Doing a drive by. @Mom24boys , sending {{{ Hugs }}} your way.
We are no closer to a decision here than we were weeks ago. Oy. I need a timer with a countdown until midnight on May 1st. DS is waitlisted at his dream school, but waitlist there means guaranteed admission the following year. He’s seriously considering the gap year. Then came along acceptance to a major reach school. He is currently there having the time of his life. He’s having trouble choosing. If the dream school took credits he could go to the reach and if he wanted to transer after a year, he could no problem, but they hardly accept anything and as a full pay candidate, its jut not worth the $ for that kind of experiment.
So for now, I’m still on a passenger on the cruise. I’m afraid that by the time I’m able to get a job on the ship, the cruise will be over.
My S finally picked Cornell over USC, after switching back and forth between the 2.
Butler University: Illinoismom4 S
Carleton College: lhenkin’s S
College of William and Mary: Catmatmc’s D
Cornell University: mdcmom’s S, CD2015’s S, co4usc2016’s S15
Grinnell College: Limner’s D
Ithaca College: momsings S
Juniata College: jmnva06 D
Marywood University: Musictherapymom’s D
MIT: momof2vt S
Murray State University: ILMom13579’s D
Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute (RPI): rhandco S, Dadinator’s S
Rochester Institute of Technology: kidsrexpensive’s S
Rutgers University, New Brunswick - Honors College: Veggylover’s S
Scripps College: dustypig’s D
Smith College: clubacres’ D
Swarthmore College: PhxRising’s S
Texas A&M University Honors Program: Loganator’s S, Barfly’s S
The College of New Jersey (TCNJ) Honors Program: bopper’s D2
Truman State University: Wrestlersmom’s S
United States Military Academy (West Point): Bigbossman1’s D
University of Alabama: 2kidsinky’s D
University of Arizona: Maystarmom’s D
University of Georgia: kidsrexpensive’s D
University of Kentucky: Wolverine86’s D2
University of Miami: 4CookieMonster
University of Michigan - Ann Arbor: Wrights1994’s S, a2zgirls D1
University of Michigan - Flint: Wolverine86’s S
University of Minnesota - Twin Cities: giterdone’s S
University of Notre Dame - suzy100’s D
University of Oklahoma: STEMFamily’s S
University of Pittsburgh: amandakayak’s D3
University of Rochester: Elliemom
University of San Francisco: oneofthosemoms S
University of Southern California: MsMommy’s S2, co4usc2016’s D16
University of Tulsa: deborahb’s S
University of Virginia: FCCDAD’s D1
University of Washington - Seattle: LadyArwyn’s D
Vanderbilt University: disneydad’s S
Washington and Lee University: mtrosemom’s D
Wichita State University: albert69
Worcester Polytechnic Institute (WPI): VMT’s D
24 hours of ice, removing occasionally (about every 20 minutes) to avoid skin damage. Kind of want to get some feeling back on the surface of the skin on your cheek before you reapply. Sometimes it is self-limiting, as ice packs will start melting. This requires a servant to help with the ice, because the patient is NOT going to be moving around for the first 8 - 12 hours and cognizant enough to put together an ice pack properly. (yes, I used an ace bandage to wrap the ice pack against my head, like in the cartoons. But I was in bed the rest of the day)
you can’t suck on ice (see DON’T USE STRAWS let alone don’t smoke or suck on lozenges or hard candy) but you can let it melt in your mouth
Vicodin - be careful, here is more than you’d want to know (all IMHO, I’m not a medical doctor, and even if I was blah blah blah)
Two ways about Vicodin timing - one is to take exactly on time (usually 4 - 6 hours, so 4 hours on the dot to avoid breakthrough pain. Most people recommend this after confirming when to take the first, at least for the first 8 - 12 hours.
The second is to wait for pain - I respond within about 30 - 45 minutes with some pain control, but 2 hours for maximal pain control. So if you wait for pain, you might be very very sad. DO NOT take Tylenol with Vicodin (or Percocet), as the acetaminophen in both can damage your liver. And do not take “double” Tylenol instead of the Vicodin, that is really really bad (as in, one day of double dosing on Tylenol can destroy a person’s liver). The dentist will say if Advil is okay, usually it is not because of bleeding potential.
If your DC can’t stand pain, err on the side of following the recommended schedule tightly with minimum hours listed. To the dot.
BUT:
Both Vicodin (and Percocet) can cause (YMMV):
constipation (don’t pop those stitches out straining!!!)
hallucinations and weird dreams (some people do not have this, some do - I find it is worse if I am debating my pain level and therefore is a predictor of not really needing it.) This symptom can really freak people out, and though some people might find it interesting, it is worrisome if you aren’t aware of the potential
laxness with following care instructions, “hey, it doesn’t hurt, so I’ll have a burger!” I did that after a tonsillectomy, and boy did I regret it! Let’s just say having a burger when I should have stayed on shakes and soup was like a million chain saws in my throat!!!
I had complications when my wisdom teeth were taken out, around our DC’s ages. Two were impacted. Even so, the ice was very helpful and I was able to go to a party about 36 hours after the removal of the four teeth. The first 24 hours I was on Vicodin and ice, then I switched to Tylenol when I was supposed to take the next Vicodin and even had a beer (don’t tell your DC this!) at that party. Most people can pretty easily detect their consciousness level when off Vicodin and not having any more ill effects, as compared to taking it regularly
And if a dose is missed, I would not worry too much - one dose will work just any pain in between will be annoying.
Final note - please have your DC take Vicodin with food. It can upset one’s stomach, so at least maybe a small milkshake or applesauce container would be useful. I would not recommend taking it on an empty stomach, even perhaps pureed or small soft piece containing soup (I like Lipton Noodle, you don’t have to chew the noodles) would be better than nothing. I absolutely hate being nauseous and in pain.
My S got that thing without using a straw But I think he overdid it. He was marching with the marching band the day after he got them out. And friends were over for sympathy so he probably dislodged the clot by over-exerting.
Whether your DC is going to their #1 choice or their safety, or whatever the decision…do you find yourself having a lot of different thoughts and emotions about it…wondering if it is the right school, the right price, the right distance? I feel like we are still deciding, even though the decision has pretty much been made…I am just so all over the place in my thinking about it. One minute certain it is the right thing, the next all worried that it isn’t.
@shoeboemom No doubts whatsoever. I not only think she picked the best possible choice of all that accepted her, but if you consider price and location, I even think she picked the best possible choice of all she applied to.
Sure @shoeboemom, even though my DS is going to his #1 choice. I worry that he will think that there aren’t enough kids who aren’t too nerdy or that the workload will be too high or he’ll miss the activities he’s really enjoyed in HS. I especially worry because it looks like his two best friends will end up in the honors college at Ginormous State and will room together and I think maybe DS’ll feel left out of the fun. He doesn’t seem to think any of these things will be a problem, and he says he can always come back to GSU so who am I to worry? He has lots of relatives within an hour, but he’ll be a long plane ride from us.
Us, too, @shoboemom. She is going to her #1 choice, is certain that it is her favorite, etc. but a mom can’t help but worry since it’s very far away and we have no family and no support system there. I’m happy that she feels confident enough to make this decision though, and we will support it.
@mom24boys - my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I agree 100% with everyone who recommended multiple opinions. My DH had a bone marrow transplant almost 18 years ago. He was given a 20% chance to live by one very prestigous hospital. We didn’t accept that answer and found a hospital that offered a 45% chance. 18 years later, he is cancer free. Keep the faith and find a medical team that offers the best chance for success. If you ever need to vent, feel free to PM me. Hugs!
Wrestlersmom I am glad to hear that your husband has done so well!! Mom24boys my prayers are with you and your family.
Shoboemom my daughter was 100% convinced 2-3 months ago that she found her school and she was all set to send in the deposit. I did not want to send it in- she still had 5 schools to hear back from. The last school she heard from was a school she loved from day 1 but knew she needed merit to attend. Well she got a lot of merit which meant the school was affordable. Now she had a dilemma- she had 2 schools that she loved. We revisited and she made up her mind- mostly. What sealed the deal was an accepted students event in our area combined with a few FB exchanges. Today she is 100% confident in her decision, and after attending the accepted students event I am 100% confident as well. It took me until recently to feel this way. I was not sure if the school was too big.
My daughter got a surprise in the mail today, a late admission to her #3/#4 choice school and $5,000 scholarship. It was a nice boost to her self-esteem, but since she got into her #1 school and already confirmed it doesn’t affect anything.
I also worry that my daughter’s first choice isn’t going to work for her. It’s a challenging school with a low number of students accepted from pre-engineering to civil engineering, so yeah, sometimes I think maybe the less challenging school may have been the safer choice. But she was just so happy about her first choice, and so excited about it, and so certain. I can only hope that this isn’t going to be one of those life lessons.
OMG @SomeOldGuy!!! That is one of my all time favorite song quotes!!! It’s right up there with “. . . losing love is like a window in your heart - everybody sees you blown apart - everybody sees the wind blow”
I have a couple of friends who are going back for one last look with their kiddos in order to make the final choice – they are pretty stressed, I think, since the deadline is closing in and their children don’t seem to be ready to decide.
I don’t think we can “know” what the right decision is. I think that you and your child discuss things and do the best you can to figure out what is the best option. But, really, it’s still just an educated guess or a gut feeling. It’s sometimes hard to let go with the idea that there is a perfect fit, but really as a parent I’ve done the best I can to advise my D and now all I can do is hope that she made the right choice. And if not, then we will have to deal with the consequences.
@shoboemom Yes, even I and my parents, who have more or less known my intended path for college for months, have a lot of worries. Not as much about whether it is the right place, but mainly keeping me there (aka keeping the scholarship) and how life will work out with me being so far away. My mom and dad worry about the dorm life - they keep telling me it can be decent, but it can be bad if I get a bad roommate (or in my case, suitemate.) There’s endless “what ifs” that take place in our everyday conversations, and stuff like “Albert, when you’re gone, ____ will be so different…” My mom tries to see some positive things though, like “this laundry will sure decrease when I don’t have yours to do!”
to help with the ice, because the patient is NOT going to be moving around for the first 8 - 12 hours and cognizant enough to put together an ice pack properly. (yes, I used an ace bandage to wrap the ice pack against my head, like in the cartoons. But I was in bed the rest of the day)
But I think he overdid it. He was marching with the marching band the day after he got them out. And friends were over for sympathy so he probably dislodged the clot by over-exerting.