<p>Missy, does the Aspie diagnosis involve any auditory processing delay/issue? My son has auditory processing disorder, has the same problem with languages, also has a great musical ear (that’s actually his field) and his HS Spanish teacher always thought he should stick with it despite the conversational (hearing part) incapability (he didn’t.)
If he’s in the same boat, even IF LATIN is hard at the school, it’s still a dead language so it would still avoid any auditory processing issues. Sometimes, some schools will also allow you to take “culture” courses instead, I am told.
Cheers,
K</p>
<p>We were staying in Almeria most of that trip. I have no idea what towns we passed through to get there. At one point, H actually went around a road closed sign because he saw some construction vehicles doing this and was sure that he could just cut through and save a few hours. We almost went over a cliff. Another time, the road just turned into a goat track and we had to back the car down a winding mountain road for several miles before we could turn it around. I almost got out and walked, which come to think of it I have threatened to do many, many times with H driving (like taking the car out on the ice on a lake in Wisconsin).</p>
<p>missypie, I highly recommend a summer language immersion program abroad for your son, particularly if he has a good ear. S1 received 6 credit hours for a 6-wk summer program after his freshman year and swears immersion is the only way to learn a language. I think it is pass/fail and pretty hard to fail if you try so very different than taking it at the college. Plus, S actually learned to speak the language, which did not happen in high school.</p>
<p>I’ll have to consider the emersion program. He could take I and II in the two summer terms at the CC but that would have him taking summer school until he goes back to school. A pass/fail prgram would be great. I just found out that the local CC does not offer Latin. Interesting.</p>
<p>missypie–how about sign over the summer. The GF could be hired to tutor him or you give them $ to go somewhere like a coffee shop to practice. My S would do anything to be with GF --even study!
Also, going way back where I think you mentioned that your S has a psych student peer mentor or some such thing. (trying to say this in a helpful way) he needs/must make immed. contact with this person. There could be an off beat chance that this person could take an interest in him and possible even be “hired” to be his organizer. Either paid $ or paid in care packages. In HS I did find a guy we knew to prod S in some things and it work beautifully(and paid him for his time). A slightly older person can be so influential. Now–the magic question is how to get S to make and develop the contact. Mine was in HS so that was easier. hmmm. I know I would have to restrain myself from going to the school and going to the tutoring center or the deans office and finding an organizer for him and paying as if a tutor. Just my thoughts and I think you are an amazing mom and support for your S. Me? I am in the middle of consequences/rewards with my S and his scholarship appl. I made the due date tomorrow. D is here to edit, which he will accept over me. He is rather stuck because his advisor nominated him so he pretty much has to follow through…I am just here to make sure it is a good effort and not at the last minute, which is what he said he was going to do. Otherwise, I am shocked and super pleased to say that he has been more helpful and nicer to me than in his entire life (kid you not–tough baby). In someways having 4 drivers and 3 cars has humbled him as I have made it clear that I ( and D when she has classes) am top dog.</p>
<p>We were told that the peer mentor would contact him but he’s going to contact her after class today. I told Son that she may be swamped…there are probably a whole lot of freshman who realized (once grades came out) that using her services might not be a bad idea!</p>
<p>could he ask her if she know someone he could work with (again–maybe pay?) if she is too busy. She may be the contact he needs to find a one on one. I do hope he will be upfront about his needs. He sounds like such nice guy and hopefully she will want to find a way to be helpful. My S would so minimize what he needed that the listeneer would not have a clue what was really needed.
Off to to errands in a rainy wind storm… will check back later.</p>
<p>S is meeting with the head of advising as we speak. She said she would e-mail me after the meeting to let me know how it went and what they decided as a plan of action for S.</p>
<p>I doubt anything will be resolved, as S and I have talked about all his options already, but maybe he will get the feeling someone is watching him and he will need to be accountable.</p>
<p>Assessments still not here.</p>
<p>Limbo land</p>
<p>I think accountability is going to be a big factor for S as well. He seems enthusiastic about his courses so far and told me several times that he was getting his act together. I really hope that’s the case. </p>
<h1>TM, I think all we can do is hope for the best. Plan for the worst. It is tough being in limbo and hopefully the assessments will arrive soon.</h1>
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<h1>tm, what’s the hold up with this? We got S’s results about a week after his 2nd testing session.</h1>
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<p>We have found her to be very helpful, after she managed to break through S’s “everything is fine” answers. Hope your results are similar…</p>
<p>(btw, I just arrived home, after dropping S off.)</p>
<p>Back from shopping with D2. She is a little bored! Doesn’t return to school for 2 more weeks. Picked up some cute tops for spring break and also a pea coat. Lots of deals out there! She has been doing lots of reading but is anxious to get the release from dr. tomorrow so she can start exercising. Hoping she orders her textbooks tonight.</p>
<p>DragonLady
S was tested just a few days before Christmas so the holidays are what the hold up was/is. Supposedly in the mail, overnighted Monday-means will likely get them today since overnight to this town is hardly ever overnight.</p>
<p>Glad to hear your report on the Advisory Department. </p>
<p>Yeah, the old everything-is-fine mantra, as if they say it enough it will be true.</p>
<p>I think my S actually believed everything was fine. He was quite shocked to see those 2 NRs in A term. After B term he was reluctant to check his grades, and he waited until after Christmas.</p>
<p>I took his nervousness about it as a good sign :eek:, of a sort. EDM, maybe. First step: anticipate that everything might not just magically turn out ok, Second step: take action to ensure things do turn out ok. I think he may have taken that 1st step, now we just need for him to take the 2nd step.</p>
<p>(As an aside: I bet our guys passed each other in the DSO office. Mine needed to stop in there between 3 and 3:30 to pick up some paperwork.)</p>
<p>NOT happy at the moment
Got the report on the meeting from the Advising office.
Was told S loses 10% of his scholarship and can only earn it back after a stellar next YEAR. I was under the impression that if he finsihed the year out at par, all would be forgiven. Apparently not so</p>
<p>AND I hear from them that son declined the tutoring and coaching, claimed he would use it if he needed it, but that he had merely screwed up and left things til too late and so he knows what he needs to do to fix it.</p>
<p>Dang him anyway. Why won’t he accept help? I will need to speak to him about this and it won’t be pretty.</p>
<p>Oh #TM. I am so sorry and completely understand your frustration. I don’t know how you feel about ultimatiums, but I would have a few. I think my older D would have some good advice as well. It seems to be one thing to not ask for help but to refuse it is to create a perfect soup for deep regrets. He is too smart to sabotage himself.</p>
<p>I don’t wish bad college results on anyone, but can I say I’m so grateful to the other posters in this thread talking about their children struggling at college? I was feeling so alone.</p>
<p>Cardinal Fang - Yes, I truly appreciate the candor that posters have displayed in discussing their kids, seeking advice, etc. Actually in the past 6 mos, I’ve noticed that CC is no longer inhabited exclusively by impossibly perfect children and their parents. I know it has helped me tremendously. Thanks!</p>
<p>hey, wherever I show up, perfection ends. Never fear</p>
<p>We all do have perfect children…they are perfectly human, they make mistakes, and eventually learn from them.</p>
<p>LMAO!! (I just figured out tonight what that means!)</p>
<p>LOL woody!</p>
<h1>theory that is a poo sandwhich! Seriously, I am so sorry and yes your willingness to honestly express your worries helps those of us who also have kids who struggled first term. I wish you and your S nothing but the best and hope fervently that he, my D and the rest of the silly kids out there who don’t seek the help WE ARE PAYING FOR THEM TO RECEIVE figure out that it’s something they need to do and excell next semester.</h1>
<p>boysx3 well said</p>
<p>Cardinal fang you and your kid are in some good company!</p>