<p>Been there with rejections and deferrals. Oldest son got a deferral from Yale, and it later turned into a rejection. He was okay with that. It was the deferral from Harvard that sent him to bed that night at 7. I think he cried himself to sleep. Two days later, he got the deferral from Cornell (they had had problems with online decision results, so he had to wait for the mail.) I got the mail, saw the decision and asked that his AP U.S. history teacher, whom he just loved, be with us when he saw the result. He was quite down, but his teacher quickly pointed out all the great schools that wanted him. He had choices, he said, that others would never have. </p>
<p>So, sometimes, even though we may want something so badly, the choices we have will be much better ones. Today, my son would say that graduating debt free with two majors and two minors and all the study abroad options and opportunities he had through the U. of Alabama was the best thing that ever had happened to him.</p>
<p>Keep positive thoughts. I know it is very difficult when we see our kids hurting.</p>
<p>Son '14, meanwhile, got his driver’s license yesterday afternoon. He was happy. Then, he got home and saw he got into another school, so he’s 5 for 5 on admissions. He’s never visited this school, but he may if the merit money is good and he can run there.</p>
<p>DS was deferred at ED school…now to get busy on those other essays! He will also have to decide to apply ED2 at his second choice school or ride it out…</p>
<p>Yesterday DS got into Purdue for engineering after rejection of ED attempt to Duke the night before…today we await Case Western at noon…it is all good…he too is feeling cozy with Tulane after getting the luv a month or so ago…</p>
<p>Congrats to those with all the acceptances! And, to those with not so great news, you have something to look forward to - the good news is yet to come!!</p>
<p>As for S’14, he is taking his last ACT at the moment (I was expecting it to be cancelled due to the snow), and still needs to rewrite his CA essay!!</p>
<p>I’m at the “everything will happen in due time” stage!! Whenever S is ready, he will get it done!</p>
<p>DD got her EA news from Harvard yesterday. The results were sent out at 3:00 pm EST. She got home after her school activities at 6:00 and called her older brother S 10 on the phone to be there when she checked her mail. My husband and I were sitting next to her.</p>
<p>She broke down after seeing Congratulations! and was hugging us. She is accepted. It feels surreal.</p>
<p>4beardolls – I am so sorry – I can tell you feel as bad as DS if not worse. We all wish we could take away our kids’ pain.</p>
<p>onlyonemom – D was deferred from her ED school this time 3 years ago. I remember sitting at the kitchen table praying I’d hear an exultant scream. It wasn’t meant to be. She ended up at Emory, and I can’t say it’s the best place for her, but to borrow the line from that movie Marigold Hotel, everything will be alright in the end. And if it isn’t alright, it is not yet the end.</p>
<p>Countdowns - just so that everyone is aware of the remaining time until: </p>
<p>December 15th/20th ED/EA decisions 1 to 6 days until decision day. It’s getting very close!
December 31/January 1 RD application deadlines 17/18 days to the deadline. Less than three weeks! :eek:
March 14th - Pi Day (MIT) - 90 days to wait
March 30/31 RD decision day 106/107 days to wait (the waiting is painful!!)
April 1 - SS Indecision sets sail for a month - 108 days
April 30 - SS Indecision journey is over (hopefully!) - 137 days
May 1 - National admissions commitment and deposit due date and have a double margarita day to celebrate!!</p>
<p>Remember - Stress is just a 6 letter word. :D</p>
<p>DS accepted to one of his EA the schools today with a nice $22k per year merit award. Since we are full pay that is a nice bonus. If DS accepts this offer he will have a nice nest egg after graduation.</p>
<p>Congrats to all those with the wonderful news of acceptance!</p>
<p>To those with disappointing news, I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. As hard as it may be for your D or S to believe now, I have to believe what someone previously said, that the best is yet to come.</p>
<p>momreads - I really appreciate your post. What a wonderful teacher! My D and I are trying to keep our expectations realistic, though I know it will still be hard to receive that first (and any subsequent) rejection. I am so thankful to Alabama and their very generous scholarships - I’m hoping keeping in mind Alabama’s acceptance and wonderful offer will soften the blow to D for any disappointing news to come. We’ve yet to visit the campus but are scheduled for the Capstone Scholar’s Day in Jan. So good to hear how happy your oldest son is with how things turned out and his time at Alabama!</p>
<p>Congratulations to everyone who has gotten good news (and $$!) and hugs to those dealing with disappointments. </p>
<p>We had really talked down the chances of getting in to Vandy - knowing that the acceptance rate has been steadily dropping every year it seems. Her sister was the only positive thinker - she wore a Vandy sweatshirt to school Friday in hopes of it bringing good luck to DD14. And I guess it did! </p>
<p>We are over the moon about the acceptance! It was her dream school and she’s been plagued by anxiety w/ all the stress of this school year and applications … it’s a great relief to all of us here to know that she’s done.</p>
<p>DS received a yes (the one we’ve been expecting) and a no (huge reach, not surprised) today. Three left to go. One will announce before Christmas, another on early Feb. and the last April 1st.</p>
<p>We were also supposed to go buy a used car for him today. He’s been saving and searching for this particular model for months. He texted with the owner and arranged to meet them today. They are in a town 2 hours away, so he tried to text/call to confirm they had not sold it before we left. They have not responded yet. I think that has him more upset than the EA ‘no’!</p>
<p>Congrats to the Vandy, Harvard and all other EA admits!!</p>
<p>KaMaMom – I am so happy for your D! Vanderbilt was a dream school for another friend’s daughter – wonderful school, great location – you must be so happy!</p>
<p>jasminerose – awesome news!!! My nephew is there now and is very happy. So many serendipitous things like an alum offered to donate a piano to a freshman who wrote a really good essay (another essay!) about why he needed a piano. My nephew is a composer, and guess who now has a piano in the common area! Then another generous alum said who ever rings the bells at Lowell House gets to go to Russia to see where those bells are made. So my nephew got a free trip to Russia.</p>
<p>For those deferred and getting "no"s, I think these kids are more resilient than we realize sometimes. I know when my D got the first rejection from an Ivy/elite school, it made her think she wouldn’t get into the others either. When she got the other rejections, she was more ready for them. If Barnard hadn’t been a yes, I don’t know how she would have dealt with that. It would have been much tougher. For most of these high achieving kids, it is the first time they’ve NOT succeeded at something. It’s tough.</p>
<p>I already posted this on the Vanderbilt thread but I thought I would ask my fellow 2014 parents what you all would do:</p>
<p>My S just submitted his application online for the CV Scholarship. While he was filling it in, the computer re-started itself and when it came back up, he was able to continue the application and submit it. When he received the confirmation, we saw that there were errors on the application. It autofilled my name as a “Preferred name” for him and the ethnicity questions were not filled in. I don’t know if there were any other problems with it but I was afraid to tell him to start over and submit a second application because I didn’t know if that would cause problems on their side. Of course now the offices are closed for the weekend and the deadline is tomorrow so I don’t know what to do! Vandy is his first choice school and this scholarship is probably the only way he would be able to afford to go so we wanted it to be perfect. This is why I always tell him not to wait until the last minute! </p>
<p>jrmama496 - I agree with KaMaMom. I would resubmit a complete application and send an email to S’s adcon.</p>
<p>KaMaMom -
The Vandy acceptance is great news. Our D thought seriously about applying ED to Vandy and we encouraged her but she opted for RD as she has applied to two 7 year combination BS and Dental school programs that she would select over Vandy (so she says) if accepted (the dental portion of the programs for both schools is at Penn). We will have to wait until the end of March to see what the RD round brings.</p>
<p>A Vandy acceptance for D would also be a strong blow in the sibling rivalry in our family as S-2011 was waitlisted at Vandy in the RD round. :D</p>
<p>KaKaMom - congrats on the Vandy acceptance! My D is a junior there. It’s been tough at times - she was used to being the smart kid in a small town high school, and Vandy has very high standards - but she has finally figured it out.
Jrmama496- Vandy is incredibly generous with financial aid. We are smack in the middle of middle class - I’m a school librarian, and my DH is a chef - and it costs us about $10-$12K a year total to send her to Vandy. We split the loans with her, and I think it is a very good deal.
S2 is still considering EDII to Pomona; he loves the Claremont Consortium schools, he is smack in the middle of the admit statistics for Pomona, and it would be a lot easier on our debt load, since Pomona is a 100% full need school with no loans after EFC. I figure why not try, he really has nothing to lose except writing one more essay and sending in the application, even though it is another selective and tiny freshman class admit school. I know he was very disappointed with the CMC rejection, and he likes Tulane alot, but he is hoping for med school after undergrad, and Pomona would be a dream school.</p>