<p>that is the confusing part about the H1N1 when they dont test then how do you knowif you need the vaccine? My college kid cant locate either vaccine. I’m hoping to get it when she is home on vacation. My d2 and I had it. not my H.
I have made plane resrvations for D to come for Christmas
I stopped by on my way back from chemo at Lord and Taylors to look for a dress for my D2 semi, I do know them so i picked a dress hoping she would like it and the ssize would be right it was a 2 but sometimes she needs a 0. anyway she loved it and it was perfect.
prob easier than taking her and trying on a million dresses. I was happy i was up to it!
I am on the second phase of the chemo and supposedly better tolerated i am so hoping to getting out . because the first 4 kicked my butt.
Missypie maybe you H needs to learn that live is random and s…t happens. I too used to feel that if I did all the right things that nothing would happen but I find with my own situation and being a nurse that life is very random and happens to the best of people.
Nm sorry about the knee.they can be tricky
and good for the girl getting in touch with her heritage. I am such a mongrel, I often wish I had something to identify with myself. but when you are young its hard to know that
amongst the unwanted critters . congrats on the new puppy what name did you decide.</p>
<p>Actually Missy… she is best to get it down with estimates and submit on Jan 1 (it’s just a computer click) because, as they say, early birds do seem to get a slightly better worm. When our oldest first went to college in 2003, we had just suffered a huge business loss that had pretty much cleaned us out. The problem your friend will face is that earnings will be based on a year in arrears (which obviously isn’t going to qualify her for much). Now, I havent looked at these forms in about 8 or so years, but the do ask for estimates in income for the next year and an explanation. Not sure what their situation was, but we’ve always had a tax guy and most are not exactly busy this time of year so it’s a better time in the calendar year. It will be MUCH less stressful to fill it out as best she can now, submit the estimates on Jan 1 and then make any corrections later. And if she doesn’t have a password and online signature… that takes at least a few days to get going. It would just be my opinion that even though life is so completely raw right now, it will be far less stressful to do the majority of the “fill in the blank” now rather than when the deadlines are REALLY looming.</p>
<p>Thanks Modadunn. At this point she and her husband’s close friends (law partners) are trying to figure out where the money even is…she knows they had varous investments but she hasn’t a clue what or where they are…The truly “traditional” marriage where the husband handles 100% of the finances. At this point she couldn’t begin to fill out anything. I do think it is an excellent idea to look at last year’s tax return…that should list the accounts at least.</p>
<p>Good Morning! Loved the Louvre and Masterpiece Exhibit! Wow…the paintings were my favorite! Some were so lifelike (Vermeer) , almost like a photograph! Very cool! Got lost in the other galleries trying to find our way back to the Holiday party and it was wonderful. H was delighted to look at displays of ancient swords in one area and I explored some of the Modern Art displays. Then wine, dinner and good conversation. A very nice evening.</p>
<p>D2 is still struggling to fill an opening with her spring schedule. There is a Marketing class she wants to take but you have to declare as a business major as it is a 300 level course. She went to fill out the paperwork and the head of the department was very nice but said it is too early to declare. When D2 told her she is already a sophmore prof pulled up her credits. Prof was surprised but still wants her to wait. grrr…it is the only class that fits in her schedule and will transfer.</p>
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<p>You said it! It’s sort of the opposite of the “nothing is my fault” lawsuit-happy segment of society. It seems to be such a midwestern /northern European immigrant thing. It’s even one of the 95 Theses in Lake Wobegone Days:</p>
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<p>Ah, Missy, Garrison is so much fun and indeed haven’t read him in years. Thanks for the reminder.
Moda -Indeed, rapier quick wit is all fun and games (when four hours away.) Up close, it’s more fun when trained on others : )
And Missy - re Fin Aid advice about how to handle insurance money, there are a couple of cracker jack fin aid workers over in the Financial Aid/Scholarships thread who I am positive could give you a great head start on what could be a compressed and complicated time re: fin aid. She needs to fill out FAFSA even just to have the option of the Plus loan, which is a good backup plan if she is uncertain of her fluidity when all the dust clears.</p>
<p>DTE-- I used to do that for older D. I’d buy a couple dresses and usually one worked. That is so not the case with D16. She is not the petite thing and so it’s a little bit trickier. There is usually so much emotion involved that Frankly, what I’d love to find is some sort of stylist who could dress her so that she feels cute and I can live with it.</p>
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<p>I thought that my fit daughters had no body image issues, but of late I can tell that it bothers older D that she weighs more than I do. I have little bird bones, so I need to stay thin…plus at my age, any extra weight manifests in rolls of fat around my waist. She, on the other hand, is fit and gorgeous and dances 10+ hours a week. It bothers her when I eat less than her to watch my weight…she doesn’t get that my metabolism has slowed to a crawl over the years. Ah, girls!</p>
<p>Missypie, perhaps your friend should look into hiring an accountant to help her sort out her finances-- there will be the will, and the bequests, and it’s all so complicated, even if he did good estate planning as he probably did. Maybe, since it’s all so recent, one of her friends could help her find one.</p>
<p>She probably knows an accountant who will help her for free. But she’s really even not there yet. It’s more like “What is our bank?” “From what account was the car payment made?” Right now she and some friends are just sorting through stacks of paper trying to figure out the bare bones info.</p>
<p>downtoearth–congrats on finding the “right” dress. I did the same one year for D. The new doggie’s name is Millicent and goes by Millie. She is amazingly well trained. Crate trained, potty trained, has not chewed or barked. It is only day 3 but other than not knowing her name and not coming when called unless coaxed, she is amazing. Walks/heels on a leash. Which makes me feel very sad for whoever lost her. Clearly she was someone’s loved pet. Not spayed or chipped which is the confusing part. Oh–do I seem smitten with her?
missypie–yes, friend should fill Fafsa out even if just guessing. Some school get touchy if it is late and the numbers can be adjusted later. I have a note in front of me to make a file for our D and S in case something happens to us. </p>
<p>S called! He talked! of course he wanted things but still was much more mature sounding. So now besides Billards and Outdoor Club (was driving 1hr on a Thurs night to climb at state u–guess better than drinking on a Thurs night) he is on the “Service and Moral” committee that he helped form in his dorm. What a name–but I did not laugh outloud. Tried to actually converse about the club but he was done. Grades? “fine” of course. Does anyone know what “my grades are fine” actually computes to as per a GPA?</p>
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<p>I’ll tell you when Son’s semester grades come out because that’s what his are. “Fine.”</p>
<p>I think it means “I’m not burning the place up but I can still keep my merit aid.”</p>
<p>I told my d who was initially upset with some of her college answers, she was so close, anyway she is delighted where she is, that she needed to keep her grades and do well because the same kids she was competing with for colleges would be the same ones she would compete with for grad school. (sorry about the run on sentences) She is working hard we will find out in dec.
I was delighted to do the mom thing because I was going to have a friend take her for the dress and I wanted to do it. She wasnt worried because she knows I know what she likes, and I wanted to do it and was soooo happy.</p>
<p>NMn – I have been wanting so much so go and see that exhibit! I think I have to get on YOUR invite list as it sounds like it was such a fun evening. We, on the other hand, we’re just glad to get out and meet some new people! </p>
<p>My father in law said a lot of their invitations these days are for benefits. With triple tuitions at our house, while we can afford the admission to some of these things, writing a big check is, more often than not, not in our budget. 
What’s unfortunate however is that I’d love to go but I think I would feel weird not pulling out the master check book (vs my piddly one).</p>
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<p>My daughter’s grades are “fine” also. I guess we should all be proud of our “fine” children.</p>
<p>In my son’s case, when he tells me his grades are fine, they are. He predicted 800’s on several SATs and 5’s on AP’s and got them. He told me, “I think I did pretty well on the Econ mid-term” and found out later that he got a 99 (and was annoyed at the dumb mistake that cost him a point). He also was surprised that he got an 86 on a math test and discovered that he had solved a problem a different way than the professor was expecting but was convinced he was correct. He met with the professor, explained why his answer was correct, and got the grade raised. His econ professor told me that he reversed a d and wrote b (or vice versa) but had a) done the right calculations; and b) circled d but wrote b (as a good dyslexic can). He went in and the professor gave him credit for that as well. </p>
<p>When he’s not sure, he tells me as well. “I think I have between an A- and an A” for the following reasons and “here is my plan to make it an A by the end of the course.” As long as he can find a career that plays to his strengths, which are prodigious, and not to his weaknesses, which are pretty significant, he will be scary. </p>
<p>The same did not used to be true for my HS junior daughter. She thought she had handed in all of her work after she was sick but hadn’t. She thought her grades were fine until discovery at the end of the marking period. This is the first year when she a) fully caught up after being sick; b) is doing well in all of her courses but one; and c) is successfully raising her grade in that course. EDM, I think (frontal lobe development is clearly kicking in). Sighs of relief can be heard.</p>
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<p>Yesterday when I asked my HS junior D how she did on a test she replied, “I know I didn’t fail it.” Comforting.</p>
<p>LOL missypie–gosh shawbridge if my S ever said that many words in a row I would know for sure that aliens had invaded the earth.
Yes, I propose a TGIF toast to all of our kids with “FINE” grades!
well done moms and dads.</p>
<p>My understanding of the “Grades? Fine” phenomenon was that it actually translates to:</p>
<p>“Parentoid: I do not presently wish to discuss my grades with you, because in magical fairy land, they’re going to be even better once I put off procrastinating tomorrow and finish my essay. I realize I will eventually have to discuss my fine grades with you, and prefer to do it when they’re truly fine, which will be any moment now. I do not need you, Parentoid, to tell me I shouldn’t be playing at the open mic tonight or building a giant robot puppet in the art studio or heading off to a rave instead of studying harder. I prefer that you offer these opinions once it’s too late to do anything constructive about it. In the mean time, everything’s FINE here at the whitehouse ; )”</p>
<p>Just kidding. Sort of. Maybe. Who knows : )</p>
<p>(McSon, in actual fact, has been quite up front about areas of triumph and a few areas of trials, but prior to a recent uptick in “EDM” the above was frequently his m.o.)</p>
<p>kmccrindle - I think you’ve nailed it!</p>