@srk2017 that’s outstanding! What an amazing result.
@SincererLove we have one like that, she’s doing summer session at her college. She was less self motivated in HS but did have daily workouts for soccer all season long. She still has that but now does more on her own. The rest of the kids…not so much!
@MotherOfDragons I feel your pain. I have one zero exercise kid which is pretty funny given that he is the one who just got the PE waiver. He did do 2 seasons of HS sports to get it, which is impressive enough knowing him. The other one runs but that’s it. One can’t it the 1st percentile on the growth chart and the other is maybe at the 2nd percentile.
We just had a similar scenario in our house with S19. No youth group for him tonight. Lots of banging going on as he does the recycling…that he was told to do yesterday and earlier this morning.
@itsgettingreal17 I have seen some non NMF/NMSF scholarships and programs that address a 5th year but at the moment it is all blending together.
Likely as none of the options really seem to fill our gap quite enough and its depressing lol.
D17 is going to her first ever HS party today. She is pretty non-social, but has gotten to know a few kids in a club she’s in and was invited to one girl’s graduation party. I’m really hoping it goes well!
@SincererLove I’d call D17 an exercisaholic. She does Brazilian Jiu-jitsu, Muay Thai and Crossfit throughout the year, going heavier in the summer. She’s the smallest person at her studio (even though there are a decent number of women), but that girl is strong!
D11 dances almost constantly but doesn’t do much other exercise. S18 has just gotten into general working out, but I think it’s more about looks than actually wanting to exercise. Just don’t ask how much I exercise…
@MotherOfDragons Oy, sorry you had to be the bad guy and your D missed Ren Faire with her group. Is it an on-going event that she’ll still be able to attend later (just without the group)? We already have our Ren Faire plans lined up. S18 is going to take his girlfriend of 2 months and she’s never been to one.
I’m an Oliver Sachs fan, but I agree with you about that enthusiastic yet detached style. He even used it when talking about his own experiences in his book Hallucinations. I can see where it would be off-putting when it is personal to you. May your next book be a happy one!
@jmek15 Funny – I went by the library to pick up Feed and sent D17 in to get it. By the time we got home I noticed she was about 10 pages into reading it. She just finished her last book and I’m in the middle of one, so she gets to read it first. I’ll let you know what we both think!
@2muchquan DS was at the HS graduation playing music too yesterday. This was his 4th year at graduation playing music. The same song over and over and over and over… Now it is done. No more graduation music as the next year is his own.
@Mom2aphysicsgeek DD is doing study abroad for intensive Chinese in Harbin in the fall. I can’t remember if you qualify for FA or not, but at Cornell, the FA package can be applied to study abroad costs, including plane tickets. I’m so grateful for that policy.
@MotherOfDragons said “I think whatever the opposite of exerciso-holic is, is my kids. They both got my metabolism, though, so they’re just tall and skinny with no endurance.”
I think you just described my S, although his metabolism is from his dad. He is tall, skinny, and exercise adverse. He did go to a golf lesson and then play some homes after with H, but the golf was then an excuse to not go to a tae kwon do black belt class tonight!
@motherofdragons Somehow I missed your post about the ren fair. So sorry you had to do that, but kudos to you for standing firm! 100% respect for you making that decision.
@mdcmom Glad to here Cornell has that policy. It is awesome that you can use FA to buy plane tickets. We do qualify for some FA at most elites, but the cost is still pretty prohibitive bc we cannot afford our familial contribution.
@MotherOfDragons – Hope your D is getting better perspective & I too applaud your doing what you needed to. I wish too my kids were better managers of time and more motivated to get their work done. Ongoing challenge here! .
Thanks guys She actually sat down and really worked on her study packet for the first time-discovered some math stuff she didn’t understand, and she’s going to get help from her teacher today.
She worked SO hard without complaint all day that H and I took her down to the ren rest for the last two hours of the day to meet up with her group. They’d been there since 10, we got there at 4 and she got to do the meeting with the director of the festival (the director of her improv group was there and he’s friends with the ren director). We were ok with her getting to do this since it’s more than just goofing off with her friends all day (which she didn’t get to do).
The group learned a lot about what it takes to be a performer there, and what interested D18 more was what it took to organize and run a festival-lots of moving parts. It was a cool peek behind the scenes.
Meanwhile, I tried mead (fermented honey) for the first time and it was pretty good! When in Rome…
We were talking a few pages back about sites that listed current event info. I know my D could use a dose of the real world. Well, I was talking to dad of a grad yesterday at a graduation party, and he told me about his son’s interview for a fellowship at his new school. He said he spent a lot of time prepping his son for the interview. The first question asked? What is your opinion about the Syrian conflict?
@2muchquan what was the fellowship for? Very interesting, did the dad say how the son did? S17 is a BBC news junkie for his primary source of info but the rest of it is all over the board.
S has his hours of playing pomp and circumstance for hours coming up in a few weeks. It will be his last time doing it before his own but S19’s first.
@MotherOfDragons that is great that the buckled down, realized she perhaps wasn’t as on top of it as thought and still managed to get a bit of her festival in. Sounds like a win win all around. There isn’t a Ren Fest near here until some weekends in August, but I would love to go to one again, used to quite a bit when I lived in the Midwest. S17 doesn’t remember but he went too. It isn’t all that close but still, could be fun. I’ve never tried mead, didn’t realize it was fermented honey. Interesting.
I let S17 go to a band rehearsal last night instead of doing his precalc. He was invited to guest perform with a local band that is doing a recording session with some grammy winning producer (no clue who mind you) that the band leader is somehow affiliated with though the UW. He will get a copy of it and it was only 2 nights so why not. Hopefully that wasn’t a bad call on my part as the rest of his day was eaten up with the last day of the HS musical. My kids have late starts 3 days this week while the sophomore class does the stupid state testing. Which is fine but it really does annoy me that 1/4 of the school has testing (plus a few outliers who need to pass things for graduation) but the remaining 3/4 either have to go early, OR find their own rides to school.
@2muchquan Wow! Interesting bc that is not a question they can hedge the answer to wo it proving that they are clueless. Do you know what the interview was for?
@Mom2aphysicsgeek@eandesmom Sorry, I am not sure what the fellowship was for. He made it sound like it ‘sounded more important’ than it was (he did air-quotes for the work “fellowship”). He is going to a small, really small, all boys LAC. I suspect it was related to a small scholarship there. I will ask next time I see him (it was D’s boyfriends’s dad). He was just so exasperated that he prepped his son for hours on the interview, and did not think about this type of question. I think his S still got the fellowship in the end…LOL.
And, since this actually happened to her BF, I think I can make a better case to my D that she needs to keep up with what’s happening in the world so she’ll be prepared for anything.
@2muchquan I am saving your story for this summer when we start talking about admissions/scholarship interviews. At this point, I think I’d get the “OK mom” without it really sinking in, but when we can put it in context of desired $$, maybe it will have more effect. Thanks for sharing that!
@MotherofDragons That’s great you got to reward your D after she buckled down. A good outcome for everyone.
@MotherOfDragons What a great outcome! Mead and all You do breathe fire ^:)^
I need to stop being a Casper mom and put a white cloth over me or something >:P
Finals week here. School is almost over. And S will be a senior. :-&
@srk2017 Congrats to your son! What an amazing accomplishment and I’m sure it was a great experience.
I’m kind of envious of those of you who have college lists of 15-19 schools. My D is still pretty ambivalent about the whole prospect, and it’s hard to get her to talk about it. I hate to feel like I’m bugging her, you know? But I know the time is going to go by in a flash, especially with both of us working a ton over the summer (May-September is our prime time, business wise.)
Those of you with extensive lists, are your kids actually excited about the idea of college? Or were the lists obtained with some kicking and screaming?
Good to be back home after trip to Wisconsin (esp after engine stopped working while plane was taxing to runway) Delta Airlines has some strange methodology to assign seats. Both ways everyone in the team who flew Delta got only middle seats (so all 3 of us are in 3 different rows). My S declared that he doesn’t want to fly Delta again. For Science Bowl, he did flew Delta and got adjacent seats, but looks like they paid higher fare to get better seats. We paid $475 from NorCal to Minneapolis to get middle seats! Imagine kids going out of state for college esp 2 or 3 time zones away!
That reality is starting to sink in for me. So far, we are encouraging DD to not worry about distance from home when she put together her college list, After traveling to visit some schools, I started to appreciate the reality of traveling between home and college! It will be one of many considerations.
@srk2017, my older D’s tickets cost ~$700 RT because she flies from a small airport to a small airport and it takes 7 hrs and 3 planes!
@thermom, S had about 6 colleges and is engaged in the process but not “driving the bus” as we have discussed before. He does not want to go to the state flagship (local U), so he has to be somewhat involved. If your D is ambivalent and you have a good state or local U, then tell her that she will go there by default if she isn’t interested in looking further. That kind of got S moving.
She actually sat down and really worked on her study packet for the first time-discovered some math stuff she didn’t understand, and she’s going to get help from her teacher today.