<p>^^^ Was Notre Dame EA? A former schoolmate of my D (who moved out of town years ago) got admitted to ND about two weeks ago. Of course her father is an alumni of ND so I think that may have helped.</p>
<p>eyemamom - S had us signed up within 24 hours of his acceptance. We are driving down Sunday and will explore campus and the town during the afternoon. </p>
<p>momreads - our S is in the same situation with baseball. He has several nice LAC’s talking to him on a regular basis, so he is a bit conflicted. Some are small, most don’t have a broad curriculum. He mentioned to one coach that he had been accepted to his first choice, and that attending there would probably not include baseball. He also told the coach he wasn’t sure how he would feel as his senior year wound down. It will be his call. I did suggest that he might want to avoid telling coaches from other schools that he got into his first choice - which means they were not. I suggested something like “I have a lot of good options and will have to make a very tough decision.”:rolleyes:</p>
<p>Today was a rough day… Tension and frustration over scanning and uploading documents for a scholarship with a deadline coming up. S14 is being difficult. He complains and procrastinates, acts cavalier about honoring timelines and being organized. Are daughters any better?</p>
<p>In a word, no.</p>
<p>;-)</p>
<p>Hi All, </p>
<p>Haven’t posted much and I am behind in reading post- Congrats to everyone with early acceptance/ decisions …and Barnard Mom -Wow you are busy! Congrats to your Eagle Scout!
My son has been accepted at two Safety school with Presidential scholarship- UVM and UNE.
He seems excited about UVM - we are going to accepted student day Feb 21- first time visiting the school - we did not visit half the schools S applied to…it will be an interesting journey to see where he will end up. </p>
<p>I was reading all the post on dorm purchases…our friends son was getting ready for college last year and his Mom was following the “what to buy” list. Alarm clock,radio, camera, flash, light, calendar- her son said I don’t need them…every item she listed off- He held up his phone- flash light - he held up his phone, Camera - held up his phone …radio, alarm clock etc…pretty funny …I don’t plan to buy much just the basics…my son knows how to do laundry - lived on a college campus for 3 weeks …I think he will manage fine with ADLs - it is the college workload that concerns me…I tend to look at his grades on line and when I notice missing assignments - I am on him…next year he will be on his own…</p>
<p>Congrats SuburbanChicago! What great options. Best of luck as the remainder comes in.</p>
<p>Also . . . I have to agree with GoldenWest re post # 9224.</p>
<p>onlyonemom- same issue here with missing assignments. And, I don’t want to be paying through the nose for DS not to be getting the most out of his opportunities. That has been a discussion here - if he does not show he is ready to be responsible, we will not pay for him to go away to school. To me responsible doesn’t mean you have to do everything on your own, but you do need to seek help if you need it, whether it be from professors, tutors, parents, etc.</p>
<p>^^^good advice! My S has ADD - he has made strides in being more organized but clearly has room for improvement -But a bigger issue is that he does not ask for help…for example mid terms start Tuesday - I asked him last weekend - how is it going in AP Physics.he replies, “not so good” … " do you think you need a tutor"?..he replies yes! In the past, he would usually say no…now I know it is not just from slacking off…He could have went to the achievement center at school for help but he wouldn’t do it. Of course, I jump in find him a tutor who will be coming over in Monday! I wanted to tell him to go to the Achievement center but I knew he wouldn’t do it and he can not afford to do poorly on his mid term, for obvious reasons, he needs to keep his grades up!
Once acceptances are known and he narrows down his choices, we will take a closer look at each college’s Instructional support to determine what college is best for him. Of course, he needs to access services and not wait for me to ask!</p>
<p>^^^ I had a similar chat with expatSon when dropping him off at boarding school for the start of the second trimester. I told him that although he’s been admitted to 4 schools (thus far), one of this trimester’s key goals is to demonstrate to DW & me, and to himself, that he’s ready to attend college. </p>
<p>T1, while not awful, was disappointing compared to T3 of junior year. Heaven knows that expatSon has the intellect – but he’s got to demonstrate that he can and will apply it without being prodded. Enough ‘come from behind’ – it’s time to get out in front.</p>
<p>Onlyonemom and others, since acceptances are already in, what about backing off being “on him” for this last semester of high school? He can start learning self management now, when the stakes aren’t so high? </p>
<p>Our school switched online grade books, and I decided in September than the new system was too complicated (assigned a long password that I could neither remember nor change). I didn’t see any grades until semester reports came out. It was very liberating.</p>
<p>Agree with the backing off. Previously started the “weaning” process, but when I see missing assignments piling up and grades not up to standard, I do step in. Two reasons for this: If things get this far, it tells me he needs more guidance in how to manage his workload/time, so more scaffolding must be done for him to achieve independence. I do believe some struggling helps with learning and growth, but not to the point of complete failure - for DS’14 this would completely ruin his self-confidence. Second, mid-year reports as well as final reports go to the college. If he does not maintain grades, his acceptance could get rescinded.</p>
<p>BTW- don’t know about anyone else, but still waiting for acceptances here.</p>
<p>
Speaking as the parent of a student who is not ‘neurotypical’ (but is wonderfully thoughtful, intelligent and insightful), I’d suggest that demonstrating self-management includes having shown the ability to apply oneself when there’s no foot to the backside. For parents of most such students, demonstration of this ability is probably critical. And grades are one of the few indicators we have.</p>
<p>In our case, my comments to expatSon have been accompanied by reducing (indeed, almost eliminating) the academic supports.</p>
<p>onlyonemom/expat,</p>
<p>Very reassuring to read that we’re not alone in dealing with this issue. We’ve discussed a gap year with our son to maybe give him additional time to learn “executive skills” and to demonstrate to us that he’s ready, but we’re hard-pressed to come up with a plan for that gap year. He’s a high achiever when we’re on him, but when we’re not we find out that, "Uh, things aren’t going so well in __________ ". (fill in the name of the course).</p>
<p>Anyway, I appreciate all the great notes on this thread.</p>
<p>Second, the not feeling alone.
Community College may be the path for my son in order to help with development. I feel this might ease him into the responsibilities of a 4 year college. It seems like he wants to step up to the plate, but just needs a little more time. And, at this point, he still has time - college is 7-8 mos away. A lot of growth can occur during that time!</p>
<p>I have two sons … one (DS14) is very organized, gets work done on time without my even knowing about it, good grades, etc. (except when it comes to actually talking to a teacher to get a LOR! haha). The other (DS21) is the “not-neuro typical” type, I have to physically sit beside him while he does his homework. Even though they are both equally intelligent, the second one is going to have a huge adjustment for college. I see him attending the local U and maybe even living at home (please, no!! 
). The older one I see attending far, far away. Two kids, same parents, different genes! We do what we have to do!</p>
<p>It’s a really good thing this is a long weekend for me.</p>
<p>It’s an entire page of posts of parents of boys who require reminding and/or support! My 9th grader is so much more ready to go to college than the HS Sr. Letting go will be interesting. Crossing my fingers that it all works out for all of these boys.</p>
<p>Anyone else have an ostrich? D got her apps in early and she doesn’t even want to think about picking a school now. She’s had a really nice boyfriend, has good friends, fun with her EC’s, her classes are practically auto-pilot now. She does not even want to think about next year. </p>
<p>We agree no more talk of college until the decisions are in and she’s gone to some accepted student days. </p>
<p>Now personally I think it would be easier for her if she’d actually engage some - go on the fb pages, look into the schools closer now…nope. Head in sand. She just wants to think about prom and spring break.</p>
<p>The one thing I would suggest is to at least start evaluating the schools at which she’s been accepted with respect to major/minor requirements What courses are offered? Which are required?</p>
<p>I know that this task will be time-intensive and difficult for expatSon, given his varied interests. I suspect that to get him to focus on the task, I’ll have to incent with both carrot & stick come March break .</p>
<p>My S was on top of his responsibilities but was also the mathematical mind and organized. D is the creative literary type and is easily distracted. She has no concept of time (and thinks everything is going to take about 1/3rd the time it actually does!) I joke that she is the only person I know who is likely to fail to turn in an assignment because she got side tracked reading about ancient Chinese culture or something similarly academic but not assigned. While I appreciate her intellectual curiosity one still has to tow the line and do what is required - this concept eludes her. I’ve found that it doesn’t matter whether I stay on her or not. Part of the problem is that she somehow pulls it out but I feel like she gets closer to the edge all the time and is at a stage where the consequences may be dire. I have also communicated that I’m not going to pay a fortune for a LAC unless she demonstrates better time management skills this semester. It is so frustrating and nerve wracking - like watching your child on a tightrope without a net.</p>