sick, will the chaperones wait too long to take her to the hospital?</p>
<p>Of course, my fears are colored by my friend’s experience. Not a lot to report on him. Doesn’t need dialysis (good) and off the heart meds (good). Still having trouble with oxygen levels in blood. I feel so bad for his wife and kids. HE doesn’t know he’s fighting for his life - he’ll have to be told about all this later. It’s his family who is worried 24/7.</p>
<p>ok so it looks like she wants to go just feels worried about the distance and food. The trip is in January. We gave her the deposit. since a limited amount of kids can go someone would be willing to take her place. She is a very responsible kid, and I should be feeling better by then. I also have a college friend who was in the army there and his wife is from there as well and I have contacted him, You guys get me thinking about my resources I have also had her talk to her advisor and I will talk in depth with the person going with them.
I have also asked my D1 to look into the titer situation. that can get her out of a vaccine for chicken pox if it is ok.
Cardianl Fang surgery over turned out well thank goodness. I dont know how I would have been about that Good for him though
so hard to be far away, but looks like we are muddling through, slowly letting go some days are better than others.!</p>
<p>DTE,
Things should only go better from here…</p>
<p>Quick recovery wishes to all who are in need of them</p>
<p>Cardinal Fang, I guess you son was trying to be considerate - not one of those kids who burdens his parents with his problems!</p>
<p>Fang Jr, if anything like my S, knows you worry and either wanted to spare you the worry or (what I suspect MY son feels and why he did not tell me about a trip to the hospital until after I heard from the ambulance co) spare himself your reaction and the need to explain it all.</p>
<p>S hates to explain anything to me, and, like this morning, heaven forbid I even ask an innocent question about what he did last night or if his best girl <em>friend</em> (with whom he has been hanging and texting the entire time here) wanted to join us for dinner. He got all annoyed and said he did not want to talk to me about this stuff - but <em>this stuff</em> can be anything. I explained I am not prying, just trying to include him and her if they want to be. A simple no thanks would suffice</p>
<p>SO while he started out this visit home as a maturing young man, he is reverting. I guess it happens in stages. Pretty soon he’ll realize it is easier just to act like an adult. Or it could be as we approach nest leaving time again, he is back to fouling it to make it easier to leave</p>
<p>So I’m hoping all of you wise friends might know the answer to this question. As many of you know one of my Ds is thinking of transferring. All of the transfer apps have a form that must be completed by the Dean of Students that basically lets the transfer school know the student is in good standing. My question concerns the confidentiality given to the student when this is filed. Since D plays a sport can the Dean’s office share the possibility of the transfer with the athletic dept or coach??? She is not asking for a release to talk with other coaches at this time. Would like to post this in the Ask the Dean forum but I can’t. What do you think?</p>
<p>Fang Jr was actually very sweet about it. The first call, he said didn’t want me to worry when I heard from my husband that he was calling from the hospital asking for insurance information. At that time, the xrays not having been read yet, he didn’t know about the broken finger and the surgery. And he did call right after the surgery.</p>
<p>But he’s not a kid who burdens his mother with excess information, I can definitely say that. How are things. “Pretty good.” How are your classes? “Pretty good.” Are you making friends? “Yeah.”</p>
<p>Between S’s sophomore and junior years of HS he studied Arabic in the capital of a mid-east country. He lived with a host family. While he was with them he got the flu, became dehydrated, and was hospitalized for 3 days. We learned about it only after the fact because he insisted we not be told, since he knew we would only worry and there wasn’t anything we could do about it anyway.</p>
<p>Son checks in and stuff… but its all somewhat rushed and a little superficial. I really miss the organic nature of most of our conversations where I learn a real “truth” about who he is. So… I’ve now resorted to bribes. While it doesn’t speak too highly of a political career if he chooses to accept, I sent him an email that had about 10 questions and I’ve promised him $5 per answer as long as it meets two requirements: it’s longer than a single word (yes, no or pretty good all constitute one-word answers), or if it is one word he offers some longer insight to something else. He stands before an opportunity to make an easy $50 as well as a box full of his favorite cookies. We’ll see if he takes the bate,but I fully admit that some questions are more probing in nature than others - although none about girls thank you very much.</p>
<p>So go ahead. How desperate am I?</p>
<p>Hi All–Just returned from Maui last night :D. I am here to report that traveling without children is amazing! 
Missed all of you and see that a lot has happened. Hoping all the sick ones are feeling better by now. So hard to believe that the Holidays are around the corner. S will bring his roommate home for Thanksgiving which is great as S will be more pleasant with a friend here. He was not much fun on PW. Will sure be glad when he and his GF break up as that is frequently the controlling element to his moods. I am sure when it finally happens that we will not actually be told for a long time…
Anyway, I highly recommend a trip away for all of us (I will go again of course as tour director:cool:). We hiked through a bamboo forest and sailed and snorkled and dolphans played in front of the boat. Returned to rain of course.</p>
<p>I think its hard to get them to talk about much. We do get answers to questions mostly. My D never liked to talk on the phone.
I have no experience with the transfer process. I hope you get an answer. i know of one person and her daughter actually did it without her knowledge DONE DEAL. it was ok because she moved closer to home and she was not an athlete and money was not an object. I give your girl lots of KUDOS this is not easy and to you too!!!</p>
<p>Oregon congrats on the trip glad you had a great time! My H promises me one we shall see!!!</p>
<p>Wow, all these trips. How fun!</p>
<p>That’s why it was so nice this past weekend back in Ohio…I didn’t need to ask prying questions, I just listened in as S chatted with his friends who are still back in Ohio, either at OSU or Miami (also on fall break? several friends were in) or still in high school. I learned a lot that I would not have learned with any amount of direct questioning.</p>
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Funny thing every time I post I feel nervous in case Im an outsider and its obvious
.then I read the kind caring replies to my news, The Analyst, khsstitches, #theorymom, bblfraser, Treetopleaf, SJTH, historymom, thank you all, and I realise that this virtual community is about as close to a perfect therapy session regarding my S as I can get! I still feel too shy to comment on the plights/celebrations of other posters but I guess in time will get there
my S has opened the floodgates with his communications last night 5 smss and three emails including the files of some of his computer graphics work, and a photo of him in his new clothes! He has heard of 2 As so far for his midterms. I have been in Johannesburg, (only a 90 minute trip by plane) for a solo shopping/ movies trip a veritable mecca compared to Harare, and have returned much buoyed by the retail therapy.
A question please? For those considering internships for summer 2010 for their freshman offspring, how far in advance would the Manhattan companies consider applications? Advertising industry. Obviously a guesstimate is great just dont want to be a complete dork and have S send in an application inappropriately
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<p>I get personal information like #TM and Cardinal Fang, but get much more detailed academic information. If I were to ask what he was doing Saturday evening, he’d tell me he was going out with some people. No specifics would be revealed without a crowbar.</p>
<p>With regard to surgery, I suspect that he didn’t want to worry you or have to hassle with a worried mother, Cardinal Fang. I think my son would provide more information. But then again, I didn’t bother my parents about lots of stuff (at one point, I really ran out of money during grad school and was working hard to have enough to pay bills and eat and have never burdened my parents with this knowledge).</p>
<p>Zim - I think I would refer him to the career center or equiv at his school who will guide him appropriately and might even have suggestions for freshman experiences. However, I am going to fully admit that beyond a basic job for him to build up his cash reserves, I hadn’t really considered my kid would be doing something so “professional” this summer along those lines. Seriously, I can barely think past Thanksgiving let alone summer</p>
<p>My friend is being put on an ECMO. I’ve heard a couple of nice ECMO success stories lately. A local 16 year old was put on one and three weeks later she was back in school. I know us 50 somethings don’t pop back up as quickly, but here’s praying it does what it’s supposed to do.</p>
<p>I have to say through it all i missed the friend illness missypie, we use alot of ECMO in my unit, it can give everything a rest in order to recover. and we have alot of sucess, but its pretty serious. praying for your friend!!! We 50 year olds can be tough too!!!</p>