@eandesmom, D was accepted to the College of Arts and Sciences. Did your S apply to the Environment and Natural Sciences college?
Hang in there and be patient–your (S’s) time will come!
@curiositycat333 Wish we were in, but no, just submitted. 
@kt969 Ops Missread. Wishful thinking. Still good job, I’m going to be worried since he has only 1/5 apps submitted. (7 schools) And two must be in by the end of this month.
@RightCoaster that’s great on the business school!
@klinska yes, Environment and Natural Resources with the School of Arts and Sciences as his 2nd choice. I suspect, as much as anything, the fact that he is one of only 3 in the last 4 application cycles to apply (and the first one since 2014) combined with the fact that our HS doesn’t weight or rank makes the review a little bit less of a no brainer than for kids from schools with actual track records lol.
@curiositycat333 nice that the SAT issue in Naviance is finally fixed! He will get them done. Sounds like the Cal State ones are super close!
@snoozn yes, do you have any good bribes to suggest? At this point, I think it’s out of my hands… 
@eandesmom Oh, I go through that same thing, back and forth, are safeties really safeties?! I’m not sure I always hide it well but I certainly try! It will all work out just fine for all of us I’m sure, just a few more months, oh boy.
I don’t think he has a clue I worry abou the safety versus match thing. He certainly isn’t! Or he hides it uber well. He is very nonchalant about the whole thing. Which arguably is what stresses me out. LOL!
I admit. I pay for grades. I don’t give my kids an allowance and I only pay at the semester but it can be a nice chunk of change. I do a sliding scale, pay by letter grade (down to B- only) but then have GPA kickers. It does help my kids as we start to get into the dog days of the semester. Perhaps less so this year now that S17 is working but we will see.
I sort of bribe my kids to do well. I don’t have a set dollar amount but if they make the top tier of Honor Roll ( 4.3 or higher on no grade less than A- is the rule) I usually treat them to something they want, i.e. sports item, video game, host a sleepover with friends, etc. They get rewarded for doing well. It seems to work. Son17 almost always makes it, and son19 never misses. They just came home with report cards today and I need to fork over the prize again 
Ugh! Apparently she forgot to send SATs to 3 of her schools that had November 1st EA deadlines. I hope it won’t make a difference.
So I just paid a big bundle of money to CSU. You can’t deposit for housing there without paying for enrollment. To me it’s worth it if it makes attending her safety a more positive experience. Too bad they aren’t like Bama though – the way I understood it, sounds like you can deposit for housing without enrolling.
Nothing from UVM here. She applied to engineering. Oh well, mid-December will be here before we know it. Which means January 20 is coming as well. 
@curiositycat333, I’m with you on the dorms. At one school we went into a quad and D looked positively horrified. Even a regular double worries me. Good thing all those California kids have Thanksgiving break to finish their apps. Lots of motivation to at least get done before you feast.
@kt1969, three more apps – that’s a nice feeling! D has four to go, all RD.
@eandesmom, the political climate hasn’t really changed anything for D, but she already cut out most of the areas or colleges she’d find disagreeable. Rose-Hulman is the only conservative-ish school she’s looking at and I’ve heard some negatives on the surrounding area (for her, not necessarily for others). Maybe it’s gone from highly unlikely to extremely unlikely. She mostly applied because of their engineering rep, free app, and no essay, so not a big deal.
With D being admitted to her one safety, I mostly worry about targets being reaches and reaches being impossibilities. I think I’ll feel stupid if nowhere else becomes a realistic choice. With oldest D at CU-Boulder (after visits and research all over) and if D17 is at CSU, I feel like I’ll want to tell S18, “Not doing this again. Apply to whatever in-state publics you wish.” I won’t say that, but I may want to!
@Fishnlines29, ice cream is my go-to bribe, but probably not big enough for forced essay-writing! My oldest D was soooo late with all her apps. I seem to remember about a month of complete misery when she sometimes had to write multiple essays on the day they were due. :-t
Yep, glad I can cheer you up!
(But she did it, got admitted to several great schools and went to college!)
@eandesmom I’m on the same roller coaster as you! It’s even worse now that others are getting acceptances to schools and he is still working on applications.
Bribes for good grades? I try to make it a point to recognize his hard work somehow but it’s more a reward than a bribe. First quarter grades came out last week and I need to step up because he did well.
@“Queen’s Mom” that’s a tough one!! It will depend on the school’s policy. Some require all materials before the deadline, others are more flexible and allow things to trickle in up until a certain point. The College Board will do rush scores for a fee, but be sure the school accepts them. For example, UMass Amherst doesn’t (or at least they didn’t 2 years ago when I didn’t leave enough time). So sorry!
I sent them without the rush. In the worst case, it turns into an RD app.
**Bribes for grades. ** I haven’t done that, partly because for my kids it’s hard to find things that really work as bribes. My older D has LD’s and as a young kid has a host of other health issues. I found bribing never worked & it was better to figure out what was really going on. Getting her an IEP, and eventually figuring out and getting D17 a 504 worked much better than nagging or bribes. Started when she wasn’t even close to walking or crawling at a year, friend/family kept suggesting that if I just made it worth her while.
My parents resorted to $$ with my older brother and thus to be fair they did that for me. They gave us cash $$ based on how many A’s or B’s we got. It did motivate me a bit… I guess it did end up helping. But for my kids I’ve not been very good about teaching them about $$, and S17 doesn’t really want for much so it doesn’t help much. I’ve been so worried that he HAVE a social life I don’t want to restrict that.
My bribe is if you get good grades I LEAVE YOU ALONE and don’t nag you. When you get bad grades, I start trying to help you. Ask if you want tutors, try to get you to analyze why the grades are bad. Drives S17 up a wall. He wants me to just leave him alone. For my D12 I just wanted her to try her hardest. For her working up to her potential was often getting C’s in a class.
I have never felt my kids weren’t doing the best they could in school, so no bribes for better grades. They do the work required.
We have another acceptance! Susquehanna, with a 28K/yr scholarship! Not sure D is seriously considering it–it’s not a school we’ve visited. But it’s nice to be shown the love!
@klinska congrats to your D! Awesome! Did she get any $$ from UVM? Forgot to ask.
Thanks, @kt1969. With UVM, there wasn’t anything in the email or on the portal. I imagine we will eventually get something via snail mail–hopefully there will be some info then. It won’t be feasible at full pay–the NPC gave us $15K, so I’m hoping that comes through!
I wouldn’t call it a bribe, nor do my kids take it that way. Some people pay for chores or provide an allowance, we do not. Their job is to get good grades and study, this simply rewards them for expected behaviour and it is an opportunity for them to earn extra money if they choose to. If it motivates them, great but it’s really up to them.
We definitely don’t provide them with everything they want (need and want being quite different) so for them it can be the opportunity to purchase a larger splurge item or an experience that we wouldn’t pay for on our own. One year S17 used some of it towards a church camp. We were already paying for another other summer experience and that $$ well was dry. Last year he used most of it towards a pricey concert ticket. My kids get pretty excited to think how they can reward themselves with the monies earned and I’d rather they felt that way and controlled it, versus me just paying for whatever they want.
@klinska congratulations!!!
I don’t think UVM sends out merit until much much later. I seem to recall reading Feb?
Just found this forum - I’m excited to read the posts and be able to ask questions! I have twin daughters and they are pretty much done with their applications. Both are A/B students, take 1 AP class per year. Both have good GPA’s (3.8 weighted) but neither have good test scores. They have applied at UNH, URI (those are their top), Assumption, Stonehill, University of Colorado Boulder and some of the MA state schools (including Amherst which I know is a big reach). They applied Early Action to all and now we wait.
Any idea when these schools will start sending decision letters? Thanks!