<p>BI, I bought boychild’s peacoat at J Crew outlet store a few years ago. He doesn’t wear it anymore so DH has claimed it. </p>
<p>Mathmom, I’m sure that is also one of the reasons, among several, for why a school would allow gender neutral rooms. I think too that at schools were every one lives on campus all four years it’s difficult for the roommates if one is in a relationship and sleeping together with bf or gf. Where does the roommate go? I moved off campus after Freshman yr, along with practically everyone else, so we had our own rooms in houses and didn’t have kick a roommate out to have privacy.</p>
<p>According to boychild there will be no limit on the # of rooms. Any room in any dorm, except for freshman, can be a gender neutral room. The only exception will be the one all male and the one all female theme houses.</p>
<p>I think kiddo’s U is starting to offer gender neutral rooms to Jr and Sr…though I recall a recent article in the shool paper about polling soph.
Not a fan–because of the whole romantic remifications thing and potential privacey issues for others in the suites/entryways using the bathrooms.
The housing is suites and the baths on each entryway serve those rooms–</p>
<p>Last summer when kiddo had to fill out the health forms the boxes to check were male, female and something like “no gender” I forget how they worded it…Was odd because frankly biologically the students are either xx or xy and the MDs need infor for medical purposes…</p>
<p>I wonder how it applies to athletes…because men cannot compete in place of women in the NCAA sports, correct?</p>
<p>D1’s school only offers gender-neutral rooms to accomodate transgender students. Her current dorm is co-ed but the bathrooms are single-gender. My freshman dorm was co-ed with co-ed bathrooms, so I’m amused that her living situation is more “traditional”. :)</p>
<p>I’d think that my kids would be foolish to share a room with a romantic partner while in undergrad. Breakups are bad enough without having to then change around your living arrangements. That said, I lived in a group house during most of my undergrad that was coed and had a number of couples (and lots of marriages as a result). So it can be managed, but it takes a bit of maturity.</p>
<p>I don’t know whether my DS’s school has gender neutral dorms. His dorm is single sex by room (he has girls across the hall). I also know the bathrooms are single sex because the girls bathroom has a keycode on it so I had to go to another public building to use the restroom when moving him in! :(</p>
<p>Well I finally got DS’s room cleaned up. It filled up my trash can and I can’t remember the last time I saw that much dust. :eek: I just finished shampooing the carpets so I’m done. It’s amazing how nice the room looks. DS will probably wonder what we did with his stuff! I mostly threw out lots and lots and lots of papers that had no redeeming value from school and such. We had gone through his clothes before he left, so that was no problem. I found a watch he had “lost”. It was under a bunch of stuff–surprise! DS2 is amazed at how good it looks–DS2 keeps his room tidy so they are like Oscar and Felix in that department!!</p>
<p>My kids have had Pea Coats for years, gave son husbands old Navy Pea Coat a few years ago and son loves it! Maybe its because we lived overseas for 10 years but my kids identify Northface jackets with being typically “American” and for some reason that is not good and they won’t wear them. I actually think they look cute but no go for my gang.</p>
<p>My DS has option next year (soph, jr, sr) for gender neutral housing. Currently mixed gender floor with mixed gender bathroom. He said the best part of being home was having shower to himself! He has close friend who is girl but not GF - asked if he would consider rooming with her and he said only if in a suite, not in a double. That said, know he’ll try for a single.</p>
<p>Kinder - how compassionate your wife is! That boy is lucky she was there and willing to be there for him.</p>
<p>Younger D switches between a couple of North Face jackets and other lighter coats. Older D will wear her North Face when she’s casual but LOVES little trendy coats that are all different styles so it’s a good thing that she is good at scoping out bargains.</p>
<p>Older D’s school began offering co-ed rooms on a limited basis this year; not sure if that was to accomodate transgenders or not. </p>
<p>Really missing younger D this week. She’s been gone two weeks and I haven’t had a real conversation with her since she left. We’ve exchanged texts a few times and we had a very short discussion about something but she’s on the go all the time right now… especially now that she’s officially dating a boy she had been talking to before break. I’m happy that she is very happy but it’s still hard to go this long without talking to her. Okay, my pity party is officially over - thanks for letting me vent!</p>
<p>Feeling guilty about our spring vacation plans too. Everyone is coming but S2. We were offered a share in a 9br house & H really wants to go. He doesn’t usually get his way ;). We were going to go ourselves but the other families are bringing their kids so we floated it out to D & her bf. Then decided we would pick up S1 in London on our way. We haven’t taken a family vacation in 10 years so I feel kind of bad. </p>
<p>As the youngest S2 traveled a lot, but he doesn’t remember all that much. I worked in Travel so he & I went everywhere with free tickets while H worked although we managed to drag him along once in awhile. We haven’t traveled at all since S2 was a teen except for college visits & to visit D on the west coast & either H or I went. What can you do. S2 & D are much older-10&14 years, not that they aren’t fairly close. The events of this year are making me think that you take what you can get with your kids when you can get it.</p>
<p>I did tell S2 that I would send him to visit(check on) his brother in the UK if he did well this semester to assuage my guilt somewhat.</p>
<p>Speaking of S2, he said he had a good first week although he was up until 4 am Sun nite watching the Giants. That makes for a long week, but worth it! His first trip back seems to coincide with the Super Bowl, hmm. He is a huge fan, season tix holder etc. so he is very excited. Not that he could get tickets.</p>
<p>D1 has 2 interviews today for her RA position. She had a group interview on Saturday, where groups of 8 kids were asked to discuss certain scenarios and how they would handle it. The questions seemed very good and I am sure that the observers were able to tell a great deal about the applicants by how they answered the questions and interacted with the group.</p>
<p>Her interview this morning is with someone on staff at Residential Living. She has a 30 minute break, and goes to class from 11-5, with no break. Her final interview is at 5:30, which is a round robin. She said that at least she will be able to sleep tomorrow, since she has no classes. She will know the final decision by the weekend.</p>
<p>Thanks everyone, I shared with D all your wonderful comments. Even her prof who was waiting for the last copies of work, said this was one of the kinds of crises which DOES constitute extenuating circumstances for turning stuff in. I understand the Housing Director blanched when he heard what went down, as the campus police were supposed to notify the on duty Housing Staff- who should have been the ones accompanying the kid to the hospital. The current status is that the boy’s 24 hour watch, was extended to 48 hours. It is likely the boy will be moved to a different hall in the residence when he returns tomorrow/tonight (he is on a generally substance abusive hall, although that was not the cause of this episode). His Mom is going to stay local for the next week to be there for support. We’ll see. Not to be unsympathetic, but I have to guess that if the boy stays in school, he will continue to look heavily to D’s friend (and also D) for support. Don’t think that will be great for D’s academics, but she has a lighter load this semester so I hope all will turn out well. Fingers crossed.</p>
<p>I just got home from S’s registration night for 9th grade. He has an IEP, I never needed help getting my D signed up for classes, it was all the basics plus band, choir, and Spanish, every year. My S will be another story, I want classes that will challenge him and yet not overwhelm him. Spanish 1 overwhelmed him this year and he had to drop it. Anyone know of colleges that don’t require a foreign language in high school? </p>
<p>Maybe a trade school would be better. I am having a hard time knowing how to direct him.</p>