<p>NorthMinnesota – I am so glad that the compliance officer had such a favorable response. It really sounds like an athletic program in dire need of some housecleaning and rethinking. I suspect she’s going to be hugely relieved next fall.</p>
<p>Missy – I hope all went well today. It is a new start.</p>
<p>Sabaray – this is more like a marathon than a sprint, isn’t it? It sounds like you’re doing all you can do.</p>
<p>wow
I am 10 pages behind and just cannot catch up.</p>
<p>Had such a fun, but REALLY quick conversation with son tonight about his history class. Well… actually I am not sure if it’s actually history or if it falls under the classics, but it fills a req and is about the history of Rome and Augustus. Anyway… this is a kid who started taking Latin the first year the school offered it (he had hated Spanish at his old school). While there was one other girl in his class who was more geeky about Latin than him (and who coveted all the Latin awards), his teachers LOVED him primarily because no matter what else he was studying, he would connect it back to what they were learning in Latin, especially in his Literature classes - and as we’ve previously noted, he was pretty entertaining about it. But tonight, talking a mile a minute, he goes on about how much he is already familiar with so much of the material from all different angles and how fun the class is because he is “dominating” in the class, but still learning a lot along the way. He thinks the Professor is really challenging him, but here’s the thing… that he has flat out said “Impressive!” to son following an insight or two has put my kid on the moon. I felt like I was talking to him when he was back in elementary school. It is a moment like this (and the conversation lasted all of 4 minutes) that makes sending the tuition check worthwhile.</p>
<h1>TM… really I don’t think you missed much OR if you did, a) it isn’t relevant any longer or b) circumstances have changed or you are familiar because it’s the same as it was 10 pages ago. We’ve been really quite random so …</h1>
<p>Welcome back!! How’s life???</p>
<p>Moda, what a thrilling conversation! Your DS is exploding and he shared it…woohoooo"</p>
<p>How’s life? Well No word from #TS. Not sure what to make of that.
Been doing well with my dogs and have recently had some of my writing (poetry) acknowledged - some of which will be published.
I spent today interviewing music students for a scholarship offered by our community. Miss my kid and wish he would just contact us once in a while - or respond to our mail.
Still feel in limbo as far as what he/we will do next year. I have mostly stopped thinking about it. I figure if he does not feel the need to communicate, then I should stop feeling the need to worry about it any longer</p>
<h1>TM, our freshman isn’t communicating with us either, which is why I have stopped writing much on this thread. We aren’t happy with his effort and he knows it, so has pulled back. I’m just trying to let it go for now.</h1>
<p>Our older one has a lot of balls in the air and calls almost every day so that makes it easier to deal with the deafening silence from S2. S1 was home last week-end when H and the two boys went to Wizards game. He was complaining of a sore throat and sure enough had strep so glad to get him on an antibiotic. He will be home this week-end so we can take him to the airport for his upcoming interview. If he does have to make a choice between two job offers, he is totally torn on which one he would take. In the end, like choosing a college, it is a leap of faith as much as a logical decision. Reading the W&M versus Princeton thread has helped me sit back and let him own the decision, although I see the offers as more WVU versus Princeton. But, then again S2 loves WVU with his heart and soul and S1 never bonded with his high prestige college, so that gives me a perspective I wouldn’t otherwise have had and it does make a difference in my thinking (and his).</p>
<p>Great news, Moda! Moments like make us forget the lean times. Sounds like a lot of fun.</p>
<h1>TM - I must have missed something…what’s going on with #TS? What do you mean re: limbo remark?</h1>
<p>Sad news here - Apparently H can’t use companion tkt for me to London and Paris next week since his tkt was booked through his company. I could go if I wanted Kuwait Airlines and go a day later. We decided to go on a weekend trip so we can actually spend some time together. I’m desperately trying to make this sound better… Oh well…</p>
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Easier said than done, #TM. We don’t hear a lot from S, but he knows if he doesn’t call once a week, I’ll be at his dorm to embarrass the heck out of him. We do know his math class this term is giving him trouble. The professor quizzes/tests them on stuff he hasn’t even covered/taught in class. That stuff makes me crazy. Out of 4 terms of math, S has had one half-way decent professor. Gr-r-r!</p>
<p>woody – bum deal! Hope you go on a great weekend trip soon.</p>
<p>So many highs and lows. I wish I could arrange a big group hug.</p>
<p>In the category of unexpected communication: Last night eggson sent his first email in at least 6 months. AND it was full of chatty news about next fall. He got the roommate and dorm floor he wanted and he listed the classes he signed up for. Revealed that he will seek a BS rather than BA. </p>
<p>We were so surprised as this is the type of detail that usually requires extraction by syllable.</p>
<p>Like Moda, I started feeling better about that next check.</p>
<p>NorthMinnesota, your D should be so proud of herself for contacting the NCAA compliance officer. Sounds like it isn’t the whole school that’s screwed up, just that particular program. It really goes to show how difficult it is to figure out these types of things in advance …perhaps every other sport in the school is run well…you could have talked to those folks and heard honest, glowing reports…</p>
<h1>theorymom, so cool about the poetry!</h1>
<p>CardinalFang, I think you should feel great that your S is seeing a competent therapist, who will actually go out on a limb and tell you/him something that you may not want to hear.</p>
<p>Our appointment with the psychologist went well. We probably came off as affectionate, well meaning, but exasperated parents, which is accurate. </p>
<p>We’ll see Son on Sunday, as we’re driving down for his big choir concert. He finally had to tell his suitemates that he isn’t returning to school - it was time to do housing and he had to tell him he couldn’t be part of the group. (But isn’t that a nice problem for an Aspie to have -disappointing guys who wanted to room with him?)</p>
<h1>TM, sorry to hear your son has become mute. S was just home for Easter and we had a couple of nice conversations, but it’s been silence this week.</h1>
<p>Today is his BD and it feels very odd not to celebrate with him…19 years, wow. I miss the 4 year old.</p>
<p>following all your posts ups and downs but looks like things are improving incrementally. at least. I feel my freshaman pulling away a bit. I think it is normal. She asks my H more advice because it is about cover letters and applications. She calls to update me which is nice.
D2 is driving me nuts about driving. she prefers to drive with H. didnt like it when I gasped when she almost went off the road while merging onto the highway. hypersensative and now doesnt want to drive with me. She does not realize the major effort this all takes for me and how hard I have worked to not make all this a problem for her. I am too tired to deal with it as I have to take alot of effort to maintain myself. Perhaps I should be happy she is a normal self centered adolescent and she is a good kid. but I would say if I was a wful and she IS totally drama. My older D preferred me. Its hard to try so hard when you have no energy and be critisized (sp)maybe we are just too much alike. (sigh) off to tanning for the 4th time this week. !!!</p>
<p>LOL, I basically refused to ride with my kids when they were learning to drive and told H that he had to do it.</p>
<p>With respect to Aspie characters on TV shows, we love Abed on Community. He’s a bit too socially adept to actually be an Aspie, but we love it that he’s one of coolest guys in the school.</p>
<h1>theorymom…published! How cool is that!!! What wonderful news! I am excited for you!</h1>
<p>Sorry for the silence from #theoryson. Have missed you!</p>
<p>dte…I NEVER drove with either of the girls! H handled that. It would not have been pretty for me to help teach…I am a little more controlling than H. :o</p>
<p>missypie…glad the meeting went well with the psychologist! </p>
<p>woody…bummer! Hope the weekend trip works out!</p>
<p>TheAnayst…keep writing here! I love to hear how either of your boys are doing. How exciting for S1 to be going off for interviews. We can all learn some tips from his search. Your insight is always welcome!</p>
<p>Moda…Hooray! What a nice conversation! He sounds like such a nice, well rounded young man.</p>
<p>cpeltz…give him a call for his bday! D1 has a February bday and I never get to see her on the day anymore. 
Did you send anything in the mail? </p>
<p>Hi CBBBlinker! How is S doing? Will he keep plugging away with the math classes in the future?</p>
<p>Thanks to all who have given me so much support as D2 has fought her way through this first year. She has matured even though I sometimes have a hard time seeing it. Despite the athletic complications she has succeeded academically and navigated the transfer and scholarship process by herself. Thanks for gently nudging me to see that. 
I’m truly grateful to have found this forum and all of you on this thread!</p>
<p>S2 just called and told me he hasn’t been able to send me any emails because he has been blacklisted as spam by comcast so he is trying to work through that. He must have been able to feel my frustration through the airwaves. He needs to register for his summer and fall classes on the 13th and he found out his major has not been switched so that has to be straightened out ASAP for him to sign up for the classes he needs. He says he is working on it and had to jump. </p>
<p>NM, thanks for the support. It does help me to have a safe place to vent even when I go off topic. I’m so glad your D got her sports situation resolved.</p>
<p>Awwww! {{{{GROUP HUG}}}}!!</p>
<p>On alternate days this thread allows me to vent, share, think of stuff that hadn’t crossed my mind, opened my mind on occasion, and has given me an awareness of things I knew less to little about. I honestly care about the kids of whom we speak of with love, frustration and angst.</p>
<p>In other news, I think my heater’s not working. It was a little chilly this morning and so I thought “bump the heat up”… but it didn’t “click” on. Always something.</p>
<p>Learned of the price increase for next year at S’s school… ugh. Basically sent the link of the article to H so I didn’t have to see his face. It’s not like you don’t know it’s coming. You do! But like I said… it’s always something.</p>
<p>The analyst - why did they flag him as spam would have been my first question. But alternatively, doesn’t the college give him an email address? S has a school email address. He had a school email address at his HS as well and honestly, I would have no other idea how to contact him except via his facebook page - not necessarily the way to go.</p>
<p>Comcast has a nasty little habit of changing it’s spam threshold frequently – his ISP, even if it was the school’s, may have been hacked and subsequently blacklisted-according-to-Comcast. Eg. UMich has told students it has had delivery problems lately, and their systems are pretty bullet proof.
Sometimes, Comcast’s blacklist has virtually no wherefore or whyfore known to regular geeks, and everyone ELSE on the planet can get one’s email. Ask me how I know this ;)</p>
<p>Hi there 2013 virtual friends – just checking in and as always feel in such warm supportive company. My S seems to be well and very happy – I can also feel the ebb as he matures and moves away into his adulthood, (he will be 21 in December this year),…a little weird for me as his slang Americanises , (“think I’m gonna give up on this gig”), and his facebook postings now refer to tv programs and sports (lacrosse) not part of our lifestyle…but the benefits of this wonderful college experience seem evident in all that he is doing and saying. He is studying for a BFA and was intending, (as of Jan this year), to minor in computer science, and major in computer graphics leading to gaming design, though neither of these choices were declared…he has now decided he may minor in theatre(!), although he was the lead in the school productions at HS here, and he sings beautifully (of course that’s his mom’s opinion!), and I guess its part of the LAC experience to be able to swing the choices around like that. With the benefit of hind sight and many hours spent reading on CC, of course all AFTER the event of his course commencing! , it is apparent that he is at exactly the right type of college for his personality – small private East Coast LAC (5 000), in a fairly quiet rural community – enough social action to keep him interested, but not too hectic to destabilize his third world roots! 30 miles out of NY so plenty of opportunity to see the bright lights too. He has been fortunate to have become part of a great sounding group of kids, and tells me he and his current closest roomie, he is in a dorm of 4, will be rooming in a suite next semester with two seniors and two juniors, (all lacrosse team players except him though he has been taking some brilliant photographs of each of the home matches), cos “we’re cool kids Ma” !! Clearly the Britishy accent from the white kid from Zimbabwe has worked in his favour! Not much idea on his marks – his Visual Basic course is a solid A, and he tells me his other results will be better than last semester which was three As and two Bs….hope he’s right. We have settled into intermittent, but fairly regular comms, and I no longer feel frantic with the lack of knowledge and contact. Not quite accepting of the situation either though……Happily my H and I are heading over to NY to visit in 4 weeks – Yay!! We will catch the last day of lectures before exam week, then heading down to Florida to friends in Naples for some water sports and fishing, where he will join us for three weeks. Am putting papers in for my US visa next week – hope I pass muster – us lot from Zim are not exactly greeted with open arms by the authorities – guilty by association and all that! Enough wittering from me – I read of all your news with great interest, and always offer up a prayer for the inevitable hiccups some of us experience in this great adventure of parenting!</p>