<p>My mother actually made me do that as well. She didn’t make me, but strongly encouraged me to. I was a senior, young woman from hometown that I’d never met came to college and was having difficulty adjusting. Funny thing- when I was a freshman, senior from hometown was strongly encouraged to meet me and make sure I was adjusting by his parents.</p>
<p>I obviously didn’t know the girl and didn’t even have a description of her, so it wasn’t like I was suggesting he “date” her, if he even has a concept of dating (my boys do not make good boyfriend material). She was a transfer student and that does make it harder to find people to connect with. I didn’t think it was any big deal at all and thought his reaction was very self-centered. But, I suppose it could have come across as some sort of blind date, in which case the girl was probably equally mortified with her mother. It sounds like they acted adult about it in that they met, swung by a couple of parties where S1 introduced her around and never crossed paths again.</p>
<p>This is so funny:</p>
<p>[Father</a> Still Has Complicated Series Of File Folders With Grown Son’s Name On Them | The Onion - America’s Finest News Source](<a href=“The Onion | America's Finest News Source.”>The Onion | America's Finest News Source.)</p>
<p>When my H was a sophomore or Jr in college, his mom set up his driving from MN to CT with the daughter of a friend of hers. Apparently she was a mute and ate bran muffins from St Paul to New Haven. It was somewhat like when Harry met Sally, but with a really unattractive and socially inept Sally. H said it scarred him for life. My suggestion, that he wasn’t exactly a chatty Cathy and could easily go for days without speaking if not spoken to directly, was not appreciated.</p>
<p>Older D would probably do it, begrudgingly. S no but would excuse it as he is just too busy. D16 would probably freak out, tell me that I am ruining her life and she wished she had a “normal” parent and it’s just unreal that her parents continue to do things specifically meant to humiliate and embarrass her. Good times, good times.</p>
<p>Missy… I found that to be so bittersweet. Most probably because that will be my husband. I have my own system, this is true, but mostly … oh just let me do it. 
Loved it.</p>
<p>Missypie, hilarious. What is so funny is I will probably be that parent!</p>
<p>Last year I did a pretty good job of throwing away the college application stuff as it became irrellevant because I needed the drawer space (although I kept the folder of info on my “crush” school that Son did not attend until Son was already in college.)</p>
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<p>Moda, I keep wondering if our twin-daughters-separated-by-a-year would love or hate each other if they met IRL.</p>
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<p>Me too, but I can pretty much guarantee that they’d hate both of us. However, I imagine that your D can also be the kind of girl that I would find completely charming. Sometimes I get reviews of my D that I have to concede that at least she treats everyone else as she has been raised to treat people. I call it SSS… Short Stick Syndrome. I get it.</p>
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<p>Yup, pretty much a sweetheart except to immediate family. (I guess because she knows how *truly stupid *we are.)</p>
<p>OK… everyone listen up. Advice needed.</p>
<p>Son had his wallet stolen and another kid who was working out at the same time had his wallet and his cell phone taken. While I do not know all the details, somehow S has gotten the kid talking (they texted the kids phone etc) and the thief texted back to Son’s phone from his OWN phone. Not a student. However, he confessed or bragged that the college kids can be so stupid and said he’d stolen a couple of wallets and several laptops from the library and other spots around campus. He also somewhere in the conversation told s that he also had X and something else for sale (son named a drug and I can’t recall what it was). Anyway… son told the police the whole story. Said he had the kids name etc. Also told public safety. They said there is nothing they can do except to accuse him of taking son’s wallet. Son doesn’t like that because this kid knows who he is. There is also something in there about getting some of his stuff back (apparently he got his bank card and driver’s license, but not his student ID).</p>
<p>So I am thinking… ok, if the police are saying they are doing nothing, and public safety has said there isn’t much they can do either, I was thinking… send a tip to the student newspaper. Let them get on the police and/or public safety and do a little research about the amount of theft on campus, etc. (I know it’s not too extreme, but I say, let’s keep it this way)</p>
<p>although then I wonder, are the police and public safety really NOT doing anything? or just telling S there isn’t anything they can do while they launch a more detailed investigation and watching the guy? They told son that beyond accusing him of taking the wallet - because really, it’s not like there is an eyewitness or anything - not much they can do beyond what would amount to petty charge that would easily be dismissed. </p>
<p>So… opinions, thoughts, ideas? And oh… I asked son how he got the guy to admit all this stuff and talk so much (he’s texted AND talked to him at length)… he said, he really didn’t know. I told him he belongs in a DA’s office and Elliott on Law and Order would be impressed. The other side of me says…and loudly… . do not engage with this guy!!! But my journalistic side says… there is a story here worth writing.</p>
<p>Moda,
Is this the time to contact Dean? Just a thought. There are safety issues involved for your S, as well as others</p>
<p>I think modadunnS should have a screen name of gumshoe.</p>
<p>TheAnalyst - I can’t believe you lived to tell the tale of S1 and lonesome freshman.</p>
<p>Re: The Onion. I confess. On Sunday, I asked woodyH to pick up some new file folders. The one with S’s birth announcement, expired student visa, AP scores from 5 years ago and the one with D’s NHS application, old passport and PSAT scores were getting frayed.</p>
<p>Hmm I was thinking I’d call public safety to get their side of events if I was going to be making a phone call.</p>
<p>Public Safety is part of the school? I’d start with them as they might talk with you. Would the police talk to you?</p>
<p>On intro’s, my daughter volunteered to be a tour guide at her school. When friends of ours whom she knows come to the school, she goes up and gives them a hug. I think she’d be perfectly fine with introducing a kid around, though if he/she drooled or wasn’t appropriately cool, she’d roll her eyes at us a few times. ShawSon on the other hand would not be enthusiastic. He’d also probably do it if we asked twice, but wouldn’t do it if were portrayed as being good for him (only the good Samaritan approach would work). There is a mom whose daughter goes to one of the two women’s colleges near his and she suggested having her daughter meet ShawSon. I mentioned this and he definitely wasn’t interested. I suggested to him that actually knowing someone at one of the schools meant that he could go to parties there without feeling like an alien and she’d probably get bennies from her friends for inviting a guy (at the high status school in the neighborhood) to the party. Nope. I also suggested he get his friend/former Prom date to introduce him to her friend (who was in his HS but not in the math/science honors curriculum, I guess) who goes to the other women’s college in the area. Maybe some day. He did nicely set up my business partner’s daughter with a couple of nice girls for a weekend when she visited the school, but he was away at a debate tournament. He even asked what kind of kid (e.g., studious, partyer, jock) does she want to stay with and he would steer her to the right folks. Gracious and no problem there.</p>
<p>Has anyone ever heard of Phi Eta Sigma, a freshman Honor Society? D2 was invited to join and was wondering if she should. Can’t find any info online as to whether her transfer school has a chapter. Would it be worthwhile?</p>
<p>D1 would meet with a guest but there is absolutely no way that D2 would!</p>
<p>NM–if it does not cost too much then I would have her go for it–it will be something for her resume in a few years.</p>
<p>You all have been busy here today! I left home in the wee hours this morning to fly to Iowa from Ohio - flew through Dallas of all places just to avoid the storm. </p>
<p>re: laundry - D took so many (= way too many) clothes to school in part, I suspect, so she doesn’t have to do laundry too often. I fully expect she will find unused sheets and towels in the storage box under her bed where I put them when she packs her stuff up in the spring. And all this talk of laundry sheets makes me think - wasn’t it just last week that we were composing college shopping lists and running to BB&B? where did this year go?!</p>
<p>That Onion article cracked me up. Somehow with one D at home still, it seems okay to save all the folders for both girls, but when D2 goes, I will be hard pressed to part with my folders. They represent my life’s work for goodness sake!</p>
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<p>missypie- H and I have almost the exact same story - sorta dated in college (as much as anyone “dated” in the late 70s), until he broke up with me in 1977. we got back together (long distance) in 1986 and married in 1987. H describes it as my making him wait for 10 years as punishment for his breaking up with me ;)</p>
<p>DD also was invited to a “fraternity” this is a band Fraternity, Kappa Kappa Psi, so it is both guys and gals. She is pretty excited about the whole thing. This one is by invitation only, aside from that she told me she cant tell me anything. Oh well. I guess I’m learning to hear those words. 8-(</p>
<p>Laundry is done every two weeks. DD is a clean freak and also has been doing her own since HS. I too join the Mean Mother club. She even told me she had to buy more of the washing sheets, yeah. She loves those.</p>
<p>Dating is not in the scope for her. She says she is too busy to add another “activity” to her life. She too had a BF in HS but they decided that the distance was too much to try to keep the whole thing going. We will see how long the no BF things lasts. I am grateful for the no drama tho.</p>
<p>My DD would die if I ever asked her to meet with someone. She is not really shy, but she does not like to socialize with people she doesn’t know. I know…how is she managing in college right? So I don’t know if she would even entertain the idea of doing this for “me”. My kids know my main job is to “embarrass and pester”. 9-)</p>
<p>I just realized something. For the first time in too many years to remember, I am not the cookie mom for my D’s Girl Scout troop. (Thank heavens!)</p>