<p>boysx3 - OOO.MMM.GGG. Good for neighbor boy, ground rules and boundaries are hopefully all re-established now. I can’t believe she raised her voice to him… unreal! Awesome RA work… send the RA some treats!</p>
<p>Roomie never talks because he’s too busy enjoying the peace and quiet around him for the first time in his life. It’s a good sign that he goes to some meals with neighbor boy, at least it proves he does like neighbor boy!</p>
<p>I think it’s great contrasting how well neighbor boy has handled this with the other thread complaining about the horrid roommate where there are 3+ girls in a suite and 1 girl demanded the single and then has her boyfriend living there with her.</p>
<p>Neighbor boy has managed to be non-confrontational while standing up for his rights. Hooray for him!</p>
<p>Creekland, I am so glad to hear that your S is getting along with his roommate. Yours was such a heartbreaking story.</p>
<p>Creekland, I too am so happy for your son. I am glad he is enjoying school and his new roomie.</p>
<p>As far as my neighbor goes, she is hopeful that General Mom has gotten the message and that the drama is over. She did not yet receive any response to her email. She did blind copy the RA to keep the RA in the loop.</p>
<p>As far as neighborboy is concerned, I’m not sure whether he is so much standing up for himself as just general teenage boy oblivious to the world around him, and is just doing his own thing…always nice to the roomie, ignoring whatever adults he can get away with ignoring? He is just a really nice, positive kid who always seems to be having fun…</p>
<p>boysx3 - I’ve actually read your posts to my hubby and son (now away at school) hubby now even asks for updates - lol. This update is just too much. Thank goodness the RA got involved. And yay for the mom for ordering Gen. Mom to cease and desist. Sheesh, unbelievable. It’s amazing the two boys are even getting along at all. I feel sorry for the poor kid, I hope he can get a backbone.</p>
<p>Creek - I’m so glad your son likes the new roomie. It was such a tragic start for him, but sounds like he’s a roll with the punches kind of kid who adapts well. </p>
<p>WordWorld - we’re not going to parents weekend. Fall break is the weekend before and he’s coming home so it seems silly to go up a few days later. I told him if he wanted us there we would do not problem. I think I’d rather save a trip up there for the second semester when he won’t have as many breaks to come home. I have a feeling he could use a little space anyway.</p>
<p>I’m glad to get the updates here… sounds like the situation went the way it needed to for neighbors son, but that is just unreal. Creek - also glad to hear your son likes his new roommate. I know you were a little concerned when there wasn’t immediate contact… and especially so given the sad background in the summer.</p>
<p>Hope I’ll get a chance to actually talk to our daughter this weekend… mostly have been small online chats so far, and we’re accumulating questions to ask about. I think everything is going well with her… She did post on FB tonight - “It seems I haven’t yet figured out how to do this “college party” thing… any tips?” H and I restrained ourselves from comments, and she has gotten quite a bit of drinking advice from people in reply… including telling her to get really super drunk and then go to sleep without throwing up … ummm we’ll probably be discussing that with her.</p>
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<p>Wow, congratulations on refraining from comment!</p>
<p>I’m glad my guy told his younger brother that only about 25% of people on his hall are even in to partying - then they go elsewhere. He has plenty of people on his hall who actually enjoy other forms of entertainment (as does he). They go to movies and play a variety of games. We’re not teetotalers, but we have mentioned to him the dangers of too much drinking (before he left) - esp if he decides to go pre-med.</p>
<p>And yes, we’re VERY thankful he ended up with a nice roommate (and no problems with his mom!). He hasn’t forgotten Emmanuel, but he’s moving on.</p>
<p>I wonder if General Mom is going to back off or gear up for battle?</p>
<p>I love following the General Mom story too. I think it puts helicoptering in perspective. Kudos to both boys for not allowing this control freak any contro or to ruffle their feathers!</p>
<p>I haven’t heard from DS since a few nights ago, when I got the almost ill fated laundry room call.
DS: Can I wash my towels with my comforter?
Me: You are washing your queen size comforter in dorm machine? No and no!
DS: How about my color load? Do I push the button for colors or brights?
Me; I thought you told me you were going to find a girl to help you do laundry at college?
DS: I did, you’re my girl!</p>
<p>We did go over laundry at home but I forgot to go over sheets, towels and comforters (we practiced with separating whites and darks and even then, I told him he actually could combine them in cold water with a Shout Color CAtcher. The machines at his school are these new Eco kind and apparently the brights setting is the Eco one (cold/cold).
I never found out how the laundry came out and whether or not he ever tried to do the comforter. I emailed him yesterday saying I would, if he liked,send him a washable duvet to cover it but no response yet. Do we get a bingo piece for him attempting the laundry after 3weeks on campus?</p>
<p>Seiclan - got a similar call the other day. Mom? Can I put my comforter in the wash? Me - Why would you do that, it cannot be that dirty yet? no response. a little later/ Mom? How do I get ink out of a comforter?</p>
<p>A little googling later, and all is well.</p>
<p>^^^S going with a duvet over a comforter for just this reason. Adding a top sheet between him and the duvet as well…belt and suspenders 
I don’t expect the first laundry call from my late launcher until November…</p>
<p>Hahaha Seiclan!!! His charm will take him far! </p>
<p>D got her mailbox open after 2 weeks on campus–phew. She’s going to a dept. party on Saturday-- “Frosh Mosh” it’s called. Told me she was not going to drink, but that she (essentially unkissed thus far in her life) was intending on “hooking up”.</p>
<p>“Without alcohol?!” was my horrified response. The wrong one obviously. I’m pretty sure ‘hooking up’ means holding hands to her…pretty sure.</p>
<p>boysx3-- I’ve been reading it exactly that way, that neighborboy was more or less oblivious and that oblivion is probably the best response. Kind of love it.</p>
<p>I was supposed to visit D this weekend-- she had been expecting to be horribly homesick. In fact she is so deeply involved in her work and her friendships that I don’t think she needs me at all! :-)</p>
<p>Gotta say, if the whites and the colors have already been washed a number of times, the colors won’t bleed onto the whites. I stopped separating years ago, never had a problem. The problem my son has is he is so tall, he has to hang his clothes to dry so they don’t shrink but he has been doing so ever since he grew to be over 6 feet.</p>
<p>Lakemom - my son doesn’t separate either. It mostly works out fine.</p>
<p>Don’t know many kids who would spend the extra time separating darks and lights and essentially doubling their laundry time! I believe commercial washing machines destroy clothes anyway so many clothes other than jeans will not last too long.</p>
<p>My S has an answer to the whole laundry problem… you forget about the bed, just buy new socks, and wear the same outfit for 4 months…LOL!!</p>
<p>boysx3 - we are adopting your neighborboy as our poster boy for this thread. He seems like a very laidback kid who does not get affected by crap that happens at college and we would hope our kids can do that when they are at college. </p>
<p>I was expecting that it would come to where his mom needed to issue a cease and desist order at some point but did not think it would happen this quickly.</p>
<p>We are weeks behind the rest of you, but I’m enjoying the stories. Keeping my fingers crossed that S’s roommate is not like neighborboy’s. No signs of it so far, so chances are good that all will be well. </p>
<p>S is off hiking and out of touch for the next week, so we’re left to clean up and pack up and start our lives as empty nesters. I’m glad we’ll see him next week to complete the goodbyes and see him settled. As eyemamom said, it will be ok, we just need a little time to get there. I’m thankful for our good friends and neighbors who are looking out for us.</p>
<p>Some weeks being an empty nester are better than others. The trainer that D2 rode horse with for 7 years had a beautiful baby boy this morning (her first). The message I sent to her was to enjoy every moment as they grow up way too fast. Next month D1 will be 21 years old and I swear she was just that little baby in my arms. This week is not as good as last as I am really missing my girls!</p>
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How cute is that! Manipulative, maybe, but still adorable!</p>
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<p>And Gwen, your reaction to D’s plan to hook up is priceless!</p>
<p>boysx3…oh goodness…do you think General Mom realizes how entertaining she is in some many households across the country?</p>
<p>creek–much relieved that the new roommate and S seem to be clicking</p>
<p>haha on the laundry consults–got a text from S last week that said “Did laundry. Successfully.” Didn’t inquire further.</p>