<p>Classof2015 We are in exactly the same boat over here!</p>
<p>The grades are in…D, C-, C & B. That’s a 1.93 GPA</p>
<p>This spring may be her last semester away. If she doesn’t show marked (and I mean very marked) improvement next semester…like all As…she’ll be home in the fall going to community college. She’ll lose her bright futures scholarship, which is only a couple of thousand dollars of the whole picture, but hey, we need those couple thousand dollars! We’re just not going to pay for her to party. I’m sick to my stomach over this!</p>
<p>Wonderful news, AvonDad! My gf is having her lumpectomy immediately after the first of the year and we are also hoping the outcome is the same. She is also believed to be Stage 1, as she has been having MRI’s every six months since her sister was diagnosed and the lump just showed up a few weeks ago. If all goes as planned she’ll just be having radiation after. </p>
<p>Shawdad, can I send boychild to your house?</p>
<p>MilitaryMom, wow on your D’s grades! </p>
<p>Cruisin, sorry your D’s grade were not what you expected. I can see being upset by the D, but the others aren’t really that awful. It’s also only her first semester. I think anyone expecting all A’s is asking way too much of any kid in college. Imo, if you tell her she needs to get all A’s it might be overwhelming and could potentially cause her to not bother at all. JMHO.</p>
<p>thanks for the good wishes for ShawWife. So far so good. She’s off Vicodin and still watching movies and she and ShawD are going to do some makeup thing (mask).</p>
<p>emilybee, sure.</p>
<p>I said we had 4 parties, meaning we’ve been invited to 4 parties. Thank goodness we’re not giving any more as we’ve given several (a fundraiser and some dinner parties) over the last month.</p>
<p>shawbridge – hang in there – sending love and support your way – thanks for the shout out. </p>
<p>cruisnfamily – sick is the word. We are barely scraping it together and D took one low level “health” course – the options were satisfactory or unsatisfactory – guess what she got? “U” Her response: it’s not a big deal – I’ll take it again!</p>
<p>She has no concept of courses costing money. She never understood taking 3 classes means we still pay for 4. Part of this is that I wasn’t involved in her selecting classes but hey – she’s 19 – she can handle this.</p>
<p>I’m with you – education is a gift. If you don’t take it seriously, guess what? You don’t get to go to the nice school anymore. I told her that tonight, and I will repeat it as needed.</p>
<p>To her credit, she said her advisor barely speaks english; she selected “advanced” classes (instead of the regular freshman intro level); she’s doing a sport; she got injured, sick, and is currently still anemic. And far from home. And none of her shows are on when she wants to watch them. Real housewives of the Jersey Shore. Or who’s smarter than America’s next big fat first grader. Something like that. So she’s clearly decompensating.</p>
<p>Good Morning all, Enjoying an unexpected break from my son’s determination to stay in shape. We have been going to the gym every morning at 7, totally out of character but I much prefer that to sleeping all day.</p>
<p>Wrote a longer newsier message but CC made me log in again…UGH
Been baking but everyone keeps eating it so its a vicious cycle! Bake Eat Gym…
Shopping almost done but not my mom…UGH hardest person ever to buy for…</p>
<p>AvonHS Dad, great news about your wife, hope that the recovery time goes well and that the news continues to be positive!</p>
<p>Indinct, feel your pain re: MIL running into the same problem but its my mom and my husband’s father! We never have anyone on Christmas morning and now that we are back in the states, everyone wants to be here, UGH! Kids are actually more upset than I am but it will be hard. We like to open gifts all day, slowly stay in jammies etc. Drives my mom crazy, (she has ADD and can’t relax) and my FIL will make comments on how spoiled my kids are. (Maybe but I wrap everything, socks etc so that it lasts for a long time.) Will see how it goes, maybe if its to painful for them they won’t come back!</p>
<p>Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah to you all!</p>
<p>MM - kudos to your DD. doing well while overcoming so many challenges is quite an achievement. I hope she is able to make one or two close friendships next semester. It must be difficult to juggle it all.</p>
<p>Cruise and 2015 - hope your kids can make a fresh start next semester. We all stumble occasionally. We need to learn from our mistakes and move forward.</p>
<p>AvonHSMom and ShawMom - hugs coming your way.</p>
<p>For those dealing with stressful family situations, give yourself a time out when you feel yourself boiling over. Take a few deep breaths, walk around the block or vent to your friends on CC in order to keep the peace.</p>
<p>Gotta love JetBlue bringing DS home at midnight last night. Plane was full of college students all rushing (??) into their parent’s arms. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it!</p>
<p>AvonDad that is just wonderful news about your wife! I am so happy she got it so you all can enjoy the holidays.</p>
<p>I am pleased to hear of the students doing so well and sorry to hear of the ones who are struggling. I guess the first thing a parent would need to determine would be if their child is giving their best effort. The answer to that would dictate what I would do in that situation. </p>
<p>It’s not easy.</p>
<p>I am getting a Hallmark moment visual of the joyous scene at the airport FlMathMom. ;)</p>
<p>Happy to hear the good news on the medical issues!!!</p>
<p>Congrats MM on those grades. That is an awesome way to start. For those whose kids had not so great grades 1st semester, hopefully seeing the grades will be a wake up call and they will be more focused next semester.</p>
<p>Happy Hanukkah to those celebrating.</p>
<p>I bought D2 a cake pop maker for Christmas and she opened early so guess we will be baking and decorating all day. She is so creative, I can’t wait to see what she comes up with.</p>
<p>Avon: I’m glad to hear the good news about your wife.</p>
<p>MM: Congrats to your D on her outstanding grades.</p>
<p>Crusin and Classof2015: Sorry to hear about the less than outstandoing grades. I agree that your D’s need to take college seriously and put in their best effort. Hopefully next semester will go better.</p>
<p>Welcome home to FLMM S and any others who arrived yesterday. D2 finally comes home tonight.</p>
<p>This must be the week for medical procedures. We just got back from Hopkins yesterday with Bluejr for his surgery. Everything went well and he’s doing awesome. Yesterday his gf was over, and today with be a steady stream of hs friends. This tells me he is really feeling pretty good! :)</p>
<p>My thoughts have also been with AvonMom and was so glad to hear that she is doing well and her prognosis is good. Thanks for the update Cptn. Know that we will continue to keep her and your family in our prayers.</p>
<p>Good to hear ShawWife is doing well after her surgery. I can appreciate that anything to do with her thumb as she is an artist would cause anxiety. I’m sure ShawD is keeping her in good spirits.</p>
<p>Speaking as a parent who has had one college kid bring home stellar grades, and one that landed them on academic suspension, I have learned I am not responsible and can take not credit or blame for either. I know that pit in the stomach, I do…but it’s their road. Try not to carry it for too long. I agree that how the grades came about makes a big difference in how you react. To me, effort is everything. That said, I have one that spent a year out of school (his choice) who just crawled his rear-end out of academic suspension through a LOT of hard work. I could not be more proud of him and his lessons learned were necessary for him going forward. None of it ended anything he could ever want to do in life. His road is just longer.</p>
<p>Yay for AvonDad wife and Bluejr; wishing an easy recovery for Shawwife.</p>
<p>Hugs to all dealing with family issues and disappointing grades. Congrats to those celebrating fab first semesters. </p>
<p>My inlaws come Wednesday night. I took today off work to clean and get organized. Not the most fun use of a vacation day especially since their visits are stressful! </p>
<p>Also, D being home significantly increases the mess factor! She is sleeping in after a night with high school friend leaving for family vacation tomorrow. So nice to have her home despite the mess and odd hours. Dog is still stuck to her like glue. It’s starting to annoy those of us who care for and love the dog day in and day out! </p>
<p>For all those whose children are coming home with not so good grades. I have been there before. My oldest was always in jeopardy with losing scholarship. Having the opposite with my next, I think the only difference is the personality and tenacity. I don’t really think it is anything we parents can do to change- it has to come from the kid. One thing that you can check out is how much time they are spending with either social media or computer games. That was definitely part of the problem with my son and my daughter. OTOH, is very able to do a game for a while and put it away.</p>
<p>So true about the gaming MM. My oldest son has always had a hard time with time management in regards to gaming. My youngest, OTOH, realized pretty young how much time he needed for different tasks and knew what a time suck games can be. I don’t think there is much you can do about that once they are at college, at least we couldn’t get a handle on that.</p>
<p>We have two with different levels of tenacity. They don’t make them more tenacious than than ShawSon. I strongly encouraged ShawD get referred to a peer tutor (whose existence our cousin and I found by searching the web). She had to go in to meet with the disabilities person I’d talked to when we dropped her off, get a referral, formally request this from another person, and get a name and then schedule weekly meetings. When it wasn’t happening, we jointly wrote the email needed post-referral to get a tutor assigned. I just didn’t want to wait for her to finish this on her own as asking wasn’t producing it. The peer tutor was immediately helpful. Her meetings with the peer tutor have helped her work and study planning. He also gave his copies of old tests from when he took the courses she is taking (three of five courses) and reviewing those helped her. Plus, he gave her some insight into what to focus on when studying. If there is that kind of resource available at the schools of the kids who aren’t performing at the desired level, I’d highly recommend helping your kids make that happen?</p>
<p>Good morning all.
AvonDad - So glad to hear the good test results. Best wishes for continued strength and healing.
MM - big congrats on your D’s great grades under difficult circumstances.
Class of 2015 and Cruisn - I feel your pain. I have similar issues with my high school S and it’s so difficult to see them not taking advantage of their opportunities and wonder what you can do to change it…I hope this is a wake up call for them and the second semester reflects renewed commitment. If not, they may need some time back home to reflect. But you definitely are not alone; please don’t be too hard on yourself. It makes me a little crazy to hear this (which I do all the time) but it’s true - things do tend to all work out. Just takes more time with some kids than others.
I picked up D late last night, and she and S are still fast asleep. Looks like I’ll finish the pot of coffee myself! I’ve been running in the morning, so my first cup (or two) of coffee tastes especially good.
Hugs to all.</p>
<p>Glad to hear the great results from Avonwife’s surgery (or as I like to think of her: Avon Admiral–Since He’s our Captain, the DW is always a higher rank, so Admiral! )</p>
<p>Glad Shawwife is also recovering well–scary when your talent is being operated on (hands for a painter). </p>
<p>Glad Bluejr is also doing well–he must be feeling good if he’s encouraging all those visitors.</p>
<p>Happy Hanukkah to all who celebrate.</p>
<p>Enjoy the family time and survive the too much family at times!</p>
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