<p>D is not sending scores anywhere (yet). The cost of sending scores is relatively small, and it’s worth the peace of mind not to. Not to mention that if she takes another subject test (and I think she will in May) we’ll have to send those too.</p>
<p>BH the dance world is awful ( gossip, etc) - I know this from friends who are going through it. </p>
<p>She contained her melt down in the car. She was working on her summer writing project ( IB English) and went to the writing center because it is a requirement that they get their worked critiqued. Well one teacher had her change something ( gasp!) which put her over the edge because " I worked for two hours every day for weeks just on this project." She was asked to change two sentences not the entire thing!! </p>
<p>Keepme my kids both played the same sport back to back so I used to be at the field for about 3 hours. Standing in the doorway is a great strategy!</p>
<p>Feeling very grateful that my D’s dance studio isn’t like what BHM and twogirls describe. It’s a supportive cooperative atmosphere, without too much competitiveness. I know some of the other studios in our area are more cutthroat, and am glad my D isn’t drawn to that. It’s also interesting that by the time the kids are HS aged, the studio actively discourages parents from being too involved. The teachers say that helps tamp down the drama. They work hard at doing all communication and decision-making through the dancers (mostly girls, but a few boys too). The moms are pretty much just supposed to write checks and then go away. 
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<p>Did all of you dancers see the documentary First Position? I finally saw it on Netflix last weekend. Fabulous!</p>
<p>Do any of the musicians or musician parents here experience this? Some of the youth orchestras we’ve experienced (and by we I mean both parent and child) are what my kids would call “cray-cray.” I always thought orchestras lent themselves to crazy rivalry because there is such an obvious hierarchy in place. I’ve seen kids sobbing because they didn’t get a particular position in a section and parents quietly sniping about orchestra politics and other kids in the orchestra. I NEVER went into the hall when rehearsal was going on. One year a gossipy parent whose kid doesn’t even play the same instrument called me right after audition results were released to find out which orchestra my D was in and what position she’d gotten. (I didn’t call her back.) My musician friends who deal with kids and parents have nerves of steel and endless patience. D has been able to find nicer alternatives, thank goodness.</p>
<p>Neither one of my kids is a musician ( remember mine needed oboe extra help) but what you are experiencing seems to be what we have experienced in the sports world and what my friends have experienced in the dance world. I will even say that this type of behavior is demonstrated in the academic world as well. It’s a good thing that you and your daughter are not caught up in this craziness. Where I live parents make calls and try and make deals- they are learning that what worked in elementary and middle school ( complaining etc) no longer works. Kids get what they get based on their own talent and skills. </p>
<p>My kid was determined to be on varsity this year. She ran and practiced every single evening from the end of June until the end of August. Never missed a day. She is not a natural athlete but she made varsity because of her hard work- I am sure she turned some heads but I stay away. </p>
<p>One woman complained to me because her kid got a B- on a project and was not happy with the grade. Her kid did not over exert herself- worked on the project the night before, did not practice the presentation etc. The mom just assumed that her kid was going to get the A+ “just because.” It is a real insult to my kid who always gives 110%. </p>
<p>The best thing to do is to stay away!</p>
<p>3Girls – yes, youth orchestras can be crazy. I think lots of competitive ECs foster this level of gossip. D opted out this year after a very bad audition experience in the spring. She felt that she had been treated very badly.</p>
<p>Just wanted to wish “good luck” to kids taking SAT/SAT IIs tomorrow. Remind kids to double check their answers!</p>
<p>Thanks FromMD!</p>
<p>crepes - any luck with the bird? (I haven’t heard back from my bird friend. I think she is traveling for work)</p>
<p>Thanks FromMD. D. needs that.
@IJD and 3girls, I know what you’re talking about - gossip. even the teachers could get involved. That’s bad.
@mihcal, I love your definition - "bright, but a homework optional " It makes me laugh. One of my friends has a son just like yours. </p>
<p>Good luck to all the SAT takers tomorrow!</p>
<p>OK, I have a random question. Does anyone know how I could go about computing my D’s unweighted GPA? The school only reports weighted GPA. Additionally, the unweighted scale goes up to 4.3. So 4.3 for A+ (97-100), 4.0 for 94-96, 3.67 for 90-93, etc. It’s hard to figure out unweighted with this scale. Also, I wouldn’t know whether to include gym, choir, art, etc. (And Art is a hard class!) Thoughts?</p>
<p>And I echo the well wishes for the SAT takers tomorrow!</p>
<p>I would go to the registrar’s or college counselor’s office and ask to see an unweighted and a weighted GPA. Thanks for mentioning this. I just realized that I have no idea how the GPA looks weighted. I’ve never seen an actual transcript, just the grades on the report card.</p>
<p>Same here–and I’ll probably send good luck wishes a few more times before tomorrow comes.</p>
<p>{(4.0 x #semester grades of A+, A, A-)+(3.0 x #semester grades of B+,B,B-)+…}/Total number of semester grades. </p>
<p>That is assuming all semester classes are worth an equal amount of credit. If you have some classes meeting less often for less credit the calculation has to use #credits as a weight instead of #semester grades</p>
<p>Some schools will recalculate the GPA removing gym and other classes, but that varies from school to school so you have to check . At my D’s school they count fine arts but other schools may not, or may only count AP fine arts.</p>
<p>You all move fast here.
Good luck to all SAT test takers tomorrow (and all parents tonight).</p>
<p>Suzy100, I know in D’s high school, the unweighted GPA is on the unofficial transcript. One mom found out when she asked for the unofficial transcript.</p>
<p>Good luck test takers!!!</p>
<p>I can see my D’s GPA (wt/uwt) from her Naviance account. Check there and see if you can find it.</p>
<p>Alas, my D’s school does not have Naviance. I did send a note to her GC - good suggestion. </p>
<p>celesteroberts, thank you for that formula, I’m about to try to figure it out. Luckily I think they are all the same amount of credit.</p>
<p>suzy you can use this calculator if you have all of her grades: [GPA</a> Calculator](<a href=“GPA Calculator”>GPA Calculator) - that one seems to do the A+=4.3 thing.</p>
<p>What classes to count depends on what the GPA is for. I’ve noticed scholarship/merit awards (like at Miami ;)) ask for the total and does not take out art or gym or anything else the HS gives credit and a grade for. These programs seem to also use weighted GPA.</p>
<p>Some colleges (Denison, for example) will recalculate the GPA with only “core” courses - Foreign Language, English, Social Studies, Math, Science and will remove the HS weighting and use their own.</p>
<p>The CA state Us have a formula that excludes freshman grades and does all kinds of specific weighting: <a href=“http://www.calculator.net/gpa-calculator.html[/url]”>GPA Calculator;