<p>I hope it all works out, IJustDrive. ((hugs)) to you and your daughter.</p>
<p>Is this the time of year that the students start room selection for '13-'14? We haven’t heard anything from DD on that front yet. Hope it all works out for everyone.</p>
<p>S moved into new room this afternoon. So weird to say ok to a room where you only met 2 (there are 3) RM’s for about 10 minutes. But-then again, he didn’t meet any of the old ones until move in day.</p>
<p>Just hoping this works well for him and the awkwardness of getting to know each others routines goes quickly. He is more excited than nervous.</p>
<p>The housing window for next year opened up this morning. It is the earlier you reserve your spot, the better chance you have of getting what you want. He is planning on a random RM again but just one this time (hopefully). There is no way he could put any of the new guys down since he hasn’t even spent the night yet and it is best to sign up for next year early.</p>
<p>He is pretty adaptable and I think the less RM’s the better. Since he will be sophomore status next year, the “quad” deal should be pretty much off the table.</p>
<p>Hope it works out Nellie! Boys are much more easy going so I’m going to say it will be more than fine.</p>
<p>Younger, non-math, daughter calls today - she got an A- in her computer class mid-term (program writing class, very math oriented). She’s liking it so much she’s considering taking another math class next term. Huh? We were petrified when she said she was taking this class, happy to be wrong. Guess that supports Creekland’s developmental hypothesis. </p>
<p>Conversely, my older math daughter has decided today to drop an upper level math class she was taking “for fun” because she’s finding it a bit too stressful and time consuming as a senior. Am I living in an alternate world today?</p>
<p>Ordered the Danica MacKellar geometry book yesterday for math-impaired D2016. I told her today, but she was less than thrilled. Suggested it might make for an interesting, alternative read. Got an eyeroll. I like the idea of delaying a math requirement in college instead of just getting it over.</p>
<p>D1 is most likely going to be in a suite 0f 7 for her sport with her current roommate. They are very similar and do lots of things together. There are some sophs, a couple jrs and one sr, so they are hoping to get 2 suites. Glad they all think they can get along!</p>
<p>On a sad note, a student at D1’s LAC died from bacterial meningitis this past weekend, despite having the vaccine. Really shook her and the campus. Good opportunity to talk with D about signs and symptoms of health issues that need immediate medical attention, though it sounds like this girl’s illness was very sudden and she sought treatment early. So awful for her parents and siblings.</p>
<p>^^^ How awful! Things like that make me shudder - and put everything else into perspective.</p>
<p>My cousin contracted meningitis when in college, but fortunately he survived. They told him another hour or two later and he wouldn’t have.</p>
<p>I think my D is in the same boat as Ijustdrive’s D in the whole housing lottery scenario/potential fiasco. I won’t go into details of the convoluted process - I think it took quite a degree in operations management to come up with this plan, but unless you get a very good number (like the top 10%) or someone pulling you in got such a number, you get little choice over your situation. I would say that it leaves about 60 percent with housing that was not what they wanted. I am nervous as to how this will come down. What a luxury to be able to pick your suitemates (and get a suite). </p>
<p>Such horrible news about the meningitis case. My sympathies to all affected.</p>
<p>My D is happy with her recent room change, but is in a similar boat to IJD and AM2’s daughters for next year. Her current roommate is living elsewhere so D is either doing the random dorm thing again or an equally questionable random apartment thing. Her dorm room request window opened a long time ago but she really doesn’t want to stay on campus unless absolutely necessary. The way her school works, once you sign the dorm contract you’re stuck paying for it, so she wants to put off signing up until the last minute. I don’t like it when decisions like this are up in the air…</p>
<p>Awful about the meningitis death. Can’t even imagine how the family can cope.</p>
<p>Barnardmom- yay for your D on sorority success! I can tell you it was the best experience for me. </p>
<p>Oldfort - great that your D got in the house.</p>
<p>To those with roommate switches so hope your kids are in better places. </p>
<p>My D was also lucky enough to get in the sorority house! I am so excited for her to live there.</p>
<p>Awful to hear about the meningitis death… </p>
<p>My D is also a math panic/anxiety on the tests. She has been for years. Over the years she has gotten better by using deep breathing exercises.</p>
<p>Ok, I have to admit, I’m now freaking out about the empty nest thing. When S’14 starts college, I’m going to be alone. A relationship I thought was going to take me through my old age just ended and it is hitting me much harder than it usually would, because it is compounded by “I am going to be alone in less than two years.” I know a lot of this is because the wound is still so fresh and I will feel better in a week or two, but my S’14 goes to his dad’s this weekend and I’m dreading him being gone. I have a ton of homework to do for grad school and I hope I can focus on that and not focus on this sadness 
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<p>At the same time, I love my new job but haven’t been there long enough to make friends yet, so I feel pretty alone there right now too. Too much aloneness is not good.</p>
<p>2016BarnardMom – {{{Hugs}}}. Sorry about the relationship ending.</p>
<p>Maybe find somewhere other than home to do your grad work this weekend? A coffee shop or bookstore or library would have place for you to be with others but still accomplish work. If it were me, I’d also set up bribes/rewards for myself – get x amount of work done and get to do/eat something.</p>
<p>Hugs to you BarnardMom … we’ll be here all weekend for you to reach out. :)</p>
<p>I got on the horn and called some girlfriends to make some plans this weekend. That will help 
I have a very full and fulfilling life. I have two great kids, my career is really taking off in great directions, I’m a national volunteer for my sorority, and I have great friends and sorority sisters. I’m very independent and self sufficient. I just need to figure why I can’t seem to get this relationship thing right.</p>
<p>Can someone who is clued in to Greek life point me to a website where fraternities are discussed? S just pledged a frat (sort of out of the blue to us, though he has talked about it a bit) and I want to look into it. H and I are total geeks and never really got the frat concept, but S is very social and was having trouble finding a group of like minded friends, so it will probably be a good thing for him. He has a real left coast vibe, so I have a feeling it’s not one of the more tradition bound frats, but want to check it out without cross examining him!</p>
<p>It is greekchat dot com.</p>
<p>Thanks oldfort!</p>
<p>Barnardmom- sounds like you are taking steps in the right direction. Some time with the girls is a great idea. While its hard to hear, the right one will come along when the time is right… </p>
<p>in the mean time (hugs) to you.</p>
<p>Barnardmom - I’m sorry to hear your difficulties. It seems for me anyway that it’s really not possible to have everything at one time. Glad you made plans to go out and shake off the blues. I also have a younger one at home, and though I’m married, the empty nest is something I’ve been dreading for years. Now we’re gearing up for testing, college tours, applications, etc… I’m going to be sad when she goes, she’s the one who shares everything, we’re very close and she is such a force of energy around here it’s hard to imagine.</p>
<p>How are the kids faring in the storm? I think S is just planning on hanging out with friends in the dorms to ride out the storm. I guess games and merriment are part of the plan.</p>
<p>Classes called off - DD is bonding with her classmates in teh dorm, riding out the storm in Boston. FedExed some hot chocolate mix Monday. She has never been in a snowstorm before. Should be fun to hear the story from her.</p>
<p>eyemamom: It seems that way for me too. When that relationship was going great, I hated my job. I got the new job and the relationship tanked. The last time everything seemed to be in place at once, I got really sick and diagnosed with Crohn’s disease. To be honest, I’ll take health, a great career, and great kids over the relationship. </p>
<p>I think the blizzard may be good for my D. She’s a tad bit overwhelmed right now and could use the time to get some work done!</p>