<p>Aww, dte. You’re such a great mom: “…my biggest fear was my illness would affect my kids…” That one phrase speaks volumes about the love you have for them.
Looks like a sit-down with the advisor is in order.</p>
<p>I just drove D and H to the train into Manhattan for her day of interviews. H will show her where to catch the uptown train and then, she’s on her own. She said last night she would take her dad’s earlier train so that she has enough time to get a coffee, get lost once or twice and have a panic attack. A bit shocking for her to be awake at 5:30A!</p>
LOL! I can certainly relate to that one. D was up and about at an early hour (for her) this morning because she’s leaving to drive to Philadelphia to visit BF. Otherwise? Who knows when I’d see her. Same with S. But, I guess the important thing is they get up early when they have to – classes, jobs, etc.</p>
<p>Don’t get me started on the whole PE thing. When D was in (private) HS, they let girls who were on a school team skip PE classes for that term. D spent about 20 hours a week at the gymnastics gym, but since it wasn’t a school sport, she had to take PE. Oh, and because of gymnastics, she beat the sox off all the boys (& girls) on the President’s Fitness Test all through elementary school. Drove the somewhat macho PE teacher nuts. :)</p>
<p>Happily the days of PE are behind us. It was funny, when looking at colleges we made a specific point of mentioning to D those schools that required proficiency in swimming, for example. Not to say that she can’t swim, but any college with PE requirements was pretty much out of the running as far as she was concerned. </p>
<p>dte, you are indeed a great mom as woody has observed. Sometimes it does take a parent to go in and say, I know my kid and she can do this. Let her try.</p>
<p>And woody, I’d be right there with your daughter- getting lost at least once or twice and having a panic attack. Some of the adventures KM and others have described- don’t think I could do it! Still today not sure if I could tackle the NYC train system.</p>
<p>My D1 has done Dc so now advanced to Boston, but does get up whenit works for her. Its that yin and yang .am I a teenager? am I adult? reminds me somewhat of the 4 year old stage.
yes my D is at private school. I pay so she cant take classes hmmmm. I just wonder since when did she stop being my kid, and you left us out of the loop?
Trust me from listening to the mom’s on this thread you would all feel the same way. and some have. We all love our kids, and would throw ourselves under the bus anytime for them.</p>
<p>There has to be a happy medium between our public which would let any kid sign up for any class, no matter how over his head it was - and yours.</p>
<p>You know, I always hated PE b/c we had a highly competitive idiot in charge when I was in HS (think Glee). But I have to admit, the PE at McSon’s G/T public school was actually very awesome for him, despite the fact that he’s clumsy, was then sedentary, has motor skill issues, etc. That’s because the PE teacher seemed to really cater to the nerdish kids in terms of building body confidence whatever shape or size you were, working out against “yourself,” healthy eating, healthy habits, positivity. He ran it almost like a personal trainer/life coach. That first year, McSon lost 20 lbs, buffed up nicely, gave up soft drinks and gratuitous candy, and began walking a little taller, if you know what I mean. To this day, he will pass on fast food whenever possible, works out, maintains a nice weight and generally chooses healthy foods. And really, it was all the influence of that one incredibly awesome teacher.</p>
<p>Because it was a G/T magnet school that was academically rigorous but small, it had no organized citywide sports teams (had to go after school to your neighborhood comprehensive high schools if you wanted to play). So philosophically, I guess the school could make the curriculum a “personal wellness” program. But seeing the influence it had on my kid, I wish that was the way they did it everywhere. Don’t get me wrong – it wasn’t just the curriculum – it was the awesome human delivering it.</p>
<p>kmc, that sounds nice. At our public HS, students who are in any school sport, marching band, cheer or drill team don’t have to take PE. That pretty much leaves the very unathletic kids in PE. To bad it was an extraordinary waste of time for Son. One semester, he had first period PE. Every varsity athletic team, plus varsity drill team, meets 1st period, so there wasn’t an available gym, field or court in the school. They played dodgeball in a hallway all semester. Seriously.</p>
<p>I think the wellness program should be reqired. so many kids/adults dont know this info, and look what it did for your son! I wish I had this info growing up. Of course it would have to be taught by the right person.</p>
<p>The right teacher can really make a difference in PE. D had a wonderful instructor in 9th grade; the girls just loved her. Are most gym classes co-ed? When I was in school we had the option of single-sex and then there was a gymastics class that was only women (but was open to men if they wanted to). I feel like D would have enjoyed exercise more at a younger age if she had been in a single sex classroom. I’m just glad she enjoys exercise now and is more aware of her diet.</p>
<p>Ok -D got offers form both of her interviews today. One is driectly in her major - unpaid. She will have lots of experience/exposure in her field in NYC - where she hopes to be after graduation.
The other is in a somewhat related field and is paid. Money is always good. However, I think the person hiring - who is a family friend - really wants child care and “created” the additional internship position so as to entice D to work. D will not be in NYC much. However, this person could open many, many doors for D in future.
D is really torn. I know H will want her to take the paid job, as he comes from the “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know school of thought.” Any ideas? Just looking for different perspectives…</p>
<p>I might tend to agree with your H woody, except if she is really just going to be doing child care more than actually learning something. And too… one might consider who she might meet (and impress) in the position directly related to her field. Tough call, and since money is a factor… I still don’t know the right answer. However, many many kudo’s on the successful results. Choice is never ever a bad thing.</p>
<p>woody, since the person who can open many doors in the future is a family friend, could the doors be opened regardless of whether your D takes this job or do you think the two would be tied? Also, would the unpaid option have a possible paid option available after graduation? I think future doors are more important than current income but I can’t tell from your description which job provides that. I don’t think the actual experience means much, just in my experience with interns. Firms are really checking for personality, work ethic, etc.</p>
<p>Have been busy getting D1 settled after graduation. She lost our family health care coverage upon graduation and doesn’t start her job until the beginning of July. Working on that short term coverage. She also lost her health club membership so we wanted to make arrangements for that and resign her lease for 6 months. She will stay with family cell phone coverage and take that over once she gets her first pay check. We will cover auto insurance until she gets married. Gosh…why didn’t we get this done BEFORE graduation!!!</p>
<p>Wow, NM! You should start a thread to tell everyone what to do AFTER college graduation. I think so many young people do without health insurance. My D’s former dance teacher developed an aggressive form of breast cancer at the age of 29. Her parents paid for the mastectomy out of pocket - don’t have a clue how much that cost but it’s not something most of us could easily pay for.</p>
<p>NM, are you sure you don’t have an assistant hiding somewhere to help you take care of all of these things? I get exhausted just reading your posts. Good thing I’m at my job where I can rest. :)</p>
<p>And if you’re keeping up with your Diet/Exercise thread, NM is biking about 20 miles a day AND she has foregone her daily glass of wine. NM, you better watch it or you may become too virtious for this thread!</p>
<p>I know, it’s really depressing! I’m still at the vigorous dog walking stage and he’s starting to protest. I’ve been staying away from the cafe- the threads that keep popping to the top are making me sad.</p>
<p>We still need to take S1 off of our cell phone coverage but his phone line is our primary. We have a plan no longer offered and fear if we cancel his number, we lose that plan. H will solve that by taking S1’s cell number and cancel his line. But he is waiting for a convenient time when he isn’t expecting his cell phone to ring to make the transition. S1 cannot afford any cell phone plan since the international plans are just ridiculously expensive, even as an add-on to our plan. He has a free, ordinary phone (not the one he used here) and bought a local SIM card. If he uses a smart phone with a data plan, he can’t use the local SIM card and calls are expensive. If he uses a SIM card to reduce the cost of local calls, then he doesn’t have a dataplan. He is still figuring that one out.</p>
<p>H’s healthplan covers kids up to age 26 whether or not they are students (and always has), so that has been a piece of good luck. S1 supposedly has private health insurance that started when his job started but I’m not sure the paperwork has been completed and it’s not a priority for us or him to find out since he is covered by us. We do need to take him off the car insurance and have had that on the “to do” list.</p>