@VMT, when making small choices, D would flip a coin if she couldn’t decide. And if she was disappointed with the result, she went with the other choice. (In this case, no coin flipping was done.) Of course, this is a tough decision. Good luck!
Gilligan coming up from below deck again (this work thing has been in the way for the past 2 weeks). Spawn is down to 2 schools - an admit and a WL - she hoping to get off the WL by Thursday but may not, so we may need to pay the tuition deposit and lose it id she finally does. There is no poor choice between the two schools, but Mrs. Three & I are leaving it in her hands.
I’ll have to go back and read the 600+ posts I missed at some point.
Back below deck again - the bilge is filling with water and I need to run the pumps.
Can I just say that my daughter was offered a really generous scholarship to Meredith College? Enough that we wish we could hold her down and force her to accept it – but no dice. Also, is mine the only one who has joined a “Class of 2019” group on Facebook, and is now apparently suffering buyer’s remorse? As in “All these people are so weird! Whatever made me think I would be happy there?” Because, you know, Facebook is so absolutely representative of the real world and people’s personalities . . .
The nature of WL is that there is absolutely no reason to draw from it until the RD response deadline has passed. You pay your deposit at the best school choice among your admissions, and you are willing to forfeit that deposit if you get a better WL option. Or you drop off the WL.
The schools deserve no more explanation than a quick, “Thank you but I have decided to decline your admission offer.” If they ask more, just ignore them, you are too busy to massage their ego or assist in their market research.
@Momzie - where is she going over Meredith? I am in Raleigh and some of my daughter’s friends are going there. People there love it, but all girls school isn’t for everyone.
And yes mine has joined the FB page, I think we talked about this here a few days ago. It seems all the crazies are posting, or the least mature of the bunch!
http://■■■■■■■■■■/#decisiontime_afsgz Less than 3 1/2 days to go!
DS prom has been moved to a location outside of Baltimore. Happy the kids will be safe, very sad that this was neccesary.
^ Acckk, dont’t remind me albert69! Why have teachers piled on so much homework this week? We are barely going to have time to figure out colleges by Thursday night.
Glad to hear prom was moved, Mom24boys. It is indeed a sad situation.
@singermom4, responding to your post of a couple of days ago. Did any of your S’s schools receive a mid-year report with the first semester Calc BC grade prior to his acceptance? If so, I would not think a similar grade second semester would create a problem. Even if not, surely the schools will look at the grade differently depending on whether they think the student is trying hard in a challenging class or slacking off.
@momzie - my d found that the girls who posted on the FB pages of her summer programs were not the ones she met and got close to. Lots of students never make it to the page or are simply not active on FB at all. Hope your d doesn’t get scared off.
Just getting caught up reading posts for the last few days!
D finally told her school GC her college ‘choice’ and the GC upset her a bit, saying, “but I thought you’d be so happy at X school or Y school”. D explained that we couldn’t afford those schools, but the GC didn’t seem to acknowledge that, and made her feel bad for her “choice”. 
D says she thinks part of it was that the GC wanted to be able to list a more prestigious school in the newsletter. 
Luckily the teachers seemed more supportive (It was wear your college shirt day last week.)
Several of you mentioned getting emails of acceptances from schools your DC didn’t apply to…My poor D, I keep trying to check, to see if she is REALLY ok with going to the school that wasn’t high on her list…She swears she is, but I can’t help but worry…anyway, then the other day, I get an email thanking her for applying to some other school, and I was worried that meant she’d started the search for a school again…had to wait all day till she got home from school to learn she was as puzzled as I was about the email.
She has not, to my knowledge, declined the offers from the other schools. I think we just want to let time run out on them and not have to officially say no. There is only one that I have seen that actually asked her to let them know…with one of those surveys, and it happens to be the one I am most frustrated with because of what I felt was misleading info about what the FA would be…not feeling like doing them any favors at the moment. Waiting until time runs out is a method I use for a lot of things that I just can’t seem to face a decision on. I know that is a form of decision, but…sometimes that’s what works for me. At first I was worried about holding up a space that another student might be waiting for, but the more I read the more I realized it doesn’t usually work that way.
Meanwhile, D really does seem to be moving on and making all the arrangements for her chosen school. 
She has even ‘met’ a likely roommate online.
On waterbeds not being allowed in dorms…I bet it has something to do with the weight of them, especially at schools with older dorm buildings, and the water damage that could certainly be caused by a leak.
I am glad to see the discussion on dorm supplies. We bought one of those bedbug mattress protectors a while ago, but it won’t be the right size now, so back to the store we will go. Someone mentioned putting things in the freezer to avoid bedbugs. I am not sure about the cold, but I know I have read that heat kills them, so putting everything in a plastic bag and letting that sit in the car, in the sun for a couple hours will probably do the trick, at least here in Florida!
Congratulations to all who have made their decisions and for those waiting till the last minute…hang on, it is nearly here! For D, this is her last regular week of high school! She is very excited about that. Her last day of classes is May1st! After that they go in for study sessions and tests during the month of May…but no regular classes!
There is a certain satisfaction in those surveys when the school didn’t offer much aid. “Yeah, I’m going to XYZ school , which put its money where its mouth is, financially speaking. SorryNotSorry.”
@daisychain - spoke with the admission rep today and they don’t seem to care how hard the class is and whether he scores a 4 or 5 on the AP exam (which he is on target to do). It seems so unfair that he has struggled and toughed out a hard class, learned the material in the end (isn’t that what it’s supposed to be about?) and still get dumped. Although he said one low grade doesn’t usually result in rescinding an offer (would have to see lower grades in other classes), he wasn’t very encouraging either.
I have been in tears on and off all day. I so wanted him to feel excited about his choice and now he is just stressed and this will last at least thru finals in early June. No sense of encouragement from the rep or that they really want him - wondering if this is the right pick? He has a call in to another of his choices but I hate that he has having to second guess himself after taking so long to arrive at this decision. He is a good student with decent EC.s, high test scores, rigorous courseload and good offers from several universities - how did we end up in this place?
Lol, today I got a certificate from the school I decided not to go to saying that I had been awarded their NMF scholarship! What? I emailed them to tell them that I wasn’t going. So much for them not leaving the lifeline out for me.
@singermom4, I have no good advice but I wanted to say I’m really sorry you guys are going through this. Is your S on track to bring his grade up? Could his GC maybe call the school and talk to them about it, explain that the teacher is really difficult, etc?
Thanks @suzy100 I don’t think we can do anything until final transcripts are sent as he kept saying they couldn’t promise anything.
S thinks he can pull the grade to a C and will talk to his teacher about making the final optional (seniors don’t write the final if they have a C or better) so he could potentially raise it without risk. If in the worst case, they are wanting to rescind I know the school principal is willing to call on his behalf.
I’m pretty sure it will work out - just being a bit over-emotional about not having a more celebratory feeling over the decision. The entire last year and half has been focused on this moment - I even hired a college counselor so he could embrace all his choices (safeties, targets, reaches) and be happy with whatever he ended up with - didn’t see this scenario happening as he’s never had grades in this range before. The best laid plans…
@singermom4, so sorry that you are going through this. I echo what suzy100 suggests, having your GC reach out, provide input from the teacher as to how your son has progressed in the class, that others in the class are also struggling, that the teacher is a tough grader but most do well on the AP test, that your son has diligently sought out extra help, has persevered and his hard work has paid off in learning the material, etc. Try not to worry about what the rep thinks or how much S is “wanted”, once your son gets there it will not matter and he will never see or speak to anyone in the admissions office.
@daisychain Good advice. I am trying to put it all in perspective. S also missed the drumline audition because he decided so late (the day before the audition). They did let him send in a video but it had to be submitted by 9:30 am the next morning. So he had only a few hours to learn, practice, the audition and on top of it - had to record on his drum pad because it was after hours and too late to record on a snare drum at school! Likely no marching band for him this year either! He seems okay with it - says he will do it the following year. I’m not good with last-minute stuff. That’s mainly why I’m so stressed out.
@singermom4… so sorry you are going through this. After all the stress of the last 4 years your S should not have stress in this, his last few weeks of HS. So sorry. Hope you can work something out!