<p>Sorry for all the ED bad news here. Many of my S’s classmates at his prep school are very down about their results. I feel bad for them, some of them have worked so hard. 10% applied to Dartmouth, 3% got in; One girl with great stats applied to Columbia and was a double legacy and was deferred. I am glad my S didn’t do ED, he has a “fit” acceptance in hand. For those who are deferred, is there a general percentage that ultimately get accepted?</p>
<p>At my D’s small private high school, we are hearing quite a bit of good news, and a little bit of bad, with respect to ED/EA admissions. At least 7 or 8 acceptances to ivies or HYSPM, and this of course is before some schools have even notified students of early acceptances.</p>
<p>My D did not apply early, and while I am happy for all these students, I have to say that it makes me a bit nervous too, as perhaps there will be no “slots” left for kids from her school for RD acceptances?</p>
<p>CC Parent friends, please tell me I am crazy to worry this way!</p>
<p>Camathmom, you are crazy to worry this way. Crazy…but not alone. We’re all doing it. Some about acceptances, some about finaid, but we’re all worrying. We’re parents…it’s what we do. RenMom and I will send you some chocolate. You’ll feel better.</p>
<p>Idinct, the percent of deferred students ultimately accepted varies tremendously from school to school. I saw some school-by-school data for 2010 or 2009 somewhere…here on cc? I remember percentages in the very low single digits, and elsewhere up to near or over 50 pct. Anybody else remember seeing that?</p>
<p>OM sorry to hear this. I can only speak from my own life experience and say that things that at the time were devastating for me ended up being the best thing that could have happened. It didn’t make the pain any less though at the time.</p>
<p>We don’t have any ED schools-partly because he couldn’t get the essay written but mostly because of the FA part. So we have no stress around here at the moment. Well at least minimal compared to others here.</p>
<p>Congrats EB for your daughter! There will be a lot of happiness here in the next few months and a lot of heartbreak-fortunately the kids here have some pretty good parents and when we know we are going off the deep end we can come here and vent and then go back to them and go a great job!</p>
<p>Omom - sorry to hear about the rejection. Even if you are very realistic about your chances, rejection does hurt. And it hurts us parents when we are can’t do anything to help a hurting child. Hopefully chocolate (in our house, we’ve used rocky road icecream!) will help.</p>
<p>EB- congratulations on the acceptance. One in hand sure makes everything a bit easier in our experience. D is applying to other schools, but with a lot more confidence with the first acceptance/merit scholarship!</p>
<p>Chocolate and Mimosas all around. </p>
<p>Whether celebrating or nursing a moment of disappointment…I think an important message to get across to our kiddos and to share with other parents/students is that the student’s value as a person is NOT determined by the acceptance or deferral/rejection by schools just like it is not determined by what peers think/say…it is determined by their Maker and what He says about them.
And this is not a statement about how good or how poor a job the parent has done with their student…</p>
<p>These are all fearfully and wonderfully made teens with a hope and future…</p>
<p>Hugs all around.</p>
<p>Well our morning continues–
Our younger kiddo woke to find one of the favorite pet birds in the bottom of the cage…dying. Wing caught …Kiddo was able to hold the bird and comfort it while it was dying --Such a tender moment as my kiddo held the bird, stroking it’s head and the bird watching …It tried to right itself, and its wing was no use…so sad and such a tender moment.
So will we missed church this am, there was a lesson to be had here at home.</p>
<p>Oh my. I am so sorry about the bird. </p>
<p>Somehow, the immediacy of the moment can amplify the significance for these kids. They simply do not have the luxury of knowing that time and distance from an event can diminish the significance.</p>
<p>My DS2 waits still for his EA results; he’s trying with mixed success to complete the remainder of the reach applications - working hard on one where he could really see himself, and another where he is a legacy, and would be happy. It is fits and starts with the work though - and the last essay was quite risky, but that seems to be the mood he’s in…</p>
<p>Gosh, these days of waiting are endless.</p>
<p>fog- so sorry to hear of the pet dying.</p>
<p>fogfog - condolences on your loss. Your child sounds like a very compassionate soul.</p>
<p>It sounds like there is lots of anxiety and stress in many households right now. I guess the reality of the acceptance rates at our kids’ reach schools is starting to hit home. Our kids knew that many of their reach schools had acceptance rates in the teens or single digits. They chose to apply anyway figuring that they had as good a chance as the next student of beating the odds. For some of them, it worked. For others, a different outcome. </p>
<p>Right now we can just be moms and do what we do best. Help ease the pain, soften the blow, feed them comfort food, be there or leave them alone depending on the child. When the scar starts to form and they are ready to listen, we can share some of the great life lessons we have all shared here. There is a lot to learn from this process, but you need the perspective of time.</p>
<p>We can’t ignore that we are hurting too b/c our babies are hurting. Maybe some of us were living vicariously thru our child’s dream. That is what is so great about this group. We are there to help each other through each chapter. We double the joys and halve the sorrows for each other.</p>
<p>On a totally different note - If you need a great, fun pick-me-up movie about 60’s Rock & Roll, watch Public Radio. Warning. There is a lot of foul language throughout the entire movie.</p>
<p>Fog - I’m really sorry about your bird. The loss of a pet can be so sad. Hugs for your family.</p>
<p>Very sorry about the loss of your bird, fog. And sorry for your kiddo.</p>
<p>Our kids are certainly on a roller coaster. Sorry about your bird, how upsetting for all of you.</p>
<p>I got an email from a hotel where we stayed during one of our college visits, thanking me for my review on TripAdvisor. We were happy to stay a little outside of town, got a free, hot breakfast, clean room, safe neighborhood, reasonable price. The manager noted that we were there for a college visit and suggested that we make reservations now for moving in day and parent’s weekend. He said they are always sold out for those times, and it’s just a reservation, no money up front and can be cancelled 24 hours from the arrival day. I actually checked another hotel right by the college and they were booked for August 24th already! Just thought I’d pass that along!</p>
<p>Fog, I’m sorry about your bird. I love birds whether it’s the cardinal outside my kitchen window or the Italian ceramic bird on a bookcase in my DR. They’re such charming and beautiful creatures w/ unbelievable abilities. Really, they’re a gift to all of us to admire.</p>
<p>FWIW I have made reservations for move in day too.
I hear that as soon as a decision is made–booking for Parents weekend is necessary too…I need to work on that too.</p>
<p>Yes our student was sad about the bird…and it was tough… We wrapped it in tissue (the kind you wrap a package in) and our kiddo buried it near a large tree in the yard. I am thankful our kids are so compassionate … I think my student felt better to know that the bird was being loved and held at the end of its life and not found dead in the bottom of the cage…kwim?</p>
<p>Off to have dinner with inlaw…at Ruths Chris…so looking forward to a nice meal.</p>
<p>Hope you all have a pleasant afternoon.</p>
<p>CalTech decisions are out. Son was deferred. It was a reach so response was not unexpected. He is totally OK with it. He is so busy with midterms and other things, I think it already is in the back of his mind.</p>
<p>@fog: I am so sorry for your loss. Our pets are such important family members.</p>
<p>@renmom: stepping up to the plate was my biggest concern too. But somehow we moms always manage to dig deep when and if we have to…I have faith that everything will be fine.</p>
<p>@emmybet: Please, please don’t assume that “fully half” will be rejections. Why the negativity?</p>
<p>@Flmathmom: sorry about Caltech, but at least you guys sound like you’re in a good place.</p>
<p>Congratulations to the many ED/EA responses!</p>
<p>For the declines/deferrals, we’ve all felt this pain and hate to see our kids go through it. I hope your kids will be able to refocus on other victories soon. </p>
<p>Bluejr doesn’t have any EA/ED schools but has several friends with ED schools. One school had early rumors of brutal results. Not only was he concerned for his friends, he has an RD app there. Luckily early apps from his school have been overwhelmingly positive. He’s really happy for his friends! This reminded him how glad he is to have an acceptance from a well researched safety.</p>
<p>As it’s 5:30 and I’ve had a lousy day shopping, I’d love to offer everyone a nice glass of Godiva liqueur on ice! A nice way to ‘do’ chocolate. Cheers!</p>
<p>FlMom- sorry about the deferral. I hope that truns into a yes.</p>
<p>DS2 decided he would, after all, complete a creative project for his EA accepted school’s full-tuition scholarship competition. Another day of proofreading and encouragement. It was actually fun! But I’m a gettin’ weary–kwim?</p>
<p>He’s also getting last minute cold feet about his list–thinking of adding more reaches. I think this may be a reaction to the many good ED results among his crowd. I certainly don’t want him to have any regrets–but this is unsettling this late in the game!</p>