<p>hsmom2dncrs- That is so sad. Best wishes for a recovery and safe future for the girl.</p>
<p>I guess I am pretty adapted to S not living here and the fact that it is up to him to sink or swim in school. He is loving it, and has made lots of friends. That is really really important the first semester, and I am thankful. I am completely in the dark about his academics, so time will tell about that aspect :-)</p>
<p>Thank you all for your kind, positive thoughts for my D’s friend. Good news! They’ve balanced her blood chemistry and the swelling in the brain has gone down. She seems to be out of the woods. She’ll be out of ICU probably some time tonight and they may even send her home tomorrow night (back to my neighbor’s house - who is a relative of hers and was able to be in the hospital with her.) It’s been a scary day - I hugged my D a lot today, and sent my S (the college-aged one!) a little “I’m thinking of you. Have a great day.” message. And thank you for the suggestions about contacting the family courts again.
I hope all those who are having RM issues (some of them quite serious) find a peaceful, just solution. And for those kids who are feeling sick, I hope they’re soon restored to full health.
Thank you all, again.</p>
<p>So glad she’s better. Best of thoughts going to her, your friend, and everyone trying to help this little girl.</p>
<p>Checked in hoping for good news on the little girl and am so glad to see it! Thanks for letting us know.</p>
<p>Glad things are going better!</p>
<p>Heard from middle son last night - all grades are looking VERY good - for which I’m thankful. I’m looking forward to seeing him this Saturday.</p>
<p>Youngest, however, was at our Urgent Care center getting x-rays on his ankle… just a bad sprain fortunately. He’ll likely be on crutches this weekend. BOYS… he was “racing” down stairs in gym class and decided to jump the last part… after all, he’d done it before with no problems. (sigh)</p>
<p>Good morning all. It’s nice to see that so many of you still log in and keep up. I however, have no news to report since my son is one of the less communicative guys. I am still going with the “no news is good news” attitude. He is coming home in 9 days for a 4 day weekend since his school has something called “Fall break” and hopefully we will glean some insight into his new college life then. I do skype with him occasionally and so I get to see his room and roommate and all appears fine.</p>
<p>We are also going to Family Weekend at the end of October so we can check in then as well. </p>
<p>I am loving the “new normal” here. Life is simpler when the nest is empty and I like simple.
I may be alone in this but DH and I are really enjoying our temporary empty nest. My D2 graduates college in December and will probably move home until grad school in September so…the revolving door continues.</p>
<p>Just checking in, as well. I’m sorry to hear about the RM issues. Hopefully, they’ll be resolved before they become too much of a distraction. On the positive side, it is a life lesson that may serve them well.</p>
<p>A few of my friends IRL also have college freshmen and we vowed to get together regularly. Last weekend was our first one after the kids’ launched. The 5 of us and our husbands got to share stories about move in and the kids’ new college lives. It was great fun! </p>
<p>DD is doing well. She had her first college sports competition this weekend and is happy with her performance. She did miss 3 days of classes and will have to play catch up. She also landed a research assistant position that she said she really wanted. “You don’t turn down projects like this.” I am a little concerned that she has a full plate but she’s always loved a challenge. I have to trust that she can handle it. I have to say I worry more about her daily habits. In the last month, she misplaced her wallet and I had to send her a new ATM card. Her car was also towed when she couldn’t find parking in the school parking lot. Ugh. </p>
<p>She is missing her favorite foods. How can I send a carne asada burrito, pad thai or pho cross country?!</p>
<p>Elka, you do realize we need to be top priority for an update… ;)</p>
<p>lilmom - your get together sounds fun!</p>
<p>seiclan - my oldest is like that. It’s kind of a bummer. Like you, I think we’re going to love empty nesting, albeit for us, in two years.</p>
<p>hsmom2dncrs - what a tragic situation. I’m so glad this little girl has family members and kind neighbors who are willing to step in and love her. I hope she’s out of the hospital soon. </p>
<p>I’m not getting much news from the college boys either. They’ll be home Saturday for a long weekend…but I probably still won’t get a lot of details. </p>
<p>seiclan - nice to hear you’re enjoying your simpler pace of life. We are too, now that we’re down to just one at home.</p>
<p>So sorry to hear about the little girl, hoping things continue to improve…and the judge gives your neighbor legal custody.</p>
<p>Elka, hope the RM issue is resolved.</p>
<p>Elka - I was just popping in hoping to hear about some resolution to this.</p>
<p>I too have nothing new to report. I will say my youngest is enjoying the only child status now. And it is nice to have time with just one. I can’t really wrap my mind around her going off to college. I have to suck everything I can out of the next two years.</p>
<p>Of course with S coming home for the long weekend there are a ton of things going on here. D is having friends sleeping over Sat after homecoming and I told her that I want them gone by noon. I don’t mean to be rude, but I really don’t want these kids hanging out all day when I only have S home for such a short time.</p>
<p>Sorry everyone, I’ve just been waiting for final confirmation from my S before posting.
So when I called and spoke to the school it came out the reason they were taking so long is that there is a shortage of male accomodations on campus (huge state school) and they did not want to move my S away from the special interest housing he’s in. The reason it would be my S moving is when the campus police wrote their report, he refused to press charges (he says he did not want to ruin the RM’s life …kids).
So they can’t forcibly remove the RM from the room without cause. I was also told that my S was supposed to get his key back on Monday, so there must have been some misunderstanding.<br>
While I’ve been in numerous phone calls with the school, my S and his friends came up with a solution - one of them wants a room to himself, so they decided he will room swap with my S (they are doing it now), and at the first provocation from the RM (which they feel will happen quickly) he will report him and press charges.
I’m slightly appalled by this, but am selfishly happy my child will now have a room and stay in the same dorm he’s in now.</p>
<p>elka67 – well, that’s a solution, if not a very satisfying one. At least your S will get to stay with his friends in the special-interest housing.</p>
<p>It is at least some solution, and I am glad of it, elka. Is there a reason why your DS still can’t press charges? It isn’t as if the statute of limitations is up, and there was evidence? Keep us up to date with this, as I am sure there will be updates shortly.</p>
<p>I need some help from my URochester friends. A good friend of my D, currently a HS senior, is being recruited by a school near UR for athletics. This school has offered to fly her out to visit the second weekend in November. The girl thinks UR is high up on her list, and wants to take the opportunity to visit there too. But UR isn’t being responsive to her queries about setting up an overnight visit. </p>
<p>I think all of the UR kids on our list are boys, right? This girl probably wouldn’t feel comfortable staying with a boy she doesn’t know, even if it is a friend-of-a-friend. But maybe one of you can suggest how she can find someone to overnight with on-campus? </p>
<p>She’ll likely be traveling alone. So tips for getting to/from campus, etc., would also be appreciated.</p>
<p>This probably isn’t of general interest, so PM me? Thanks in advance!</p>
<p>Elka - trying to understand this solution. so a friend is moving into that room with the intention of reporting him and getting him kicked out?</p>
<p>texaspg - yup that’s the solution the kids came up with.
MizzBee - I’m not really sure why my S can’t straighten out the story now, but I’m just glad it’s over with, no thanks to the school.
I think this situation would have been handled much differently at a smaller or private school, oh well.</p>
<p>elka- it is not really over and you and your son should be prepared. Another kid has agreed to “stand up” to the RM. He has agreed to unofficially switch rooms and press charges when and if the RM creates a problem. In theory this is great. However, as soon as the “new guy” gets his stuff broken, has issues or decides he doesn’t want this problem anymore, he will turn to your son and say, “hey, I want my room back”. So, although this “new guy” is trying to be noble and take on this issue when your son didn’t, won’t, doesn’t want to take it on, your son is still in the game. 
Both of you should be prepared or at least aware.</p>
<p>Elka, you should definitely be so proud of your son and his friends. Their solution is absolutely brilliant, when you think about it. Your son is out of the bad situation while still with his floor friends. The friend who is switching with him is on full notice of the RM’s nature and will just be waiting for him to set a foot wrong. And the (evil) fun part…is that RM knows this. So RM either really needs to toe the line …in which case he will not be a problem…or if he does not toe the line, he’s toast and out like garbage. And if RM doesn’t like the new situation–well, too bad so sad–he can just move elsewhere without being missed by your son and all the other good kids on the floor.</p>
<p>thanks boysx3
geogirl1 - I am under orders from my S to think possitively and stop stressing, and I am going to try to do so.</p>