<p>NM, sounds like your D had a lot of peer pressure to ward off on her team. No wonder the feel was not right. Welcome back to the cold. Thanks for your positive thoughts for #TS</p>
<p>Missypie - great is a great answer. Must lighten your heart a bit.</p>
<p>College_q - your D must have won a place in her ex’s family’s heart. What a unique story</p>
<p>NM, exciting news on the job front. Is she already committed to job offer one or is she still in play to consider job offer two? Keeping my fingers crossed for your D2 on the scholarship.</p>
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<p>Seems like the school would keep better tabs on their “investment.” Someone spends their time recruiting these players, the school gives scholarships. Then it’s fine for them to just stop going to class? Is it all so they can play for one season?</p>
<p>Oh, no! I just made a HUGE mistake! I booked our spring vacation for the wrong week!!! Now I have major cancel and rebooking fees. I am sick to my stomach that I booked a week later than needed. Arrgghhh! 
First time ever in all the years I have been doing this.</p>
<p>NM, when I book travel, I now force myself to close my office door, forward the phone and concentrate. That is because a few years back I booked tickets to Paris for the wrong day and had to pay $100 per ticket to change. I have to tell myself, “I will not multi-task. I will not multi-task.”</p>
<p>Sorry, what was that Missy? I was multi-tasking ; )</p>
<p>Oh no, NM! That is my worst nightmare and I have come close on more than one occasion, believe me,</p>
<p>H got all 4 of us booked for spring vacation (we’re lucky that D & S have the same week off) last week. He’s always one to research the heck out of all possibilities, etc. etc. So, it’s all done, for the best price we could get – all good, right? Wrong! Turns out he booked himself to leave from here on a day that he’ll be in CA!! Fortunately it only cost him $75.00 to change his tix. Now, if I had done that, … :)</p>
<p>All the weather forecasts for today said “snow showers.” Well, we have at least 3 inches of those showers on the ground. When it looked like a blizzard outside, the radio announcer was saying, “possibility of snow showers.” Honestly, go look out the window!</p>
<p>I did that once and called RIGHT AWAY and they fixed it for free. Of course, that was before there were such hugh fees, but I did think you had at least a few hours.</p>
<p>I did the same as Modadunn at least once. I get so nervous when I actually buy the tickets–even after doing it for so long. I almost always buy them at 1-3 am. It use to be Sunday night and then it was Tuesday and Wed. but I don’t know anymore. Just a secret time that you could get a better deal for a few hours. So H would get up to see the reservation next to his sink.</p>
<p>While we were away D2 asked us about the possibility of living off campus next year while she attends her new transfer school. A friend of hers who is at a different school asked her if she would consider an apartment between the two schools so they could live together. We don’t think this is a good idea as it would really limit her meeting new people on her campus. She hasn’t brought it up again but what do you think? Am I missing any upside?</p>
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<p>That’s exactly what I would think.</p>
<p>And what about Honors program??? What exactly is the upside for doing this at a small to mid-size university where classes are not large?</p>
<p>Some schools offer honors housing and sometimes it’s nicer than the normal freshman housing. </p>
<p>We were told at one school that the honors kids often find some of their honors classes to be “easier” in that there are a few major projects instead of a bunch of smaller “busy work” projects.</p>
<p>In our “school shopping”, some honors programs seemed fabulous while others were in the category of “why bother.”</p>
<p>NM- I would really discourage the off campus living. H’s niece did this as a transfer and is regretting it. Check with the school’s housing office and see if they have dorms where transfers are housed together. Some of them do. In my own (long ago) college years, I was a transfer from a cc, assigned to a dorm “transfer floor” and it was a great way to meet people.</p>
<p>NM, you may be the first transfer on this thread but probably won’t be the last. If I were you (and I certainly may be soon), I’d have this feeling of “I checked out schools already. I’m done with all of this.”</p>
<p>If my kid wanted to live off campus as a sophomore, I think I’d have less of a problem if everyone living together attended the same school. A lot of schools only guarantee housing the first year and there isn’t a lot of dorm space for upper classmen. However, I think she probably brought it up just to see what your feelings were on the subject. And if she looks back to her freshman year’s beginnings I imagine she’d realize that not living in the hub of campus life was not exactly an ideal situation for her.</p>
<p>Son is off on winter break today for the next week. I honestly wish I had a better handle on where he was going this weekend (skiing with friends is about all I know) and how he was getting around. I keep thinking I should have a friends cell phone number but to ask for one of his friend’s cellphone numbers might come off as really weird. But i keep imagining the issues if for some reason he disappears off the face of the earth. Where would I start looking when I am so far away? Of course, if I were really honest my concerns are more nosey than ones of safety.</p>
<p>Yes…I have that feeling! Thankfully D2 has done all the leg work and filing of forms on her own. She has asked some questions of us but has really done all the work by herself. She doesn’t see a big value in the Honors program but wanted another opinion. I told her it could help in getting letters of recommendation down the road. Since she is quiet and doesn’t put herself out there it could help foster a closer relationship with profs and a chance for them to get to know her. There is transfer housing available but she would prefer the on-campus apartments if she can get in since most juniors and seniors are housed there. Still don’t know if she will enter as a soph or a junior. She is up for at least one significant transfer scholarship…holding my breath on that front!</p>
<p>Modadunn…I always make my girls tell me exactly where they will be in case of an emergency. Just tell S you need more info in case there is an emergency. I bet he will understand.</p>
<p>Modadunn: I totally get the “wanting to know where they are” phenomenon and like your honesty that it is our curiosity rather than fears that really drive it. Letting go of knowing is the hardest work at this stage but (sigh) it really is our job. I try to remind myself that prior parent generations had no access to all that we have that keeps up our addiction…with Skype and cell phones we have so much more information about their dailty lives than my parents (or their parents) ever did. I’m sure my grandmother wouldn’t have wanted images of her 17 year old at war in the Pacific of course…When I do get into the “safety” what ifs…I remind myself that in reality bad news does get conveyed pretty quickly when it needs to because other folks really do jump in to help with true emergencies. So short of true abduction by UFOs, they are 99% of the time just fine… and we would probably be more worried if we could actually see/know what they were up to…</p>
<p>Exactly mmaah! My parents didn’t have a clue where I was once I walked out the door or got in a car. I will admit that one time we went skiing kind of near my house a couple of hours away. Unbeknownst to me, my parents had installed an alarm and so when I pulled out the key from the secret rock and then proceeded to set off the alarm, when the cops arrived I had to point out my picture on the wall to prove I was a member of the household! The 'Rents had no idea I was coming home (mostly because we decided at the last minute), nor were they aware of my then taking the group of friends to the country club for dinner and signing for it!! Talk about a bone-headed move on my part. So really I have no room to talk. I was in HUGE trouble over that one.</p>