<p>Kathiep, so sorry to hear your sad news.</p>
<p>Classof2015 – is your D under 18? If not I’m surprised the hospital was allowed to talk to you at all!</p>
<p>^it’s funny – she’s almost 19, and they did ask for her date of birth, but more as an identifier, I thought. Glad I got the info. Dr confirmed radiologist read the film and no fractures. Phew!</p>
<p>kathiep, so so sorry for your friend’s loss. </p>
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<p>No empty nest but I will also admit that life is simpler with one less person at home. And that’s nice. I like that we can make things for dinner that D1 doesn’t like, that I can blame the mess in the bathroom on just one child, and that there are fewer glasses on the kitchen countertop. </p>
<p>Also, buying D1 a dorm trousseau 
made me realize just how much I despise the tangle of dry-cleaner-sourced flimsy bent wire hangers in my closet. I needed to take back a couple of duplicate items, so I decided it was time for me to upgrade to nice, solid, matching, unbending grownup hangers. Now I’m addicted. I need more!</p>
<p>Kath: I’m sorry to hear about your loss. Hugs.</p>
<p>Classof2015: Glad to hear it’s not a fracture.</p>
<p>ST: Enjoy those hangers! I think you’re entitled.</p>
<p>Emmy: Glad to hear that your D has worked out some of her issues and you’re enjoying the empty nest.</p>
<p>ST - are you buying those thin hangers from BB&B? If so, how do you like them? I have the regular old hangers at home and they take up a lot of space in my small closet - have been thinking about getting the thin hangers to see if they make a difference. I guess I could cut down on the stuff in my closet if I had to :(</p>
<p>Man, Classof2015, your D has had quite the bad health karma already! Let’s hope it’s over for the whole year.</p>
<p>Yes, my D is better … although D1 came home and told me she got a huge unhappy message from her sister yesterday. D2 does admit much is homesickness and missing BF. Virtually nothing is outside the general college adjustment process, and I am firmly convinced being in college is the right thing for her. I wouldn’t go so far as to say that this D can’t live without things to complain about, but …</p>
<p>EB- glad D2 has D1 to confide in and nice that she is sparing you ALL the complaining :). I am sure that things will work out eventually. I think that after the initial excitement/honeymoon period alot of kids experience some degree of unhappiness or doubt about their choice.</p>
<p>I wish my D had one iota of homesickness 
ha ha…</p>
<p>Emmy, glad the little things seem to be working out for your D, and she is doing better.</p>
<p>Class of 2015, very glad to hear it was read by an expert and isn’t a fracture (we’ve gotten the call back the next day twice now, when a orthopedist re-read the slides and found a fracture the ER doc missed!) And I’m glad they were able to tell you that much without too much HIPAA hassle. My S just turned 18 but he visited urgent care before his birthday, and they called me when he arrived to double check his info (allergies, etc.) I thought I might have to fax them permission to treat or something, but they never explicitly asked for permission or asked me to do anything special. </p>
<p>SlithyTove – too funny about the hangers. I find that I keep buying (reasonably cheap plastic) hangers but there never seem to be enough in the house. We rarely dry clean, so that isn’t a source of hangers for us ;-)</p>
<p>Emmybet, good that things are picking up for you daughter. </p>
<p>Definitely get out those HIPAA letters and probably a health care proxy as ell. We have to redo do that for ShawD because Canada has different laws.</p>
<p>Both kids called today. Transactional stuff for one (I’m heading over to the bank to get cash – how much money is in the new Canadian account? Turns out $93 so I put a bunch in). I have to get her to get her health care card so she can make a doctor’s appointment before a couple of prescriptions run out and get to the disabilities office and Learning Center before she needs them.</p>
<p>The other one called to ask if he could call me tonight. Needs to figure out how to organize things to get his Adderall. Unclear what else he has in mind. Usually it is a subtle email to a Dean or advisor or professor.</p>
<p>I always find out about life during these calls.</p>
<p>I’m taking a break from responding to an RFP. Painful. Need to finish it and give it to my staff tomorrow AM as I have a 6:30 AM flight tomorrow for a board meeting. Not lots of sleep likely tonight.</p>
<p>I had Bluejr fill out FERPA releases only to find his university would not honor one. Yup, they wouldn’t accept it. I didn’t push it but it was clear, parents are on <em>this</em> side of the line. My concern was obviously for emergencies, not talking to professors about grades. I moved on to student health regarding a HIPAA release. They said they were covered under FERPA. Hummm…I started to explain and gave up. I asked about emergencies and was revered to the hospital who of course won’t take a preemptive release. </p>
<p>So, we ended up filing nothing. :o At fall break we will get a power of attorney to try to close some gaps. They don’t make it easy for parents in this regard!</p>
<p>From what I can figure out, the thing to do is a healthcare proxy, for if the young adult can’t speak for himself. For other things, they seem to have to fill out a one-time HIPAA release for each visit/issue. We tried to find out about doing a preemptive blanket HIPAA release but didn’t get far. For FERPA Cornell’s default policies are fine for emergencies. They will contact you if they believe it is in the student’s best interest, which they are allowed to do without any release if the student is still a dependent for tax purposes, which they assume all undergrads are unless you inform them otherwise.</p>
<p>My D is on several meds she will have to take daily the rest of her life. I have the pharmacy on a schedule to automatically refill them every month and call when they are ready to pick up so I can mail to her. I got the call yesterday that they were ready. I texted D to ask her if she needed more, she said she still had a whole months worth left.</p>
<p>Huh? She had them refilled 3 weeks ago because she was out… I said really?</p>
<p>She texted back today to say I had better mail them she didn’t have as many as she thought she had and btw can I send her Sound of Music DVD when I mailed her prescriptions?</p>
<p>I am trying to figure out how to get my mail order prescription provider to mail my S’s auto-fill prescriptions directly to his school address. For now I am just receiving and sending them on. I also msg’d my S to ask if he needed more soon or not. We get 3 mos at a time in the mail, and they seem to mail them a good month in advance of when we’d otherwise run out.</p>
<p>My deepest condolences kathiep.</p>
<p>kathiep: I’m so sorry to hear about your friend. Sending hugs your way.</p>
<p>BlueI: I had been putting off dealing with the blanket HIPAA wiaver that S2 signed before heading off. Nowhere on the university’s website can I find any reference to a student HIPAA waiver, so I’ve been assuming that his U is not “parent friendly” in terms of making this easy by keeping the forms on file. I’m wondering now if we should just scrap the HIPAA waiver and do the healthcare proxy. Now I wish there was an attorney in my family. Too many accountants here.</p>
<p>I didn’t realize there was such a thing, but it makes sense. I have seen the whole gamut of HIPAA realities – my own GP calling me from a deli: “Hi Mrs. Class of 2015 – I have the results of your (highly confidential) medical exam, and it’s positive!” Said my name; said the name of the test; and the test results. Was this a HIPAA violation? Felt like one…Did I report her? No – just chalked it up to bad judgment on her part.</p>
<p>My sister (a healthcare professional) took home a patient’s file to go over one night when her husband was away. Brought it back early the next morning – was reprimanded for a potential HIPAA violation (she could have been hit by a car and personal confidential records would have been strewn all over the deserted highway).</p>
<p>I was surprised that D’s ER physician responded via email to my emailed inquiry. But I am her mother, and my email clearly showed I was aware of what her treatment had been, so I wasn’t asking for a release of confidential information – more of a confirmation of what I already knew.</p>
<p>But I will check into HIPAA waivers. Sounds like a good thing to have.</p>
<p>Spoke to D tonight, briefly. “I am going to pick up dinner to take to watch the soccer game, then to a meeting, then to singing practice.” All in a very happy, relaxed tone.<br>
Sweet music to this mom’s ears. This is the child that was distraught on April 30. Seems like she is just where she should be. Thank God. And, we have yet to kill the fish! :)</p>
<p>arisamp, they are indeed the thin space-saving hangars from BBB. I’m liking them: the surface is non-slip, the hooks are heavy metal, and they do indeed take up less room than, say, plastic hangars. They look more luxe, as well. They also have various little hooks built in so that you can save more space by “cascading” hangars down from one another. There’s also a place to hang related accessories. </p>
<p>I still have some of the $10 off $30 and $5 off $15 coupons (which in percentage terms are a better buy than the 20% off coupons), so I’ll use those to get some more. I’m starting to save the 20% off coupons for D2’s eventual dorm buying spree in another three years.</p>
<p>I love the BBB hangars. We initally bought them for D1, since her dorm closet is very small. We ended up getting 2 large boxes for myself and D2 for our own closets at home.</p>