<p>That’s sad @LibbyT .</p>
<p>Yup, your post put my daughter’s medical emergency few days ago. She’s a rugger (Rugby) and somebody’s head bump into her nose Saturday and was bleeding. Fortunately her nose wasn’t broken and she’s OK, but we were worried when she texted us while at the clinic.</p>
<p>Oops. First sentence addition: in perspective. </p>
<p>My DS’11 is finishing his CS degree and has gotten a couple of awesome job offers so far (one of which he has already turned down). Not WSJ-level salaries, but way more than we expected he could command, with stock options, and for the one he turned down, a huge signing bonus that would have wiped out 4 years of loans! He’s had 3 internships, 2 of them at places with high name recognition, and worked on an engineering project team his whole time at school. He said he’s gotten interviews for every job he’s applied to! It’s definitely a good time to be a CS major looking for a job! Only thing is, he doesn’t really want to live on the West Coast (where his 2 offers so far are).</p>
<p>Freshly minted CS grads may not average 6-figure salaries, but they and other engineers make a very decent living at minimum. This is in contrast to many other careers where the decent money is only available to the most successful or those who are able to get a job in the field.</p>
<p>@2016BarnardMom – I just knew that there was something missing from my life, and now I realize what it is!! Welcome back. Am so thrilled to hear that your surgery went smoothly without complications, and was easier than expected. I always tell my patients, “Prepare for the worst and hope for the best”. Sorry you’ve been through so much with this disease. You’re a hero for remaining so upbeat and positive!! Hope that your son at Michigan continues to do well. You’ll have to post an update at some point soon.</p>
<p>BarnardMom - I’m so happy to hear that you’re recovering well! I knew you were a little anxious handling it alone. Phew! Still take it easy and don’t go overboard! </p>
<p>We’re leaving tomorrow to go see D again. It’s her sorority’s parents weekend so we’ll have dinner with the sorority tomorrow night, then tailgating and a football game on Saturday. She was just home last weekend, and we were there a few weeks before that so this is a bit anti-climactic. </p>
<p>Welcome back 2016BarnardMom! So happy to hear that your surgery went well and that you are on the mend! We missed you!</p>
<p>@2016BarnardMom - So good to see you back! What great news!! So glad it all went so well!</p>
<p>@2018dad - So glad your D’s nose wasn’t broken! What a call to get!</p>
<p>@LibbyT - I am so sorry to hear about the boy who overdosed. It is so sad and scary at the same time. </p>
<p>@1dilecon
Thanks!
I was reading your old post about your daughter. Yes, those frozen yogurt can be expensive. Specially if you don’t watch the amount of dressing you put on top. Those mochis, bobas and gummy bears are heavy. I remember the first time I went there with my kids we spent almost $20 for the three of us.</p>
<p>@mathmomvt
First semester Senior and already have a job offer? That’s wonderful! Is that the norm at Cornell for CS? Or is it because your son had some good internship during summer?</p>
<p>@2018dad the first job offer was from the company he interned at last summer, and that is fairly typical for students who do internships before senior year, and have a successful experience there. I don’t know how common it is for Cornell CS students to have other job offers at this point, but recruiting is going on full force. The career fairs start in October. He ended up dropping one class because he hated the prof, and I think he’s particularly glad to have a light semester right now, as he’s been super-busy with interviews and such. One company just flew him out to CA for interviews (ended up being his 2nd offer) and he had another company wanting to fly him to NYC but he declined because he’s not interested in the job (he hadn’t applied there, they got his resume from the resume book his engineering project team hands out). I would say the single factor that helped him get both his internships and his “real” job interviews/offers has been that engineering project team. I highly, highly recommend them as a way of getting hands-on experience with something bigger than typically can be done in a single class. He said at that given his resume, he has been getting interviews everywhere he applies. (He has somewhere around a 3.5 gpa also.)</p>
<p>@2016BarnardMom- glad to hear the surgery went well.</p>
<p>@2014novamom - ironic you mentioned Iberico jamon in your post. We are in Barcelona for three days and had Iberico ham for one of our tapas for lunch today. It was marvelous. I can see why you are a “jamon” addict. LOL. This is our first empty nest trip and while we are texting the kids back home in school, it really feels nice to be away on our own for a couple of weeks. Add us to the jamon addict list! </p>
<p>Be prepared for career fairs and interviews for the first semester of your D or S’s senior year. The recruiting and interviews are real and there are offers made in the fall. Our S-2011 has been to several interviews and is presently on his way back from a second interview in Chicago where the company flew him last night. The salaries are pretty good. He is not CS but the companies he is interviewing with are offering in the 60 to 75 range to start. Sure beats what we were offered back in our day!</p>
<p>Thanks for the info @mathmomvt and @AvonHSDad .</p>
<p>S11 has already received two job offers as well- Mechanical Engineering. First offer came from company he interned with. Second was with a company that has an accelerated hiring program. He will accept second company and will travel to their headquarters to learn more about project options. Salary range is high 60s to low 70s.</p>
<p>Congrats to your S11 on having a job all settled, @Minnymom 
I think my S will have a job by mid November – that is when he has to decide on the 2nd offer, and he likes the job well enough not to let that slip by him if he doesn’t have anything else solid in the works. </p>
<p>So H and I are very happy and excited that S11’s path has unfurled so seamlessly.
S14 is grappling with some choices at this point. He declared Mechanical Engineering like his brother and has the aptitude for it but not the passion for it like his older brother. I am open to the possibility of him changing majors at some point but he was awarded a scholarship for 4 years that pays almost half his cost of attendance from the college of engineering. He is feeling great pressure to make it work. If he gives up the money , we can make it work but it changes our financial reality for sure!
He got a D on his first Calc midterm and it has rattled his confidence. I think he needs to give it time, keep putting forth his best effort, and things will resolve.
I told him we would support any decision he makes as long as he gives engineering his all this year and fully researches other options before thinking about changing course. </p>
<p>Minnymom: Hopefully your son’s confidence returns and he continues with his ME program. A lot of times, things came so easily and quickly in high school that when there is a struggle in that first year, a kid’s confidence is rattled. Encourage him to see his calculus professor to see what he can do to improve in the class. My son has been having issues with his computer science class. It just is not for him. Fortunately, his fraternity has some really academic guys, and he is getting some help from one of the seniors who majors in computer science. All he needs to do is finish up well in this class, take another in the spring and do fairly well, and comp sci is behind him. He would prefer to take math and econ classes, which are his majors. </p>
<p>Meanwhile, my son ran in a D2 meet Saturday but was not happy with his time or place. He says he has work to do before the conference meet in two weeks. I’m sure he will work out whatever clinks he has and run just fine.</p>
<p>The joys of being the mom of a college freshman… All sorts of complaining texts over the weekend. Then my husband says, “Oh, look. D just sent me a text of the autumn colors on campus.” I understand that she is going to dump on me, but I would like one of those uplifting texts once in a while.</p>
<p>Mlmama - so funny! Guess what, the bad news in our home goes to my husband first so that he can break it to me. Apparently I’m a tad high strung and don’t have an acceptable initial reaction. Truth. Not going to pretend it’s different.</p>
<p>I visited my two D’s last weekend and I cried when I saw the first one. Yes, little tears when she started talking about things she had forgotten to mention - things that would be the highlight of my year…meeting the director and actors from “Dear White People.” She is now so busy and acclimated that such an experience is part of her normal life. It was just so good to see her happy. And later that day we picked up the other D after a day of filming a music video as part of her a capella group. She too was just beaming. And, they each love their respective roommates. One D selected her through FB posts and the other went in random. </p>
<p>It’s not all roses though… the science program they are majoring in is going well, but they have had a few stumbles in their Core Curr. classes. And now after reading posts above, I’m wishing that one of my 3 girls would be just even a tad interested in CS, but that’s never going to happen. </p>
<p>S and I had an extended text conversation yesterday- the first real chat since he was home last (which was actually only a few weeks ago). He’s still living the dream at Michigan- the dream he didn’t know was his…lol. He was letting me know last night that he is seeing someone and I met her when I was there for parent’s weekend reception. She was the girl who told me she loved moms and that I had done a good job raising my son because he was a very nice person. He asked if she can spend a few days at our house over winter break and I told him that was fine- she could sleep on the trundle bed in his sister’s room or on the family room couch. She lives about an hour from us. S seems like he’s doing well. He’ll be home some this weekend as BarnardGirl will be home for 5 days for her election day break. </p>
<p>He seems happy. I liked the young lady I met- she was very upbeat and positive. He told me her name “so you can stalk her on social media” LOL. My kids crack me up sometimes. </p>
<p>I haven’t been on the computer a lot. I’m laying around watching lots of TV, doing some reading and doing some quilting. I’m going to go on my first outing today and am trying to find clothes I can tolerate across my belly. I think it will feel good to leave the house I decided prior to my surgery that I would take advantage of days in the hospital while on pain meds to get through the initial stages of nicotine withdrawal and quit smoking once and for all. I have succeeded in that endeavor and am not missing it most of the time, except when I get on the computer. The urge is very strong when I’m online so I’ve simply spend less time on the computer. It’s only been 10 days but I was more motivated than I’d ever been before and am finding it much easier than I’d ever found it before. I am already breathing better and my doctor insists it will help the Crohn’s tremendously. </p>