<p>Same with my D. Every time a boy got a little too interested, she’d send him packing. So far, it’s been the same deal in college. You’ve seen the shirts “Single, Taken, Awesome”? D says she’s awesome. </p>
<p>My D is in the ‘taken’ category, but she’d probably also say she’s awesome. 
She started a new relationship 4 weeks before they went to colleges 4 hours apart. There might be a ‘turkey dump’ later this week, but she weathered a rocky breakup a year ago, so I hope this one will go better if/when it happens.He’s a nice young man, we’re in no hurry for them to break up. </p>
<p>@oldmom4896 and @crowlady - D got most everything she wanted also. She is waitlisted for the math class designed for liberal arts majors, but she’s number 2 on the list so will probably get in. She signed up for 18 credits, proud of her for filling her schedule like that. She must like college too. </p>
<p>My daughter had a summer BF but they decided not to commit to each other since she was leaving for college in August. She found a BF there very quickly and we (a family of 2 whose last close-by relatives moved away within the past few months) are going to his family’s home one state away for Thanksgiving.</p>
<p>I worry a little because she seems to need to have a boyfriend, but I met him and his family during parents’ week and they are all good people (not least to have invited us for the holiday!).</p>
<p>Okay - an interesting phenomenon is happening here. When she first came in I could see - oh my goodness she is growing up and maturing into a real college student. She went far away to school and a totally different environment at a big, vibrant campus. She went to see her friend who attends our local little college - 1800 students. Most of the students do live on campus, but in many ways it is 13th grade. She was telling me when she was there it still felt like high school with the same silly drama. I can see her growing out of her friends. It makes me think summer may be very difficult. She already plans on taking a couple of classes and working for me, but I can already tell it may be tough this summer.</p>
<p>DS is back for his 6 week break (quarter system), and he is definitely in the awesome category (broke up with gf before end of summer, but they’re still friends; no apparent budding relationship at college). He seems to be doing college well - getting involved in theater, he’s going to try out for a winter play and do lighting design for some of the senior projects. Met some nice people, who he misses already.</p>
<p>Had a bit of an issue last night, when he saw online that he’d been given a 0 for a lab assignment because it “hadn’t been turned in” - he swore he’d turned it in (it’s all done online). He’d certainly done the work. I suggested that he email the professor, but he was sure that there was nothing he could do, because he “had no proof” that he’d turned it in, and the prof had “a hard and fast rule” about late assignments, and he hadn’t gotten on particularly well with that professor. I pointed out that he had nothing to lose, and he agreed (WITHOUT the big fight that probably would have ensued, a year ago). I also pointed out that his good record of turning everything else in on time might help his case, as would the fact that the online system was known to have problems. This morning he got an email from his professor, stating that the assignment would be graded based on the date on the screenshot (this is a programming class), which was timely. DS was so happy and thanked me for urging him to send the email; he said that we make a great team, and I reminded him that the goal is for him to not need my help with these things. One step at a time, he’s getting there. </p>
<p>Our whole family is so much calmer and more peaceful now, than we were last year and last summer. So much less stress now that the college app/admission/moving time is past. A little hard for me to let go but I’m trying, and it certainly helps that DS is morphing into a very pleasant and responsible adult. I think there’s nothing like being on your own for a while, 4000 miles from home, to breed appreciation for the help you got in prior years.</p>
<p>We have so much to be thankful for.</p>
<p>My daughter broke up with her boyfriend (whose parents had them married off already) just after graduation so I had a whole happy summer! Then she shows up with a guy from college who looks exactly like the hs boyfriend! She claims they are just friends, she’s told him they are just friends, but again the ‘just friends’ parents have them married off. This second one is a nice guy, a lot more personable than the longtime boyfriend, but I just want her to not have a boyfriend and enjoy life (which she is doing) for a little longer.</p>
<p>Thanks @NewHavenCTmom! I looked for something musical, and that was what I settled on. Crash helmet and running shoes were just a bonus!</p>
<p>@eyemamom I saw the same thing happen with my daughter and her friends during the first year of a college. A couple of them remain close but they really scattered a lot. </p>
<p>@itsv - I’m glad you’re making progress with your home reconstruction. I can’t imagine what an ordeal this has been for you and your family. You seem to be making the best of the situation!</p>
<p>I was happy when D and her HS BF broke up the first week of college. His family had them married off as well. Now D has a new college BF. I’d prefer no BF, but D seems happy.</p>
<p>D got all of the classes she wants next semester except one. Unfortunately, she can’t find anything to fill the last spot that interests her, is available, and fits into her schedule. She’s on several wait lists. I’m hoping things work out by the time next semester starts and that she gets into one of her choices. </p>
<p>On another note, I just returned from a fun reunion weekend in NYC with some of my sorority sisters. It is amazing how friendships formed those 4 years of college can last a lifetime. </p>
<p>The weather forecast for Wednesday has me a bit nervous. Our original plan was for DS to take a 6 pm flight home so that he wouldn’t miss any classes. The chance of a winter storm has me rethinking that plan though, so yesterday we also booked him on a 2:30 pm flight. We have until an hour before takeoff to cancel without penalty so we are just going to see how the weather develops. </p>
<p>@2014novamom – I am with you about Wed morning’s forecast. Son is scheduled to take a 4am bus home Wed morning b/c the Tues afternoon bus departs before his last class ends. Fall break bus got a flat tire along the way and now contemplating snow. Sigh….and crossing my fingers for the best for all travelers. </p>
<p>D is home! It’s been 80 degrees here in San Diego, so she said it feels like she just got plopped right back into summer break, and that whole college experience was just a wierd dream. </p>
<p>It’s good to hear that so many here are going to be able to spend a fair amount of time with their beloved D’s and S’s over this Thanksgiving break, particularly those who haven’t had the opportunity to spend much time this semester because of great distances involved.</p>
<p>My S changed his mind and decided to come home for Thanksgiving after all. He realized that most of the people he knows would be clearing out and that the dining halls will be closed from Wednesday afternoon until they reopen Sunday evening, so he figured he could study at home just as well. It will be nice for us to spend some time with him, though it will require two 5-6 hour roundtrips of driving from me. Actually, coming out of Houston on Wednesday afternoon could result in serious delays, so it might be significantly worse than that. Oh, well. </p>
<p>Since my daughter is not coming home to Cali this Thanksgiving. we are so grateful that her friend from Westchester, NY invited her to their house. Her friend has a cousin also at Cornell that has a car and they are driving Tuesday afternoon. She also spent her Fall break in Bufallo in another friend’s house. So grateful for such hospitable families.</p>
<p>D was home less than 24 hours before she said “Nothing personal, but I don’t want to spend this summer at home.” I had already predicted that, so it was no surprise to me. The friends from high school that stayed in town have not changed a bit, and the ones that went away have changed in different ways than D. (I think there are some friends that will still be good, but they either aren’t home yet for Thanksgiving, or won’t be home at all.) Plus there is the adjustment back to midwest small city life, with not nearly as much going on as in Nashville. Now we just have to figure out what she should do this summer, and how to fund it.</p>
<p>Quite a change to have her home again. My poor clean bathroom…</p>
<p>@2014novamom - Check with the airline as US Air has already posted a weather advisory and is waiving change fees for Wednesday flights al over the east coast. I haven’t checked United yet as DS is already on his way now but D is flying out of PHL tommorrow evening on US Air.</p>
<p>Thanks @AvonHSDad. We will gauge weather tomorrow, and perhaps book DS on a third flight, LOL. I hate to have him miss class but I would hate even more for him to spend thanksgiving in an airport hotel! We won’t have any penalties so long as we cancel at least an hour before flight time.</p>
<p>I feel like I just won the lottery! Son was scheduled to depart upstate NY at 4:15 am Wed, as he had class Tues after the last bus departed at 2pm. Amazes me that the charter bus company does not add more departure times but instead just adds more busses to existing departure times. Was able to snag a cancellation on the Campus-to-Campus bus Tues evening. More travel involved as he will have to go into midtown Manhattan and then take the commuter train back out to CT, but better than being stuck on the side of the road somewhere early Wednesday. Now that he has bus tickets on two different lines, it probably won’t snow!</p>
<p>Safe travels to all this holiday week.</p>
<p>2014novamom: I understand the situation you are in. We got our son on a non-stop flight to DC for Wednesday morning. He could not take a flight tonight, because he has back-to-back classes ending around 7:30 p.m. Here’s hoping that he can get here without much delay. My husband has no trouble driving the hour-plus to Metro to get him – he does not want us to brave the airport, because it is so busy, so he can take Metro out. The other son is coming from UVA, and I had to send his friend a note yesterday, saying that the roads will be busy and possibly bad, so leaving early would be a good thing. They had planned to leave at 5 p.m. If they wanted, they could come here tonight, and then his friend could head a little more north early Wednesday morning. We’ll see. </p>
<p>The musical chairs with flights continues! We now have DS double-booked on 10:30 a.m. and 2:30 pm flights, and have cancelled the evening flight. Wednesday morning should be ok for travel so he is likely to stay on the 10:30 flight and just miss a day of classes. DH works less than 10 minutes from the airport so DS just has to call him when he lands, and then DH will swing by the terminal to swoop him up from the curb. No checked bags (which means he is not bringing any dirty laundry home!) so it will be quick.</p>