<p>I don’t think we stop stressing, even though these kids are seniors in college 
Good luck to your D on her GRE exam @momof3greatgirls ! Hope she did well!</p>
<p>@momof3greatgirls, best of luck.</p>
<p>Hey, @arisamp, ShawSon had an exceptional score on the GREs (he got only one question wrong between math and verbal and he was trying to figure out as he left the test which question it could possibly be) and is now in an uber grad program and ShawWife and I are stressing (a little bit) about whether he is up for it. </p>
<p>We were also stressing about ShawD’s stress. She was getting hives from stress. Her allergist has her taking Zyrtec and Zantac (?) each day for a month to stop the histamine reactions and all is currently OK.</p>
<p>We proudly went to ShawD’s White Coat Ceremony two days ago. Boring speakers but we are so happy to celebrate our daughter. Her coat says ShawD, RN and Student Nurse Practitioner. Neither is true yet. Thirty five women. ShawD is both the youngest and the tallest. Most are either in this degree program after an RN or as a 3 year direct entry from BS to MSN. ShawD and four (?) others are in an accelerated five year BSN/MSN program.</p>
<p>Following a brother who is so strong academically has always been tough, but ShawD is gaining self-confidence. She was in the top 20 kids in her senior class, probably the top kid among the 35 in her program, and was pleased that she got what she thought was the best clinical placement this semester (the first time, as far as she knows, that people were evaluating the students qualifications). Shooting for all of this probably contributes to the stress but I am so pleased to see her self-confidence growing. One of the speakers at the ceremony said, “You may feel like an impostor at the beginning” but ShawD feels like she is qualified and right where she ought to be. On her first day in her clinical (Cardiac ICU unit at one of the best hospitals in the country), her patient coded and she was doing chest compressions and lots of other stuff for the first time (on a human). The doctors told her she was doing a great job. During breaks, they would ask her if she was OK and she said, “I’m fine. The patient is the one not doing so well.”</p>
<p>With the new coat apparently comes shopping for business casual clothes. When she wears the white coat, she has to trade in her scrubs for things you can wear under a white coat (dresses or pants). So, she’s planning a discount business casual shopping trip. Right before my eyes, she’s becoming an adult.</p>
<p>@shawbridge - as parents, I don’t think we will ever stop stressing out about the kids. It’s our job Congratulations to your D on her white coat ceremony!</p>
<p>@shawbridge congrats to your D! </p>
<p>@shawbridge - Congrats to your D for her white coat!</p>
<p>S has had an exciting week following his LSAT and career campus career fair. He had been contacted by three of the consulting companies he spoke with for interviews and he has been invited to a casual reception by one of the firms for some social interaction with the recruiting and managment team. I am sure there will be a lot of critical observation during the event as the reviewing and weeding out process pick up. While he is excited he is also a bit apprehensive as he is waiting for his LSAT score so he can determine which way he wants to go next year following graduation. If his LSAT is where he wants it and he can get a good scholaship he is leaning towards law school. If the score is below his target and there is little or no scholarship money available, he may work (if offered) for a year or two, save some money and reconsider law school or an MBA in a couple of years. Decisions, decisions. I might have to put him back on the SS Indecision for a weekend cruise to nowhere!</p>
<p>I am so glad I stopped in it is so good to read about what the kids are up to-they will always be kids to me!</p>
<p>My boy is a middler which is what the call the 3rd and 4th year students. He will not be graduating until May 2016 and he already has one offer in hand and expects to get another from his current coop so I am not even thinking about him too much-no grad school plans for him! :)</p>
<p>My girl is a HS senior and it’s a very tough time as we all know. I hope the lessons I learned with him pay off in at least helping me stay sane! @shawbridge we have the same issue here about following in big brother’s footsteps and I am trying my best to show her not to try and fill his but to make her own-like you have watched your daughter do! </p>
<p>@Sally22 that must have been a very hard decision for your daughter but you are so right the time to do this in now! Good for her and good for you for supporting her! </p>
<p>AvonHSDad, I have a D in consulting in DC. I remember when she interviewed and was offered a job in October which she had to accept or turn down in November. It was a tough decision but she has been happy the past 2 years there.</p>
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Thanks for confirming my thoughts on the schedule. It’s tough as the kids are trying to look at all their options and the employers are trying to complete their newest trainee “class” and get the kids they want “locked up” before the other employers start making offers. Does she plan to continue with her firm or is she thinking about grad or professional school (MBA, MA, JD, etc.)?</p>
<p>Are other parents hearing and seeing similar tactics with their kids’ on campus recruiting?</p>
<p>My DS got an offer from the last place he interned, expecting him to make a decision within days. He is pretty sure he doesn’t want the job, but would have liked to keep the offer on the table for a while longer, both as backup and to use as leverage with other companies. He said he thought his school had a rule that companies that recruited there had to give until at least the end of October to decide, but he’s not sure if it applies. It does seem stressful to expect them to decide so early. He would like to compare lots of possibilities as he’s not yet 100% sure what kind of job he would enjoy.</p>
<p>D2 also received an offer from the company that she interned, with the expectation to reply within 7 days. Before the3 official offer arrived, she went the school career fair, and interviewed with another company at school, and has a follow up “wine and dine” and plant tour this week. She wants to keep her options open, so she was easily able to get an extension on the first offer until mid November. </p>
<p>@mathmomvt Has he done any other interviews at this point?</p>
<p>@bopper yes, he has had a number of phone/skype initial interviews – he said he is getting interviewed by most places he applies. I don’t think any of them have gotten to the point of being close to possibly offering him a job yet, though.</p>
<p>@gsmomma interesting about getting the extension. I don’t think my DS thought to ask. He really doesn’t want the job though, and knowing that he’s getting lots of other interviews, I think he is comfortable letting it go.</p>
<p>@mathmomvt - she is interested in the company where she interned. If she received her offer prior to the career fair, she most likely would have accepted it on the spot. She is meeting with the career center this week to work on a counter offer. When she told me this, I was sort of shocked. I am old school, and would have been happy to take the offer, since it was very good. Her college told all students to bring their offer letters to the career center, and they will help negotiate better offers. She is not sure if she will get more money, but she is going to see what the career center says.</p>
<p>@gsmomma good luck to her in sorting things out. My DS’s offer was excellent – he’s hoping he can at least use it to help negotiate a similar offer from places he likes better but that offer less. :)</p>
<p>S was offered a job with company he interned for this summer. He has decided to decline as it would keep him in a region of US he does not want to live in for at least 3 years. He must let them know this week .</p>
<p>He has had a couple of other interviews and is hopeful about another this week. I can see that he is stressed about turning down a great job offer without another in his pocket. </p>
<p>I didn’t know hiring season would start so early. I want to be confident that he will be offered a job that excites him. It is a little stressful to me as well, though I am only positive with him.</p>
<p>Oh wow - congratulations to all the seniors with job offers already! How fantastic!</p>
<p>D has a couple of interviews coming up - she is however in a similar boat as @AvonHSDad’s son. She plans to take a year off after graduating and before applying to grad school - but is not sure what she wants to do for that year. Research? Job? She’s trying to keep all her options open - it’s amazing to see how good they are getting at juggling everything!</p>
<p>AvonHSDad, she had been considering a PhD in economics, but I think she will go the MBA route. She is a good personality type for business (which she definitely did not get from her parents), and gets really good performance reviews every year. Her company won’t pay outright for an MBA, but if she gets one and goes back to work for them they will reimburse her for it.</p>
<p>Thanks to everyone for the responses and feedback. It sounds very similar everywhere. It also sounds like the career center offices understand how this “dance” is played with regards to offers, salaries, counters, interviwing, etc. DS says his career office controls the recruiting companies with an iron fist and if they don’t like the way the school schedules and controls interview schedules and other contacts, they won’t be invited back. Sounds severe but it seems to benefit the kids. DS says things at their career center are very busy right now.</p>
<p>Good luck to all the seniors with their next rounds of choices and decisions.</p>
<p>S got a great job offer today that he will most likely accept. There was an accelerated hiring event on his campus yesterday and they called this evening with an offer. He will sit down tomorrow and go over particulars. Very proud and happy for him!</p>
<p>Minnymom, congratulations.</p>
<p>There is a very useful book written by a friend of mine called How to Negotiate Your First Job. It is an easy read. It is likely to be useful for your son (and all of the other kids out on the job market). <a href=“http://www.amazon.com/How-Negotiate-Your-First-Job/dp/0991271416”>http://www.amazon.com/How-Negotiate-Your-First-Job/dp/0991271416</a>. </p>