DD is expecting a great internship offer for the summer based on a very positive interview (they indicated the offer would be forthcoming). However, it would mean another summer moving to a new city and living on her own not knowing anyone. Given that she is out of the country this semester now living on her own in an apartment, and spent last summer living abroad, she was really hoping for a summer in Boston where she goes to school. She is very torn. Given her IR major, she feels this moving around is what she will be doing for much of her life and would prefer one last summer of just being a college student in a familiar place. I am not sure how to advise her. Thoughts?
@1012mom - Many junior summer internship turns into FT jobs. If it is going to be the case for your D then she may need to decide if this is the job she wants to work for when she graduates. If it is going to be her dream job then I wouldn’t have her turn down the job. She also needs to figure out if she is going to be able to get another substantial summer job when she returns because most potential employers expect juniors to have job related internship. Your D may be able to delay her internship or finish early. A lot of internships go for 6-8 weeks. She would have a month to hang out in Boston.
Don’t know if this has been mentioned earlier in this thread, but I just made a reservation for graduation for May 2016. The hotel said they were about half full already. If you have a student in school in a smaller town like I do, you might want to do this sooner rather than later!
Yup. I put a downpayment for a house last month for my family. Most of those places only take reservation one year ahead, but we rented the same house for D1, so the owner took my downpayment. The house is by the lake in Ithaca. We will host a barbecue for D2’s friends and families.
Just got a great piece of news. D2 just got offered an internship at a DA’s office. This is a brag…over 500 students applied, they selected 12. She is over the moon.
Thanks for the reminder on the hotels for graduation.
Congrats to your D Oldfort! That is always great news to have a good internship.
Just want to say hello to everyone here. After over 20 years of being the manager for my husband’s medical practice, I am now “unemployed”. He joined a large medical group, and for most of the negotiations I thought there would be a job for me there. We didn’t want that to be a contingency for his arrangements. Fortunately or unfortunately, I am not yet sure which, there was nothing available that I felt was right for me. I am looking forward to having free time, but I can’t say that I have it yet. I have work to do for my Fil’s estate, and quite a few personal matters that have built up over the time it took to get everything organized for H’s change of business. I signed up for a conference in something different than medical management, and I will see how that goes, and whether that is something that I would like to do. I am not sorry to be done with the medical office management for many reasons. The two worst were when there was a problem with technology - phones, computer, internet etc. Now it will be someone else’s headache. The other situation was employee absence. It wasn’t like we could call up the pool of available people to come in - there was no one. I usually got the gig since it was not a large place.
One of the funniest stories of things I had to do occurred years ago. I was wearing my best suit since I had to go to a meeting with the principal at my daughters school that afternoon. To me it was a very special suit - designer in fact, the only one I ever had (no bragging intended - the suit was a special gift.) One of the “girls” that worked for us had clogged up the toilet. I sent her to home depot for a plunger. She comes back with what I would call a sink plunger - i.e. the handle was one foot long only with a plain red rubber dome! I guess she never plunged before. Picture where your arm would be with that plunger. Then I sent a woman who was mature, shall we say, back to home depot. This time I told her exactly what type of plunger to get - not the plain red rubber one, but the kind that has a small opening with a large bellows above it. This is "industrial’ strength. So I got to plunge in my designer suit. Luckily, there was no backsplash. Of course I could have called the plumber. I didn’t because he probably wouldn’t have even come that day, and if he did, the “emergency call” would have been something like $300 or more. Now this was something that some may have said was a leadership lesson - showing how taking care of the place was important or whatever. In retrospect, I think either it was wasted upon the employees or no lesson at all. Do you think I should have forced the clogger to plunge?
That is another thing that I learned in that job. While some young employees respected the wisdom that my H or I could offer them in their future career and educational planning, many more did not. We didn’t think a lot of those made such good choices either (although we always kept that to ourselves). The other funny thing about that was that education or family background as a demographic made almost no difference in the attitude that the young people took. Some from meager backgrounds were anxious to see what they could learn (but certainly not all), and others who went to fine colleges thought they knew everything, even if quite clearly they did not. Of course some of those from fine colleges were wonderful people , and we loved working with them.
Since we all have young adults in our lives, my 2 cents it that if we can educate them to learn from those who have been there and have worthwhile things to say (whether they realize it or not), it is good for those young adults. I don’t even understand those young people who come to work with an attitude that they know more about virtually everything with their freshly minted BA in whatever. Where I come from we call it Chutzpa. Of course none of our kids have such an attitude 
. While I am rambling on, one more story on this line. A while back we had offered a job to someone from a fine college who hoped to use the employment as a building block to an application to graduate school. A recommendation from our office would have been used in the process. After the salary and financial aspects had been agreed to, and we had stopped interviewing candidates, the potential employee was very evasive about the start date, and decided to try to negotiate a better deal. We ended up withdrawing the offer. We did not want to work with someone who pulled that type of stunt. The time for negotiation is not after you already accepted the offer. At least in my thinking. If you have competing offers, then say so. If you keep interviewing after you accept the offer, then you must be willing to accept the consequences. I don’t know if that candidate did have another offer. Nothing was said and we never asked. I know that it came as quite a shock to the person that we said no thank you. Perhaps this type of negotiation works in big business deals where the sought after bargain can be found no where else or from someone who has credentials that are not easily found. However, if what you have to offer is not so unusual, e.g. a BA in whatever, it is not to my thinking a good idea to pull that type of thing.
This has been very stressful for H and myself, and we are looking forward to things settling down.
DD got her dorm room and class schedule for senior year . . . seems like I just drop her off for freshman year!
Hope everyone has wound down the year well and is ready to head into the home stretch. DD just landed back on American soil from her semester abroad. She has a plane change so I will not get to see her beautiful face until late tonight - but boy am I ready. Enjoy the last summer of college everyone!
Enjoy 1012mom. My son was home for 2 hours before he took off for a geology trip, and then he comes home tomorrow just to leave for a hike.
His grades are in and he did a good job, so I am happy for him and glad he gets a moment to decompress on the trail.
Can’t believe they only have one more year.
Yup, DD is home for a few weeks to take the LSAT then off to DC for an internship. I’m going there in July to visit her otherwise I wouldn’t see her til Nov or Dec. She’s excited to finally be getting out of the dorms and into an on campus apartment.
Yesterday, we had lunch with some family friends. Our kids grew up together and it was surreal looking at a room with four college seniors. Two of the oldest kids (one of them, our son) graduated from college last year. For the next 6 years, we’ll be celebrating college graduations.
My 2012 guy comes home tomorrow and doesn’t leave for CA until mid June. His younger brother came home Thursday and will spend the whole summer here. It feels good! It’s easy to reminisce their growing up days though.
How is your health @Creekland ?
My D is spending her summer in NYC again- doing a paid internship this year.
They’ll let me know in mid June.
This past week, since Monday, I’ve felt better than in a long time, but I almost hate to write or say that as each time I have before it seems to jinx things (even though I don’t believe in jinxes).
Nonetheless, I’m definitely enjoying feeling better for even a little bit.
D’12 returned from study abroad this weekend. 
She had an amazing time and an amazing experience. She gets to settle around the house for a week before starting her paid internship and starting 1 summer class she’s taking to ensure a lighter load next Spring. She moves into her off campus house August 1st. Everything is on track and on schedule for Senior year! =D> time to start planning for the empty nest!
Got 'em all under one roof again! Love to watch them hang out with each other. DD’18 is developing a nice relationship with DD’12.
They are gearing up for senior year. How did this happen?
It’s unbelievable, I know. Three years ago we were all gearing up for the launch. Now we watch as they gear up for what comes next-- grad school, real jobs… Time has gone so quickly.
DD has already started applications for next year (Fulbright, etc.) with due dates in the fall. Wow. Time flies. Let’s savor this last year.
With being accepted to URoc’s Take 5, we have an extra year, but graduation is still this coming May. I’ve already blocked that time out in my schedule - even arranging farm things around it so they won’t be a conflict in the spring. My guy will also be taking the MCAT in April - with med school apps in June. Next year will be busy, busy, busy!
Time sure has flown.
The health update said the tumor is stable. In real measurements it shrunk a little after radiation was complete and is now back to it’s pre-radiation size (or slightly larger) though (18 months later). It could all be margin of error. If not, at least it’s slow growth rather than rapid. No more updates for another year unless symptoms warrant something sooner.
We hit a wall figuring out the cause of other things going on. I’ve pretty much come to the conclusion I’ll just have to live with them. Most days that’s relatively easy. When it’s not… such is life. Getting older after age 40 (or so) has a whole different meaning than in the younger years!
Thinking of you Creekland.