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<p>Dave_N – your sense of humor will carry you through many hardships. I got that from a fortune cookie, but I mean it. I do. Here’s another one – may your predictions be wrong, and may your child be accepted everywhere. Seriously :slight_smile:
BarnardMom – sometimes the total complete logic of college admissions makes no sense – so WL at one school doesn’t predict rejection at a more selective school. I helped one CC kid with his essay and he told me he was accepted at: MIT, Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia. And wait listed at Georgetown. Does that make any sense?</p>

<p>Good luck to all those waiting on lottery schools and other decisions. S is waiting on 3 schools (2 he really loves) but we’re kind of in chill mode here (baseball season is starting).</p>

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<p>D got wait listed at W & M. She was surprised but then agreed that it was most likely due to her being OOS as only one-third of their class is comprised of OOS students. I am not overly concerned as I don’t think the financial side was going to work since W & M is a state school. We are still wating on Lehigh and Vandy (big reach). We are a bit concerned about Lehigh as there are many reports of acceptances, WL’s, and denials on their school threads here on CC. D’s portal continues to say that decisions will be available in late March. Vandy’s Admissions Blog is usually a good pre-cursor of their release date. Still nothing on the blog to indicate a date. They have gone to a portal this year in place of Priority Mail packages. So we will wait another day.</p>

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<p>18 1/2 hours until the web locks up with all of the Ivy decions being released.</p>

<p>As of midnight, just 4 days until final RD day on March 31st!</p>

<p>No worries mon, we have 30 cases of bar lemons and limes put away in the coolers.</p>

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<p>@AvonHSDad—good news on the citrus!</p>

<p>Sorry about W&M. Does Lehigh not release their responses at the same time? I have seen on some threads that URMs or female Engineers receive earlier responses, beyond the likely letters, but I would have expected Lehigh to have one release date. </p>

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<p>@CT1417 - there were some earlier Lehigh announcement for participants in a diversity program but the postings from the past day or two seem to be from the regular applicants in the RD round. The only hold-up I can figure is that she did apply for a joint 7 year pre-dental / dental program that begins at Lehigh and concludes at Penn. I know that Penn is slow at releasing their part of the decision. The acceptance rate for the dual program is in the low single digits based on prior year stats. The odd part of this is that she checked the box on the applicaiton that stated she still wanted to be considered for RD to Lehigh even if she was not accepted into the Penn part of the program. I guess we wiat to see what, if anything, is posted tomorrrow.</p>

<p>Can’t sail without the citrus!!!</p>

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<p>@Dave_N - hoping you’re in for some surprising good news over the next few days!</p>

<p>I am so sorry @2016BarnardMom. I know it is so hard right now. It’s going to be a tough next couple of days for many. Admissions decisions seem so unpredictable at times. Really hoping your S14 gets good news from Brown. Whatever happens, hoping he and others will fall in love with whatever school they choose, and this time next year, that they wouldn’t change a thing.</p>

<p>@Agentninetynine - Just seems crazy Spygirl wasn’t accepted into the Honors College. I’d say in state’s loss. Congratulations on Spygirl’s Whitman acceptance!</p>

<p>@PetraElise - can’t imagine a school waiting until last week of April to award scholarships.</p>

<p>@spritle - sorry about W&M. Glad your son has options he’s excited about.</p>

<p>@beadymom - how exciting! Hope FA comes through!</p>

<p>@Quagmiro - so thankful your S had grown to like Phil U as much as Lafayette, although I know it’s so frustrating when cost ends up ruling schools out, after acceptance.</p>

<p>@Mimama - sounds like American University waitlist may have been a blessing in disguise. Glad your D14 found out the BA program was actually 3 calendar years.</p>

<p>@onlyonemom - I’m sorry about the Conn. College waitlist and Skidmore redirection. Seems like no making sense out of admission decisions sometimes. My D was also WL at one of her schools after just being told by the coach that it’d be great to have her at Conference Champs next year. Was thinking that may very well be the place for her. Have to say though that after she emailed the coach letting him know she was WL, the coach wrote a wonderful email in reply, of which I am very appreciative.</p>

<p>@AvonHSDad - sorry about W&M, sounds like your D is handling it very well. Wishing her all the best from Lehigh and Vandy!</p>

<p>Best wishes to all awaiting decisions over the next few days - very grateful for all of you!</p>

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<p>Yeah, don’t be surprised if CC crashes on Ivy night. It did two years ago when BarnardGirl was going through this. </p>

<p>Lots of highs and lows all around, it seems. I’m glad this is our last time going through this. I have been on a roller coaster all night. I questioned my agreement with my ex to remain in our school district as part of our divorce decree because they don’t offer much for advanced students. I questioned having sent BarnardGirl to a precollege program but not sending S14 to any (he was doing major Boy Scout high adventure camps and things). I felt the pain that BarnardGirl got into her favorite school but S14 has not. (Still assuming a “no” on Brown- tends to be my strategy- expect the worst and if the best happens, it would be very joyful, but 9% acceptance rate? We need to be realistic here). I spent time tonight being angry and sad. Then I went and looked to see what accepted student events were still available at the two schools he has gotten into. He has never done official visits at either and he needs to before he makes a decision. He has seen both campuses, but nothing official! He needs to have them show him the love, I think. They have both been following up with oodles of mailings and stuff. They want him. We need to focus on how much they want him. </p>

<p>So, he’ll go to one school April 17/18th, another on April 21 and then leave for a trip to NYC with the high school band (no, he’s not in band, but his friends all are and the band director likes him so…) on April 23rd. He can come back and we’ll put a deposit in somewhere at that point. </p>

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<p>I am sorry for those who have suffered some disappointments. Remember our mantra that our children will end up where they belong and will thrive where they’re planted. Hang in there everyone and good luck!! </p>

<p>@Dave_N - too funny! If it’s any consolation, I too am losing it. While talking with a friend yesterday, I twice referred to my daughter as “D”! She looked at me strangely and said “Who is Dee?” </p>

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<p>@overtheedge Thats hilarious :)) I cant stop laughing.</p>

<p>@2016 BarnardMom Dont question your decisions. If you had made different choices back then you might have been giving up other things which you might have regretted. Try to remember there were good reasons for making the choices you made and everything will fall into place, I’m sure! </p>

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<p>AvonHSDad: You are probably right about W & M and OOS kids. And you are definitely right about FA. My older son got in there five years ago. Was offered $7K in loans. He just laughed! He really did not want to apply there, but we told him he needed an in state school, just in case. That was his choice.</p>

<p>Son '14, meanwhile, continues to go through the daily grind of scholarship apps. Just picked up another one yesterday, and he said that he definitely will apply. It is named for our former assistant principal’s husband who passed away several years ago. Son '14 is quite fond of her. She really made him feel welcomed when he transferred. He also says she makes great BBQ! </p>

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<p>Good luck to all waiting on Ivies tonight! DS has so many friends waiting in this RD round that he said his twitter feed is going to blow up tonight (as it did when early notifications went out). He is actually out of town with DH today and tomorrow at an admitted students event. He’ll be staying overnight with a student, sitting in on classes, meeting with the coach, etc. Although he has not decided 100%, he did ask DH if there was time in the schedule to go shopping since he had seen some things online that he liked, so I suppose that’s as good a sign of a decision as any! </p>

<p>We’re going to an admitted students reception for the same school this Sunday where I already know we’ll see at least 3 other kids from his school, although I don’t think they are not as far along in the decision stage as DS.</p>

<p>Good luck again to everyone waiting for decisions tonight!!</p>

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<p>Looks like I will be crew on the SS Indecision!</p>

<p>I want to thank the CC community for all your help over the past 2 years. I started using this site when doing research for D’s initial college list. (We could not find a safety that we would be able to afford, like AT ALL.) But then everything got put on MAJOR hold when she had a major mental health breakdown junior year. It was very, VERY scary for a while, but the outcome was a good one: her depression had been the result of coping with an undiagnosed LD that we’d all known nothing about. (She’d always been a straight As, G/T kid and in sophomore year just nose-dived.) After the diagnosis it was like a light bulb turned on: suddenly there was something she could FIX, and it wasn’t just that (as she kept asserting) she was stupid or (as teachers implied) not trying hard enough.</p>

<p>She worked VERY hard on coping skills and techniques to compensate for her LD, and she made a huge comeback.</p>

<p>College choices were hard. Her SAT scores were in the range, or higher, at the very selective schools she loved, but her GPA was far lower, due to the circumstances described. We visited schools that were more of a “match” but she just couldn’t see herself there. When we visited the “reach” schools, she was energized, inspired, excited by the passionate, engaged, and highly intellectual students she met. THIS was her tribe.</p>

<p>With the full understanding that she might not get in anywhere she applied, she sent in all her applications last November. It has been a very stressful winter, not knowing what her future held…</p>

<p>Results:</p>

<p>ADMITTED
**Hampshire College<a href=“closest%20thing%20to%20a%20safety%20she%20had,%20though%20definitely%20not%20a%20sure%20thing”>/b</a>
**Bard College<a href=“she%20knew%20they%20wouldn’t%20give%20her%20enough%20$$%20but%20wanted%20the%20experience%20of%20doing%20their%20neat%20IDP%20admission%20program”>/b</a>
**Mount Holyoke College!!<img src=“the%20first%20one%20she%20fell%20in%20love%20with%20sophomore%20year%20and%20held%20up%20as%20her%20%22goal%22%20when%20things%20were%20hard” alt="/b"></p>

<p>WAITLISTED
**Wellesley College <a href=“she%20was%20incredibly%20inspired%20there,%20and%20will%20definitely%20stay%20on%20the%20WL”>/b</a></p>

<p>REJECTED
**Smith College <a href=“a%20disappointment”>/b</a>
**Skidmore College<a href=“she%20didn’t%20care,%20since%20Mt.%20Holyoke%20had%20already%20been%20chosen!”>/b</a></p>

<p>We just sent in her tuition deposit to Mount Holyoke. She’s so happy and I’m SO proud of her :)</p>

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<p>@staceyneil - congrats on your DD’s decision! Mt. Holyoke is a great and beautiful school and I’m sure she will have a wonderful experience there! We’re planning on attending the Admitted Student’s Day and I’m hoping my DD gets a better impression than she did before. She loved it the first time she saw it but her experience at the Fall Preview Day wasn’t ideal. She was paired with a very kind student who happened to have an exam that day so she had to go to a couple of classes on her own and didn’t feel very welcomed by the other students in the class. And since the student she was paired with wasn’t involved in anything on campus (very unlike my DD who is involved in a large variety of things!) she wasn’t feeling a great fit. I’m really hoping that this next visit is much better and she feels the way she did the first time she saw the school! She had such a better experience at the Smith Preview Day that she’s still focused on there but we’re still waiting for them to come up with a financial aid package for her. But I don’t think the Smith package will match her Mt. Holyoke package. And of course we still have 3 lottery schools to go. (And as a Wellesley grad, congrats on her waitlist there - that’s a great accomplishment too! There’s no way I would be accepted there if I was applying now!)</p>

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<p>D brought home her graduation regalia last night. Stuff’s getting real, folks! She’s reusing her sister’s gown, but had to get her own hat, tassle, and “stole” that says 2014. I think we could’ve magic markered the old 2011 one her sister work, but she wouldn’t go for that . . . </p>

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<p>Are any fellow crew members planning on sending out no thank you notifications to the “also ran” colleges? This is our first kid through the process, I think only Pitt-Bradford (the super safety) sent an actual RSVP form. (Maybe they expected to get eventually told no?) </p>

<p>Things have changed so much since my DW and I went to school. I think she only applied one place and I applied to four.as opposed to my son’s 7 or 8. It’s also interesting how the prestige/profiles of schools have elevated or dropped in 30 years.</p>

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<p>DS will withdraw applications as soon as he makes up his mind, which will likely be this weekend. </p>

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<p>I’m back. I un-bookmarked this thread for a while after I read about @Apollo6’s kid. It affected me so much that I can’t read the posts without being depressed.</p>

<p>But back to reality, I guess. Today is Ivy day for those of us that are waiting for lottery decisions. Part of me wanted her to be admitted one of them Ivies. The selfish side of me wanted her to stay close to us in SoCal (UCLA) and also avoid the “Is it worth it?” dilemma. </p>

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<p>Oh the tragedy with @apollo6 just sits in my stomach too 2018dad. I’m sure it’s got to be a pain none of us ever want to know. And I’m sure it feels to his family like the world should have stopped and yet here everyone is continuing on. I’m also thinking of his other brothers and sisters who have to be in shock and pain as well.</p>

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<p>@staceyneil
I was driving last week and there was “Mount Holyoke” bumper sticker on the car in front of me. Congratulations!</p>

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<p>@2018dad and @eyemamom - I agree - it hit me so hard & I had not been on this thread with Apollo nearly as long as some of you. So sudden and so permanent. </p>

<p>My D is waiting to hear from Columbia and USC, but neither is really in consideration anymore for various financial & fit reasons. So we’re just curious to see the results. Like your D @2018dad, my D is wrestling with a West Coast (close to home) choice of Cal State Long Beach, which has a fabulous music school & is probably the best programmatic fit for her , vs. an East Coast choice Temple which has an equally fabulous music school, has offered full tuition + stipend & also offers the adventure of going far from home. Most people she has solicited for an opinion are telling her to go to Temple, have the adventure, take the full scholarship, but I think they aren’t aware of how highly regarded CSULB is musically - it just sounds so run of the mill if you are in SoCal. But DH and I figure she really can’t go wrong between those two choices, so it’s up to her. We are waiting impatiently at the gang plank of the SS Indecision - let us at those margaritas already!</p>