<p>Hi everyone, visited Cal Lutheran for Parent Weekend last week. I think it’s funny how we still are very private about the school names even though everyone is signed sealed and delivered. I’m lucky my D likes her school, is best friends with 2 of her roommates, loves her classes. Although she thinks her school is very boring, especially on weekends. She hasn’t called wanting to transfer or come home yet:) still going strong with BF down the freeway at UCLA. They see each other pretty much every other weekend, although he is a much more diligent student.</p>
<p>I’m just in denial and really don’t want to know exact details of sleeping arrangements. I don’t ask.</p>
<p>I visited my son last weekend just for one night, and it was so good to see him relaxed, in control of his environment and happy. He’s had a few challenges, but all predictable, and all dealt with fairly successfully. It was a short and sweet visit, and he refused all offers of cash, shopping excursions and additional care packages (so different from my daughter!). “I have everything I want and need right here, really, Mom!” All he asked for was his favorite foods be there at Thanksgiving. I expect he will sleep, eat, repeat for the 4 days he’s home.</p>
<p>He told me about a visit a current HS senior-friend made to his campus recently, and telling the kid, “I really love it here. You should apply!” Music to my ears. </p>
<p>Much to be thankful for this year, and leading the list is having a happy, (reasonably) healthy, freshman. </p>
<p>Hope most of you will have your kids with you at Thanksgiving, as well. I know some college’s breaks are too short to make that practical, though.</p>
<p>It’s been so long since I’ve posted anything on CC, or this forum, which was such a place of support the past couple of years! I am SO happy to read through these updates on our kids! I know that the launch doesn’t always work out well and went through a less than positive first year experience with my son…which ultimately led to learning the transfer process (second time is sometimes the charm). But, I am happy to report that my daughter LOVES Warren Wilson and it has turned out to be the best decision she ever could have made. She has good friends, gets along super well with her roommate, and is doing exceptionally well academically. She’s also getting involved with activities and having fun on weekends in Asheville. </p>
<p>I miss her SO, SO much, but it’s certainly easier to let go when she’s doing so well with this new life of hers. We’ve done google video chat a few times, but she texts mostly. I got an actual EMAIL from her with details about the classes she’ll be taking next semester and I was tearing up with joy, lol! I have mailed her several care packages of cookies etc. After the first large package of several types of cookies, she said she had friends over for a “tea party”. That made me laugh and it also reminds me that although she’s more grown up, her essence will always remain. She will always share that beautiful spirit where ever she goes :).</p>
<p>jkiwmom, I’m so happy to read your update! I’ve been wondering how your D was doing at WW - it’s great to hear that she is doing well and that she is thriving. :)</p>
<p>Hi Class of 2013 parents! I’m a Class of 2014 parent and wanted you to know that it is <em>great</em> to hear the success stories. Thanks for reporting back from the other end of the tunnel.</p>
<p>It’s so good to have D home. She actually came home a week early due to my mother’s death, but her profs were very understanding and let her take exams on Reading Day. She handled the stress well, and her GPA is well above anything she saw in high school! She seems so much more focused and grown up. She’s talking about adding a double major and two minors, and plans to meet with her advisor as soon as she gets back. </p>
<p>She has, however, not had luck finding an on-campus job. Admittedly, we didn’t put much pressure on her and she has been living fine off the savings from her summer job. Are your kids working at school?</p>
<p>DS got 3.3gpa in his first semester at Clemson - Engineering major, so not an easy load. We are thrilled! He did not get a job either and not sure we really want him to yet. He doesn’t spend much yet anyhow.</p>
<p>mamaduck, so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother.</p>
<p>All good here with my kid at Oregon. Finals were harder than he thought they’d be, but they did not count for too much of his final grade so he emerged with all As and Bs for the term, hooray! Computer science emerged as his favorite class, (double hooray), and he’s “declared” that as his major. We’ll see how that goes — we are cautiously optimistic, but it’s a major that definitely gets harder as you progress to upper level courses. He’s making a room switch when he goes back in Jan. —his first roommate was, well, odd— and the housing office swiftly approved the request to move into a friend’s room, whose exchange student roommate has left. He’s happy and even told me the other night he was looking forward to returning to school in January.</p>
<p>My D is doing great and loves her roommates in her suite. We are still waiting for final grades but it’s looking like all Bs which is OK although she was convinced she was getting an A in her favorite class. She tried really hard because she’s still working on getting her car at school for 2nd semester . Still going strong with the boyfriend!</p>
<p>Survived 1st semester at UCONN. S was a little disappointed, ended up with a 3.06 gpa (mechanical engineering). I am fine with it. He is not working, living off summer earnings. Except for books I think he only spent about $10 all semester. Went to some free things occasionally (movies, comedy shows, etc) at the beginning of the semester but as the weeks went on his only social outlet seemed to be studying in a group!</p>
<p>He and his roommate coexist pretty well but that’s about it. S said he’s not sure when he eats or studies. He seems to exist on Mountain Dew (ran out at one point and was popping Advil due to the caffeine withdrawl headaches) and Oreos, and he plays video games for hours a day! At least he goes home almost every weekend so S has the room to himself.</p>
<p>Now that he is home, he is working on looking for a summer internship: setting up a Linked In account, making resume, etc. Hoping he can find one otherwise he will be back at the supermarket for the summer.</p>
<p>Glad to hear others are doing well. Mamaduck-sorry to hear about your mom.</p>
<p>Hello, old friends from this thread! Aren’t you glad CC didn’t make all these changes LAST year? My sympathies to those of you with younger kids in the college hunt. Hope all is well.</p>
<p>For those of you whose children are disappointed with where they are going to college, how did you deal with them…say to them, help them with that disappointment or embarrassment. I see this in my future. DS finished this last semester with a D and a D+ (Algebra 3 and Chem). He was tutored quite a lot and gave it his best shot right until the end as their finals are worth 20% of the grade (horrible!), as he really wanted the state academic honors diploma (nothing can be less than a C-). He has a 3.08 weighted GPA end of Junior year. He only has a 1410 SAT and is thinking about taking the ACT. He has ADHD inattentive, plus in my opinion, just really isn’t quite as smart academically as the average person. I really feel the SAT is a cousin to the IQ test. He is a really hard worker, whip smart socially and has a lot of common sense. Flagship school is out, even maybe the 2nd tier level school. He might get into the flagship urban campus, or a directional school. There is a chance he will have to do this. He knows he can transfer.</p>
<p>However, that doesn’t mean he won’t feel dejected, bad about himself, embarrassed…all that stuff. For those of you who went thru this…how did you handle it with your child and how did he/she react, come to grips with it and move on? Or are you still having to talk with them? I’m going to also put this in the 2013 class thread. Thanks for any help. </p>
<p>Jane, I received your PM…thank you so much. I am trying to pull it up on CC to reply, but when I click on the new message it won’t pull up. I’ll keep trying to figure out what I’m doing wrong.</p>