My son was deferred at his #1 school! He was absolutely devastated. The thing that makes it worse is that he is also a recruited athlete for that school. He has his #2 choice lined up. However, it will take a while to get over it if he does not get accepted to school #1 because it has been his dream for a long time. There was a note on the letter telling him to submit his semester grades. He has had an outstanding year academically so hopefully that will help. It will be so hard to be in limbo for another 3 months. Hopefully the busy holiday season will keep our minds off of it. Then Feb is a short month. He has worked so hard. I hope everything works out for himā¦
Sorry for sons disappointment @allboyz ! I do hope it all works out for him at this school.
Sorry to hear the news about your S @allboyz
@GoodGrief16 isnāt it hard when they are disappointed? I hope your D will not be, but if she is, I hope itās short-lived. I always try to be realistic with my kids and of course teach them that disappointments are part of life, but especially with this son and this college process, itās hard to see any disappointment after how hard he has worked for so long. Even though I know he will be fine and have good choices, for whatever reason, it hits me hard.
Fellow Homeschooler here. My S16 only stayed home for three years in elementary, but I am at it again with my two youngest, so it may be a while. We also kind of keep an open mind each year and try to do what is best for each kid. Thankfully, we have great private and public schools and a very big home school community.
I am sorry for those dealing with disappointments! As much as we know it can happen, itās no fun!!
@Cheeringsection could you please elaborate on the āIU snafuā regarding dates? Or any other parent of an IUB applicant who knows what this is about. I looked in the IU forum and didnāt see anything.
My D just got her SSA submitted last night. The postcard said we have until Jan 15 to get the LORās in. Any more you can share about what the disconnect is? Thanks so much.
@allboyz I am sorry to hear your sonās deferral. Hope his upward grade help him to get into his dream school.
I dislike deferrals and waitlists.
The student showed that they were really interested in the school by submitting their application early, waited 2 months for an answer and then are told they have to wait another 2 to 3 months, it is sort of unreasonable.
To me it feels like āWellā¦ I like you, sort of, but let me see if someone better comes along, if I donāt like anyone more, than I will date youā of āLose 10 pounds and then you will be good enoughā. I have spent 18 years teaching my girls that they shouldnāt accept that kind of behavior from a potential partner. The only place I think we as a society think it is ok is sports and fine arts (as an understudy).
I am sorry that some of our students are experiencing deferrals.
@allboyz that is so terrible that a recruited athlete is deferred! Has your son contacted the coach? The coach may have some sway. Has he submitted his first quarter grades yet? If not I would have his GC send his first quarter grades to the coach and the admissions department to see if he can get them to make a decision earlier. Does he have any other schools that are highly interested in him academically and or athletically? If so I would have him or (you even) kind of intimate that position to see if it would swing their opinion sooner. If its the academics giving them pause, since heās having an outstanding year that should give them peace of mind. If its his dream school I would try to use whatever leverage is available to tip their scales.
@allboyz I have only heard of this happening when the coach has used up all his admission āchitsā for athletes already or when the athlete is more interested in the school than the coach is in the athlete. Its a delicate dynamic but I would help my son use his excellent academic standings, etc., possible other schools interested and his many other attributes to see if they can be sway. It could not hurt to try to get them to decide sooner (if they are able to do so before the RD decision time)
Sorry about the deferral@allboyzāI hope the strong semester grades help. Being a recruited athlete seems really tough, trying to balance academic and social fit with the sport as well.
DD has two finals today, but it is all over news that entire school district is closed due to the unspecified threat.
@Ballerina016 prayers for everyones safety. I hope it all turns out to be nothing.
@Ballerina016 Ugh! I hope itās a case of extra precaution and nothing is really going on.
Just picked up D. She had 3 finals scheduled today ā¦
Thank you @CAMidwestMom and @Sophmore1 If it is a joke it is a big one. 640,000 students will stay home today.
I heard about the threats on the drive home after dropping S off at school in SF. Whatever the cause - and Iām leaning more towards some idiot kid who didnāt want to take finals than any sort of extremism - itās terrible. Thinking especially of low-income working parents who canāt get to their little kids, or who will really suffer from loss of wages to go get them. Iāve heard that theyāre requiring ID for pickup, and that may well leave a lot of kids stranded.
And of course, itās stressful for your kids who are stressed enough about finals, @Ballerina016, @Undercovermom1, and others there. Definitely not funny. 
Wow! I just received a breaking news update that said it was a credible terrorist threat.
āCredibleā in the context of law enforcement means ācannot be written off as a jokeā - but does NOT mean that thereās any specific reason to see it as from any specific group or people. Itās too early to speculate on that. Most of the recent acts of terrorism have come with NO prior threats whatsoever, which is why Iām pretty skeptical of this one.
Speculation without real information has the potential to generate a lot of fear and hostility. I have friends and coworkers who are dealing with that nearly constantly right now. Itās awful, all around.
@Ballerina016 That is so scaryā¦with all the (more normal) stress these kids are under this is the last thing they need to be worrying about. I hope you D (and you & your family) is ok and handling is as well as can be expected. These actions are getting so common place it is really quite disheartening to say the very least.