<p>CPU, good for you for reaching out for support. You are a smart girl!</p>
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<p>I’m not convinced that’s the only trigger. I just signed youngest up for the March SAT a couple of days ago and I’ve been seeing a lot of SAT Prep advertisements. I also looked at the Onion’s satire of U Miami yesterday and saw them highlighted for ads (never looked at them on the Alphabetical college list). Youngest is interested in Palm Beach Atlantic so I’ve been looking at their website, but they don’t even have an alphabetic option - yet I still see them regularly.</p>
<p>Nah, they “never” track what one does on the 'net! ;)</p>
<p>CPU - I’m really glad to hear you’ve been seeing/talking with someone! I wish you the best in your life (not just now - all of it)!</p>
<p>Eyemamom - I hope your guy had a great birthday!</p>
<p>Snowflake - congrats to your guy for the successful impromptu audition. I’d give Bingo points!</p>
<p>It’s sorority recruitment time at Barnard/Columbia. </p>
<p>College students think we all function on their time schedules, dont’ they? I got a call at almost midnight last night from my D because she was updating her resume and didn’t know how to deal with some of the formatting. Really? I’m supposed to be using my brain after being up since 5:30 am?</p>
<p>I don’t usually post, but wanted to add another voice of support to CPU. Hang in there! You’re doing the right thing seeing a counselor. One day at a time, and things will get clearer and you’ll discover what’s right for you. Don’t make any rash decisions.</p>
<p>2016BarnardMom, my D is going through sorority recruitment, which I have mixed feelings about. I assume your D was updating her resume for that? Don’t know if my D even knew she should have one. Anyway, she said today’s events were a “unique” experience. When I say “mixed feelings,” I really mean prejudice against, which I’m trying to get past. And what about the extra time it would take?</p>
<p>notakid: My D wasn’t updating her resume for recruitment. She started a new job and was offered yet another and was just updating it to include them so it is always ready. Why she decided midnight on Friday night was a good time to do that, I don’t know…lol. </p>
<p>As a 25 year volunteer for my sorority since college, I’m very pro greek life at most schools, including Barnard/Columbia. While it does take some extra time, it includes a strong scholarship component, no matter which chapter a young woman joins. Leadership, scholarship, philanthropy and sisterhood are the cornerstones of National Panhellenic Conference sororities. It is a lifelong membership that provides benefits for alumnae as well. It can provide additional opportunities for career networking and many, many personal development opportunities. For me, when I was in college, it gave me a real sense of community and support… a niche and a place to call home when I was away from home. </p>
<p>I think if you Google the national web sites of the sororities on campus, read their creeds, purpose, symphony (essentially their values statements), you will feel a little better about it. ALL of the sororities believe that school is priority #1 because that’s why women are in college. They all have scholarship/GPA requirements. They also all have scholarships available for members! </p>
<p>I will not deny that some chapters on some campuses get caught up focusing on the wrong ideals, but I did plenty of research into the Columbia system and have not found that to be the case there.</p>
<p>Thanks, 2016. I acquired a stereotype (bad) of frat/sor members in my undergrad days many years ago at the U of Texas, which I realize is not reliable and not all that applicable to today’s Columbia/Barnard, anyway. I think I can rely on my D’s judgment, and she is exploring the idea, not committed to it. She met a bunch of girls from Calif that she likes who were enthusiastic about joining a sorority, and that got her to start thinking about it. I haven’t said anything to her to discourage it, though I can’t believe it doesn’t end up costing a lot more than what she is aware of. She’ll have to say yes Tuesday if one of the two sororities she narrows her choice down to makes her an offer, assuming she goes that far.</p>
<p>First video chat w/ DD’16 last night! So much fun for the brothers and sister - they all crowded around the screen. DD’16 and DS’14 connected their repsective Macbook and iPad mini. Little sister got to see big sis’s dorm room, etc.</p>
<p>CPU, you are not alone. We know students IRL who were in the same situation. Those who sought out help were the ones who seemed to be able to make better decisions on how to proceed. I’m happy to hear you will be speaking to someone.</p>
<p>notakid, I was in your boat re the feelings I had about frats and sororities having also gone to a major Southern university, but my son just accepted a bid to a frat that he really connected with. I feel confident that he’ll figure out how to manage his time and get a lot out of it. Good luck to your daughter either way.</p>
<p>Very cool, glido!</p>
<p>I think skype is a fabulous invention…</p>
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<li><p>S is meeting with prospective new roommates right now. If everyone could do a collective “fingers crossed” for him like right now-it would be greatly appreciated.</p></li>
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<p>Thanks…</p>
<p>Welcome to tayloal and Case16mom!</p>
<p>Welcome to the “new” thread, PennMom2012! :)</p>
<p>NervousNellie1 – Best of luck to your S with respect to roomies.</p>
<p>When I suggested to S prior to the start of school that we might try skyping occasionally, he deadpanned “You’re kidding, right?” :rolleyes:</p>
<p>SteveC … yep, I know that reaction. I got the same reaction. Hmmpf. Don’t they know we look in their eyes to get the real story?</p>
<p>fingers crossed for NervousNellie’s S finding a good roommate!</p>
<p>Just popping in to also offer support to CPU. And I am a big fan of not getting too caught up in what you are getting an education for… meaning, I don’t think you have to have all the answers about what to study etc at this point. Also, I didn’t see it mentioned so I am wondering how the roommate situation is going.</p>
<p>OUr own D16 had some initial roommate issues the first quarter, but I told her that was an easy problem to solve (although a little annoying when it comes to changing rooms). While I was a bit of a hassle, she was happier in 24 hours than she had been for the entire first three months. While I haven’t heard from her since (except to say that she was busy and has it under control), I am assuming it solved a big part of her being lonely in her own room. They were just very different and while D has to get up early to work out etc, her roommate was a night owl who didn’t have a first class until closer to noon.</p>
<p>D2 just got her lottery number from her sorority for housing for next year. She gets to live in the house. They admitted too many girls, so some girls are going to live in an annex next year. D2 would have been very disappointed. I am relieved that we won’t have to worry about housing for next year.</p>
<p>Great news Oldfort!</p>
<p>Wanted to wish CPU well and hope things are improving. You are doing the right thing in seeking help and as others have said, what you are experiencing is normal so don’t be too hard on yourself. It is a process, with a big learning curve. You are only 18 and not expected to have all the answers - heck, despite our advanced age, most of us adults still question things. </p>
<p>Great news on the housing front for oldforts D and hope nervousnellie’s son resolves the roommate issue. S2 is thrilled with his new roommate - I’ve seen firsthand how difficult a stressful roommate situation can be, so I’m crossing fingers and toes that it all works out for him!</p>