<p>I wish S2 would get a job. I have stepped up the nagging and he has stepped up the resistance, claiming he wants to wait until summer and we do not understand how busy he is right now. He only has three classes, plus the basketball class that started today. There are about 25 kids in that class and the teacher already told everybody they should get an A. I saw two great jobs posted on his school’s web site–one tutoring athletes and one in the office of the registrar. But I guess he isn’t hungry enough yet.</p>
<p>S1 got a very nice reply to his email, saying the traffic violation will not be a problem and they look forward to his interview. I’m glad they were able to be both quick and definitive in their response; speaks well of the company.</p>
<p>Modadunn–I seriously hope you will ask your brother what I should be looking for–We need an AWD car for a) D26 or a nicer AWD for me. Price? gosh–up to 5,000 for D and 12,000 for me. We are planning ahead and our darling little "95 subaru is going into the shop for a diagnosis. I don’t have a good feeling about it. And we are 4 drivers and 3 cars in any event.
My DH goes into the hospital for tests this Wed. He has been having significant stomach problems. ONLY after I told him that I would, indeed, be calling the specialist on Monday did he decide to call himself. (he is a doc himself). I knew only embarrasment would get him moving. So, yes, we are worried here.
Have had 5 19-26 year olds here for days. Motivated me to buy a new vacuum. That and the dog shedding her puppy fur. I am in LOVE. I spurged big time and bought a Miele. I actually found myself looking around for something to vacuum. I have not really vacuumed in years as the equipment is too loud and annyoying. So guess this is a “going to the hospital gift for DH”:D.</p>
<p>Well… not even sure he’d pass for innocent looking! But he does have excellent manners at his disposal if he should choose to use them. MIL called H to say the boys had arrived and what a wonderfully polite, charming and completely handsome group they seemed to be. Sounds like trouble to me. :)</p>
<p>Oregon… I will ask him but I can almost guarantee you he wouldn’t have a clue unless he saw what was available for the money and went from there. He doesn’t drive an AWD himself, and prefers front wheel sporty things.</p>
<p>oregon, thinking of you and H and hoping for good news! Good for you for giving him the kick he needed ;)</p>
<p>ffs - there is something really special about having a child (no matter how old) come back from abroad, isn’t there? I don’t think I realized that I was holding my breath the whole time D was out of the country a couple of years ago, until we picked her up at the airport.</p>
<p>D has been having sciatic pain since December. our local doc treated her with steroids and muscle relaxants, but pain still lingers so several weeks ago doc decided she needs an MRI, which we assumed she would get near school. it took until this week to get the insurance approval (that is a story in itself) but now we’ve run into some arcane law in Mass. that prohibits tests ordered by docs without local admitting privileges. now trying to work this through the Univ health center, but they reminded me that it is exam week and students are stressed and it should probably wait until after break… aargh! this shouldn’t be this hard!</p>
<p>Oregon, hope your H finds answers and relief.</p>
<p>So remember how, as he shoved Son out the door, the dean of students at Son’s school volunteered to meet with Son weekly and be his mentor/coach? Well, the first appointment was yesterday. He had Son sign a form promising to make an appointment with the Counselling Office. And that was it. Five minutes and no further appointments. I’m counting the days until the semester is over!</p>
<p>Yep. At least that guy still responds to my emails. The Disablites lady and the Academic Success guy no longer respond. And believe it or not, my calls and emails have been absolutely courteous.</p>
<p>missypie, not sure if this matters, but at my daughter’s private HS, there is a culture that they deal with the students and tend to ignore parents. I sent an email to someone senior about an email she sent that I think communicated the wrong message and mentioned that a number of staff didn’t seem to respond to parents’ emails. When ShawD’s college counselor did not respond to me for a second time, I sent an email to her asking for guidance and coaching on the school culture. First, was I off-base in thinking that I should have received responses to one email with a set of complex questions sent a month earlier and to another, asking if there was a school alum attending the school my daughter and I were going to visit, sent a week earlier? Second, did the school a telephone culture rather than email? Should I call? This went to the dean of students to the college counselor who called me immediately. All polite, but embarrassing for the senior folks. All has been peachy ever since. Could that help here?</p>
<p>That college is so not ready to handle his situation, Missypie. I wish college disabilities offices would just admit that they can’t handle Aspie kids, instead of pretending they can when they can’t.</p>
<p>Would that they would deal with him. The only contact they’ve had with him is the two times I’ve personally taken him to their offices. In the whole pre-spring break episode, the academic success guy talked to a guy in the counseling office about him; the counselor told him to call me and tell me to get him. *No one *talked to Son. Not then. Not now. They will only have contact with him if he walks into their office in person and asks for help which, of course, is what he can’t/won’t do. </p>
<p>There are probably students with advanced self-advocy skills who could deal with these folks, but Son is absolutely not there. I guess that’s their message and I’m reading it loud and clear - if your student is not mature enough, or functioning at a high enough level, to come in to us and plead his own case, this is not where he belongs. I get it. Too bad that legal constraints don’t allow them to tell just you that right off the bat.</p>
<p>To answer an earlier question, D was in Mali, which she thoroughly loved. Not loving her having to see the doctor tomorrow to be checked for parasites.</p>
<p>Missypie, I am beyond disappointed in how your son’s college has been mishandling the situation.</p>
<p>FFscout - Thanks, I was just curious as to where students go in Africa…
…and PS I thoroughly agree with your statement on Missypie’s predicament.</p>
<p>missypie—seems they are only doing the old cya focusing on your son signing a form agreeing to go to counseling. I would want to let that dean know that he has joined the rest of the crowd in not honoring his commitment to your son and yourself. it burns me when they are only concerned about themselves and their institution and not a student who they admitted and promised to support. </p>
<p>firefly—glad your daughter is home safe and sound</p>
A clever strategy nonetheless.</p>