@Sophmore1
Perhaps your d can network and find a student in a neighboring school district with a different date for prom. My d had to do this last year because she had a dance competition out of state the same weekend as prom. She ended up going with a friend to their school district’s prom and had a blast.
OH the things ya’ll are teaching me…went down the reddit rabbithole,picked up some interesting info. Anything to avoid the FAFSA.
Thanks everyone! She is feeling better this evening and we will have to do something special a little later on.
@lvmjac1 this is an outside scholarship and they said it was mandatory to receiving the scholarship that she appear in person. I wish there was a way to have both, but at this time it doesn’t seem possible.
Congratulations to all with good news on scholarships and acceptances!
@lvmjac1 Congrats! <:-P
@MuggleMom @collegemom2boys, I could only imagine doing this again. I find something I have done wrong almost on a daily basis. What amazes me is how much everyone else seems to know.
@happymochi, sorry to hear about your dog’s passing. This is always sad. There are so many things that seem to be going on in our house that are telling W and I our kids childhood days are ending.
@Sophmore1, that’s too bad the days conflict.
@sseamom, S got “Most likely to succeed.” I remember when I used to work in a grocery store and my W had went to, and graduated with my assistant manager. At their 10 year reunion they had pictures up and as it turned out, the assistant manager had been voted “MLTS.” Not to be rude, but when I went back to work I told a coworker I found it surprising that he had earned that title and was only an assistant manager. My friend responded with (I will never forget this), “Being voted most likely to succeed puts a lot of pressure on someone because it is the only superlative that people are expected to live up to.” I wish S had gotten “Biggest brain.” Instead.
Congratulations to your S @Dragonflygarden.
Congratulations to your kids @lvmjac1 and @Cheeringsection.
Super Congrats to all receiving good news! @lagegg I can relate, I checked out reddit for the first time the other day…also in an attempt to avoid the dreaded FAFSA…Sunday is absolute D Day for FAFSA…no more procrastination.
@Sophmore1 I didn’t realize that attendance was mandatory for scholarship…that is very difficult and it is unfortunate that the days are the same, but as my D so aptly puts it…“college scholarship money vs high school prom…no contest…go for the money!” In fairness to her ease with this conflict if it was her in the situation…high school (academically or socially) was never her favorite place so it would be an excellent excuse for to combat the questions from her peers “What you are not going to Prom!!!”
DD got “Most Likely to succeed” too. She got her deferrals from her two EA schools two weeks later. Hopefully it will be a happy ending for this college race.
@Ballerina2016, My “Most likely to succeed” S got rejected from one of your “Most likely to succeed” D EA schools. Lol. Sounds like a bumper sticker
@Mysonsdad I don’t think from this school. She got deferred by Caltech and MIT. She applied RD to SCEA school you mentioned. Deferral from that school is an honor since they are known for rejecting most of the applicants. Caltech deferred 40% and MIT deferred 70% so their deferrals pretty much can be considered rejections.
Ohhh, well congratulations on your wonderful D “Most likely to succeed.” She is definitely a wonderful kid. Although S is hurt he didn’t get in, I kinda like that they don’t play games with the kids.
Congratulations and condolences as appropriate: I really do take notice but am too scattered this morning to keep up. There’s loud bickering over the last sausage biscuit coming from the next room, “honey we’re out of towels!” from the back bedroom, and meowing from the front porch. I *think *it’s S, D, Mr Petrichor, and the cat, respectively, but I’m not betting my life on it.
D isn’t the sort of kid who will ever be considered for superlatives, nor do I expect her to go to prom. I tried to talk her into attending a football game, but she wasn’t interested. She did actually buy a yearbook this year, though.
S, otoh, already has prom plans in mind, has arranged with a friend whose dad collects Very Nice Cars to chauffeur him and his date (friend graduated last year so he won’t be going), and has been perusing tux websites for a couple of months. (His girlfriend is already dress shopping.) Sometimes I’m not sure D and S are really related.
S didn’t get any superlatives (at their school one sort of needs to be on the yearbook or newspaper staff to rate, somehow, so most of the kids don’t pay attention). The kid who got listed as “most intellectual” has barely taken an AP class, and “cutest couple” has traditionally broken up by prom so it’s kind of the kiss of death. OTOH, we have unofficial word that S should start writing a graduation speech for Salutatorian, so he’s pretty happy.
I think a bit upstream someone mentioned that the sal speech should be light and the val’s is weightier? Or was it vice versa? I have no personal experience with this (having been a solid B student), nor does Mr. Petrichor.
@petrichor11, I don’t think there are any guidelines to the speeches. I have been to many, many graduations and never really noticed. I know I have mentioned it before, but both S and I will be speaking at his graduation, and we will be sitting together on the stage. It is really the last thing we will ever do together as members of the same school. I do tell my S when it comes to public speaking to remember what his grandmother (my mom) said before she passed away, “If you ever have to speak in public keep it short because no one wants to hear what you have to say anyway.”
Congrats to your children @lvmjac1 and @cheeringsection.
@petrichor11 While DS16 has always resembled your son, today he sounds more like your daughter. No prom for him and no senior superlatives for him. He likes to fly under the social radar.
Thanks all. No word here yet on senior superlatives. DS might actually prefer not to earn any. I was voted MLTS. I took it has encouragement to achieve my own definition of success, not that of everyone else.
DS goes to all school dances now but did not in past years. He just needed to find his crowd that are attending for the same reasons. He does not concern himself with everything that can surround such events. Your kids might surprise you yet!
I thought most of y’all would find this humorous . My husband joined the military right after HS and attended community college while in the Air Force so he hasn’t frame of reference regarding college life and dorms. DS16 has been invited to an Honors weekend in Feb where he is required to stay on campus overnight. DS16 was reading the blog about what to bring and the accommodations out loud on our way to dinner last night. He got to the part about bringing bedding , when I asked him if he was going to take his sleeping bag and pad with him. DH says " What’s he need his sleeping bag and pad for? " My son explained to him that he will probably be sleeping on the floor , my husband said" Surely not . They’ll put y’all in one of the extra dorms. What college would invite you to sleep on the floor?" When’s son and I told him “all of them” he looked at us like we had 4 heads. Clearly he’s been a little removed from the process.
The senior superlatives at D’s school are new each year-created by the seniors themselves. They’re not allowed any mean or snarky ones, and every senior has to get at least one. They can do that because it’s a small school. As for prom and dances, etc., D is on ASB so this year has had to go to all of the school events, whether she’s had a dates or not. And it’s been “not” all year. I think that the boys don’t know what to make of her, so they stay away, and the ones who HAVE dated her in the past just seem to immature for her. So for now she’s “single”. She is only 16, so that’s ok with me.
My dad was voted "best dressed, and yes, he did like his clothes. He was thrilled when he got a desk job later in life so that he could wear jackets and colorful ties instead of his pharmacy lab coat. I was voted “best writer”. I have always loved writing, and worked on a community paper when D was little, until, like so many others, it downsized. I did some freelance after that, until THOSE papers closed down. So now I just write to keep myself happy.
My D was really hoping to NOT win a senior superlative. She got “most likely to be President of US”–anyone who knows her AT ALL knows how unlikely that is. I think they just picked smart kids because the boy chosen is also smart, nonpolitical and shy. She was happy not to win “most likely to be studying on a Friday night” though.
I asked my son about senior superlatives and he looked at me like I had two heads. Even after I explained it to him he had no idea what I was taking about. I assume in his class of 900 he didn’t get one, or if he did he had no idea.